184 – How to Heal Your Trauma with Mia Hewett

Karen Yankovich 0:00
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Karen Yankovich 0:23
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Mia Hewett 2:52
Oh, thank you so much for having me. It’s so much fun.

Karen Yankovich 2:56
Yeah, yeah. So you know, here on good girls get rich, the whole idea of good girls behind good girls get riches. If you do what you’re good at, if you are staying in the space of what lights you up what you’re good at what you love doing, that’s where you bring abundance into your life, right? And that, but a big part of that is also owning that, right? Owning that you’re good at this owning that you can build a life around us. And, you know, one of the you know, I talked to a lot of women. And a lot of times what I hear is like Is that all there is I just this is it, this is what I can do. I’m good at this, it pays the bills, I’m cool. But they really want more. So men for more is such, it’s such a great, first of all, is a great title. And it’s such a great it was such a great book. And it was so it was interesting in a lot of different ways. But what does your bio not telling you about you that we should all know before we jump into this conversation?

Mia Hewett 3:48
Oh my gosh, that I grew up poor. That when my dog died when I was about 13 years old, our house was so infested with fleas, they, they literally suck the blood out of them. And I remember making a decision that day, that I don’t know what this is, like, I don’t know how to become successful. I don’t know what money is. But I’m going to figure this out. And I’m going to give it to the world. And that really is I like really the catalyst behind all of this. Right? Yeah, I love what you say like good girls, you know, it’s like I as a kid, I was always the kid that was like, Well, why if we’re good people, why do we have no money? Right? Like my whole life. I was told like, if you’re just a good girl, then you get things right. But then we had no money and it was like, Well, why is that and why do you say like those people were their money. But why? Why are you saying that? You know, like I just I always was a white person. I wanted to understand why. Just tell me why. So that it all makes sense so that I can then do it.

Karen Yankovich 4:53
So So Okay, so tell us a little bit about that journey then so you were a kid when that happened. So so when you decided that That was going to be different for you and that you were gonna have a different kind of life and you’re going to have a life that money was never going to get in the way of, of the people that you love doing whatever you do for the people that you love, right? What did you do?

Mia Hewett 5:12
Well, the first thing I did was, and the thing that I felt was the safest. So I on i co owned an insurance company have built a multimillion dollar insurance company with my ex husband now. But at the time, he was my husband. And we built that for 24 years. So I did the safest thing that I could think of like, what does does everybody need that they have to pay for?

Karen Yankovich 5:36
Well, first of all, that’s brilliant. Just said, you were like, what did they eat? And what do they have to pay for whether they have the money or not? Right? That’s brilliant. I love

Mia Hewett 5:44
Yeah, because back then I was such in survival mode. Like I didn’t understand everything that I understand now. Right? So I was completely just knew that I didn’t want to be broke. And I just didn’t want to be poor. And so I just did what I thought I needed to do, but not what I really love to do. And so then going through this, what happened was, you know, my husband, we don’t have any drama or anything like that we just grew apart. And he lived in another state. He wanted to be up in the mountains. And so he just ended up living in another state. And we just became like, more friends than we were a married couple. So we ended up splitting and when in splitting what we you know, I was like, Well, I, you know, everybody had been asking me, how did you do this? How did you grow this company so successful? Like, how are you making so many millions, with so few people. And so I started coaching people on how to do that in insurance. And everybody used to say to me, you know, you should have been a coach, you should have been a coach, and I didn’t even know what a coach was back then. And so that’s how my journey began, was really inside of just wanting to do in my second life. You know, after doing that with my first life, you know, inside of that, my second half of my life, I just wanted to only do what I love.

Karen Yankovich 6:59
Oh, my gosh, I love that. Well, and I just want to give you credit to because just because people need insurance doesn’t mean they have to buy it from you. Yeah, obviously, to be to build a really successful business like that, a little bit more had to happen than just, we did it because people needed it, right. It’s not like if you build, there’s a lot of things that have to actually so kudos to you for for finding a way to make that successful, and doing what you needed to do to do that. But, you know, it’s interesting, because I had a similar a similar journey, but same kind of next chapter kind of thing. And, and, and the same kind of, I’m never gonna let money get in the way of me not being able to do what I need to do for somebody I love ever again, always a lot older than you were though. So I would I you know, and I mean, I don’t live with regrets at all. But you know, it would have been nice to have learned it a little bit sooner than I learned it. But but it really is the defining it’s a defining moment, right. When you’re just like, What the heck, you know, it’s money. It’s just paper. Why is it in the way of these important things? Yeah, right.

Mia Hewett 7:57
Absolutely. Absolutely. I couldn’t, you know, couldn’t agree more.

Karen Yankovich 8:01
Yeah. So you created a journey then from insurance company owner, to coach How did that look?

Mia Hewett 8:08
Yeah. Because I was the person that was always behind the scenes making shit happen. Like I was the one getting it done kind of thing inside of that. So I was like the behind the scenes. And so I was not the person whose face was like out in front. And so inside of this journey of like, trying to really be seen, I was constantly sabotaging. And so I couldn’t figure out how can I grow this multimillion dollar company, and know how to make it happen, like I understood it logically. But Emotionally, I couldn’t really get myself to be there. I couldn’t put myself out there. I wasn’t really doing the necessary things. And so I went and spent a half a million almost about a half a million on my own coaching. I’ve worked with the best and the best.

Karen Yankovich 8:56
I was such an important to such an important lesson. I hope you’re listening to that. She invested What else could what could you possibly invest in? That’s better than your own? Learn your own self and your own education?

Mia Hewett 9:08
Oh, that nothing? Yes, I did. I, I, I have done it all. And I was looking for the answer to why I felt completely divided inside. Like I understood it logically, but emotionally I couldn’t get there. And i i No matter what I did whatever I tried that I would keep bumping up against you know, like, just don’t think that way. Just reframe it. Like we think differently. And I’m like, Yeah, but I don’t feel that way. Like I still feel like this. And so long story short, it took someone saying to me, a very, very famous bestselling author to say to me, Nia, you just need to go in your room and lock the door and not come out until you figure this out. I wasn’t like this is where my the, you know, like the ghetto side of me. He comes out and I don’t like it, you know, because I paid him ready.

Karen Yankovich 10:04
How much should I pay you to lock myself in a room? Right?

Mia Hewett 10:07
Yes, $50,000. And so that was an ouch. Because you know, you don’t ever forget being poor even when you’re wealthy, it doesn’t mean you forget the value of $1. And so I was just like, what? And I was pissed. And I was on it. And I was mad. And it took me about a week it took me out, right. And then it became my next defining moment. I remember thinking back then, I don’t know what this is, but I am going on, I am determined, I am going to figure this out, I’m going to learn what is really stopping because I cannot be the only I’m not that special. Like, it can’t be just me, I can’t be the only person who struggles emotionally. So then I literally became obsessed 24/7 24/7. And I literally dove into uncovering this and going deeper and deeper. And I literally came up with the exactly why every single person struggles.

Karen Yankovich 11:09
Like us, so you don’t have to spend 24/7 doing

Mia Hewett 11:12
Yeah, exactly. Let me tell you at all. So that here’s the here is the shortcut to it all. The truth is that when we were born, I want you to you all to feel this. We were all born whole, perfect and complete. Like not one baby is ever born with a self esteem issue. We think the whole world is for us, like everything is for us. And then something happened. Something happened that shocked you confused? You blindsided you and you were very, very young. It’s very young, like most oftentimes we see it around like a year to 18 months old, two years old, somewhere around there, maybe three, but really young, something happened. Because as we grow as children, we grow by an emotional bond of trust. And when that trust gets broken, we experience an immense shame. And those emotions that you were feeling when this happened, you didn’t know how to process what you were feeling. So you internalize those emotions to mean there was must be something wrong with you. So without knowing how to process how to, you know, the internal enjoyment, internalizing these emotions, you took them on as an identity, who you think you are, which left you always feeling alone, abandoned, separate, like no one gets you. This is how we describe how one loses their authentic self, as it ceases to exist, psychologically, it never truly ceases to exist, but it does psychologically. And then we all went into our heads, trying to figure it out as a way to try to stay safe. Does that make sense?

Karen Yankovich 12:59
It doesn’t make sense. It does make sense? It totally resonates as well. So. Okay. And I I’m sure that you that’s listening can think of a moment or more than one moment in your life that, that that resonates with right. So if that’s true, and I’m, you know, I have no doubt that it is. So if that’s true, then what like what do you, you know, how do you make that? How do you get that moment and truly put it in the past and not live from that place anymore?

Mia Hewett 13:29
Absolutely. Is a great question. It literally is a recipe, like anything that is successful, requires a recipe. And so like if we, if we were going to bake a cake, and you would never bake the cake before, it’s not an a chocolate cake, it’s not enough to know that you need chocolate, to get a chocolate cake like awareness is not enough to get the result. So that’s the first piece that I have to give people like there is a recipe in every everything that’s successful, there’s a recipe. So you have to first understand the whole recipe, you have to then understand the key ingredients. And you can’t skip an ingredient. Like you just like in a cake. You cannot forget the sugar or I’m sorry, it is not going to taste like a job

Karen Yankovich 14:18
Not only that you can’t add the sugar after the cake is baked. That is right order. So this is one thing, there’s a gradients and then there’s a reason that they all get added at a particular time.

Mia Hewett 14:29
Absolutely. That is such a key like really, really, really important. So the key is to the ingredient is we have to because what why it does, why I’m saying this is it takes us eight weeks. It takes us eight weeks to take anyone from where they are to where they want to be in the unwinding, or the under raveling of their unconscious mind about what the ingredients are just so that I’m giving a really consent so that everybody can get their mind around it. is in order to be, it’s not enough to know what it is. No, like, you know, a lot of people come to me like, but I, you know, like, I know this, I know this, that’s the logical part. But the real results come from the being, not the knowing. So in order to be what you know, in order to live what you want, you have to first number one, you have to become aware that you have the wrong problem.

Karen Yankovich 15:31
So tell us about that.

Mia Hewett 15:33
Yeah, no one ever comes with the right problem. So the for me, and you know that you can see it in your business. Nobody ever has the right problem. And it’s not that it’s not, that’s not a judgment, if you had the right problem, you would have already resolved it. Right. And so the key the key to understanding that is, is this, when we ask if I were to ask somebody, you know, what are your limiting beliefs? They would normally say 99% would say, why don’t think I have any, or I don’t know. And this is because we don’t actually experience a limiting belief. As a limiting belief. We experience a limiting beliefs as that’s just the who I am. We have them as facts, right? And so what happens is they hide in our blind spots, so we don’t actually see it. That is why because it’s in a blind spot. So the truth is, inside of what I’m doing, where it really is, like we’re what stopping people is, they will have the wrong problem. They’ll have the symptom. What the real core reason why anyone is self sabotaging is it’s all coming from their original trauma, their original trauma then creates the perception of how they view the world, how they view themselves, and how they view others. And that which creates a perspective, which then creates their beliefs, which then creates their actions or behaviors or non actions, which then creates the results. Make sense?

Karen Yankovich 17:08
It does, it does? Yeah, yeah.

Mia Hewett 17:10
Yeah. So the first. So the first step is always we have to the first step is awareness. But we have to have awareness about what is the real core issue. And so not, we always have to, everybody always has the wrong the wrong problem, we have to find the right problem. So the first step is awareness. The second ingredient is understanding, we’re gonna have to gain understanding, because when we’ve been running the same patterns, and they’ve been a blind spot for so long, the second thing we have to do is be able to clear the misconceptions and misunderstandings that have been in the way of that blind spot. Then the third thing that we need to do is actually then from seeing it now when we separate the truth from the lies, and we can really see what is really happening. Now we must apply the truth. So right then until that point, we don’t really, we still haven’t actually gained anything until we actually apply and implement the truth. Once we implement the truth, then what happens, those new behaviors, those new actions from alignment will create new experiences, and our new experiences will create our new results. So another way to hear that is, it’s only in you having new experiences, that you really have true knowledge.

Karen Yankovich 18:35
You know what I so understand that, I so understand that and that is something that is easy to hear, but not easy to really know that you’ve really heard it is that maybe it doesn’t make sense, but we don’t hear it and think you know, you think you understand it until you realize you didn’t understand it, because something happens that makes you feel differently. And then you’re like, Oh, right. That’s what that feels like.

Mia Hewett 19:01
That’s exactly right, because it’s in a blind spot. Now how you can find your blind spots is nobody’s gonna like this. Brace yourself for how you find your blind spots is everything that’s triggering, you know, does it

Karen Yankovich 19:19
do all the stuff you hate? Right? Right? What? Tell us a little bit about that. What does that mean?

Mia Hewett 19:25
Because everywhere you’re being triggered, wherever you’re being triggered in life, is where you have the wrong problem is where you have the misunderstanding and misconception is where you need to apply the truth is where you need to take consistent new actions and behaviors is where you need to have new experiences so that you will have new true knowledge so that you will actually have the results, but nobody wants to hear that.

Karen Yankovich 19:52
It’s just a podcast it’s not video so you can’t see me like shaking my head like yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, I totally get that I didn’t Like, I’m thinking, like, I’m applying this to myself I, which is as you’re talking, I’m like, oh, god, she’s so right. I don’t want to do that. But yes, you’re right. You’re right. So how do you know if it triggers you? Okay, so you know it, you know it because it’s what triggers you? Yeah. Right. But how do you know what to do to change that reality of that trigger?

Mia Hewett 20:20
Yes. Well, the best the fastest way is to hire somebody who can support you you trust, yes, seeing and seeing what it is because the real REIT like and I say that with the most love, because I’ve been out there, I’ve spent a half a million dollars in my own. And oftentimes, the people you think that you’re hiring, can when they don’t really have the skills to help you, they can end up just shaming you, which is the very thing that causes the original trauma to begin with. So then you’re like, oh, my gosh, now I’m being shamed for my shame. But you know, it can feel like that. So why I say that is, you really want to find people you really, really trust that will support you in seeing your blind spots. And so, the key the reason why I am so successful in doing that is because I’m not in my own blind spot, like meaning, I’ve healed my core trauma. So when someone is feels threatened, feel scared, feels whatever they’re feeling, I don’t feel attacked. So because I’m not feeling attacked, I’m not going into my own blind spots, I can actually see what’s really happening to them, and not go into making it a meaning or a story or a belief about me. Right? Now, that really helps the person going through it, because it allows them to really feel the trigger me not make them wrong for it, and then help me be able to help them sort the misunderstanding once I’ve acknowledged them, because they really feel the way they feel. Don’t you hate it when you feel something, and you don’t feel heard? That you feel it? I hate that, like, this was just me. This is what I felt my what like my whole life, I felt like nobody understood me, nobody understood what I meant. Nobody could relate to it. Nobody ever, you know, and really, it’s just that I never really felt acknowledged or heard. And so, like being able to really feel self expressed, and then really be able to get dump it out. And then be able to now sort it, right, because having someone help you clear the misunderstandings and misconceptions that are in your way is really vital. So we can we can to really give your listeners something huge. We can I can give you some steps inside of like, the you know how to tie steps of overcoming the fear of judgment, like we can do these.

Karen Yankovich 22:49
I think that’s great, because I do think because I do think a lot of it does come down to feeling judged, you know, and it’s so funny because like, I truly, I truly in my heart of hearts, think that I don’t really give a crap what people think about me. But of course, that’s not true. Like, of course, there’s always parts of me that you care and you do things for. I mean, if I truly didn’t care about that, I would, you know, maybe I wouldn’t even shower, right. Like, we wouldn’t buy a new pair of shoes. Because, yes, care. Like you’d buy comfortable shoes, right? Because yes, who cares? Right? So you do so we do care? What people think. Yeah. And, and even though even when, you know, like, I try to tell myself that I don’t right. So so let’s talk about that. How to talk about how you can start to we’ll talk about I’m not gonna put any words in your mouth, tell me what you mean. Bye bye, that.

Mia Hewett 23:36
No, that’s perfect. I think you said it incredibly, like that’s exactly exactly what it’s like. What happens to us as entrepreneurs is when we fear other people’s opinions or judgments, we go into some type of protection mode, right? Either we want to remain hidden, unseen and visible, or I have some entrepreneurs who then they just go into criticizing or making someone else wrong. It’s all it’s not one way is not right. And one way is wrong. You really want that to be communicated. It doesn’t matter which way because all whether we go into attacking and blaming and anger, or whether we go into hiding, and you know, avoiding and not wanting to be seen, either way, it’s going to somehow have come from our parents, right the way they were modeling something. So it’s, it’s these are learned behaviors is what I’m saying. So I really want those people to feel heard about that. Because oftentimes, I know that we like to categorize those that hide as more as the good girls and the ones that don’t as the bad ones. And I really want to just kind of really have people feel it. It’s either way, it doesn’t really lead to an effective result. So what we what really needs to happen is, is we first have to become aware of the right problem. So the problem isn’t that they don’t want to be visible. The problem is that or they don’t want to attack and blame people. The problem is in every one of those situations is both of those people are most afraid of being seen as inadequate. Isn’t that good to know? Like to know, right? Like the person going into anger, and lashing out is just as afraid of being inadequate, not being good enough not being smart enough not being worthy enough not being capable enough not being loving enough not deserving enough, not enough. Right, which ultimately, both people whether we go into hiding, or that comes down to the fear of being rejected. And so the first thing that I would have everybody ask themselves is, when did you decide that you could be rejectable?

Karen Yankovich 25:51
Ooh, interesting.

Mia Hewett 25:54
Yeah, that would be my first thing that I would have you look at, because in my directive, personal and professional experience, this decision came from our original core trauma. That would be the first thing, the second step is make a decision then to face this fear lovingly. Right? I want you to consider that all fear is actually an illusion. Meaning there’s a big difference between when you’re in an imminent danger. And, and when you’re in fear. So when you’re in imminent danger, your brain will tell you, you need to do something like if somebody is putting a gun to your, you know, to your head or a knife to you that you need to do something to protect yourself. That’s very different than feeling fear. feeling fear is a false self appearing real it is just your ego, trying to protect yourself from the emotions that you don’t know how to process, have really feel that like, oh, so if somebody doesn’t have a gun to your head, I want you to check in and just realize, Oh, I’m not actually in danger right now. I’m just trying to find a way to protect myself because I don’t know how to process when I’m feeling. Yes. Yeah. Yes. All that’s happening. Isn’t I agree to No, it’s like, holy crap. I wish somebody would have told me this a lot. Right, right. Exactly. Yeah, no, I’m 54. So I feel the same way as you Oh, my gosh. Because when we decide to look lovingly at this fear and examine it, this is how we will begin to transcend it. So then the third step, what we want to do is now we want to understand the misconception or misunderstanding that’s in the way so that we gain the really valuable gift, we gain the understanding. So we want to break the pattern. In order to break that pattern, we can gain understanding, we want of being aware of the truth of why do we fear judgment? The truth is all judgment is a projection of something we don’t want to own within ourselves, meaning, if we judge others, and ourselves harshly, then what stops us from being wanting to be seen, is not wanting to feel more of those feelings of judgment that are happening inside of us.

Karen Yankovich 28:17
Does that make sense? It doesn’t make sense. It doesn’t make sense. Yeah.

Mia Hewett 28:23
And so then the the neck on the action step inside of that is check in with yourself. But who really determines if you’re enough? And when would you decide that you are

Karen Yankovich 28:36
Bring out all the pain points today. Okay, who really determines if you’re enough? That’s a really good one.

Mia Hewett 28:43
Yeah. Yeah. Right, we do. And then when would you decide that you are like, when would that happen? And so the fourth step is going to be now you want to apply that truth. Right, because when we apply the truth, the truth is what will set us free. So awareness is not enough to create a result. So it’s now it’s time to start to do something with this. So we want to actually apply it and to do that. You want to heal your core trauma. You want to live as your authentic self, in any circumstance, any situation with any type of person, no matter what personality they have. Right? And then learn to free your mind from the negative self talk so that you no longer judge yourself or others. And then inside of that you will have experiences of you literally living in your power being your true self. really loving yourself right the greatest form of true beauty is self acceptance. And then from these ingredients, you will feel secure confident in certain capable, being fully self expressed being you

Karen Yankovich 29:58
so going from that false Evidence Appearing Real to actually having evidence. Yeah. How this works? Okay. Yeah, yeah. Okay. You know, you say it and I know I’m sure I’m not the only one thinking this but you say it, you know, like things like, we just have to learn how to not have those, those negative thoughts in our heads. And I’m like, okay, yeah, like I just learned need to learn how to, you know, like jump off a cliff. But that’s why you need help from other people. Right. Like, that’s why, and I love the way you’re describing this. Because I think that, you know, we, especially women, we think we think we should know how to do this, we think we should be able to do this. And there’s no way it’s like, like they say, trying to read the label from inside the bottle. Right? Like, there’s no way that by ourselves, no way, you know, we’re so confident. Yeah, again, I’m making a lot of assumptions here. But we’re so confident, you know, so co signing student loans for our kids for $100,000. You know, what I mean, and not realizing that that 100 co signing a loan or signing a loan or taking out a loan? I mean, it doesn’t have to be a little bit. But But imagine like, your it’s acceptable it is, it’s acceptable in the world to take out $100,000 in student loans. Yet, if somebody says, I’m paying $25,000 for a coach, and I’m putting it on my credit card, you know, you get ostracized, like, how could you do that? You’re going into debt for this? Yeah, it’s, it is essential that we totally work on ourselves.

Mia Hewett 31:24
Absolutely. So I love what you’re pointing at in that, because I want to speak directly to that. So a couple things that like, I love what you’re saying there. The first one being that you’re absolutely right, because that would be the equivalent of, you know, a heart surgeon doing his own heart surgery, right? Because because the heart surgeon can’t stay the patient and the practitioner at the same moment in time, right. So to really have somebody support you, you have to stay the patient. You can’t, you can’t pop keep coming back out in cycle analyzing yourself, you can, you can do the process with weirdo. Like, that’s why we give you an aligned intelligence method. So you can learn the skill sets yourself so that you don’t need us. But you need us first and then just like you’re saying for you, like somebody needs you first in the beginning, until they have it, and then they don’t need you. The second thing that I love that you’re pointing at here, is that how, like Maine’s how it’s societal belief that everybody you know, it’s okay to spend a fortune in a college education, in the hopes that you will get a job.

Karen Yankovich 32:34
It doesn’t even guarantee it probably won’t even be doing.

Mia Hewett 32:38
It doesn’t even guarantee a job. It’s just they don’t teach entrepreneurship. Like my son who has a Master’s, a master’s in business. It’s like, they don’t teach this in, you know, business school. It’s like, yeah, of course not. Because and I want you to consider if they were teaching it and making millions, why would they be there doing it? Like, I just want you to consider that college cheating. Yeah, college is a big business. Yeah, they make a lot of money off of kids who don’t know what they want to do in their lives.

Karen Yankovich 33:11
Right. Right. So parents who feel out feel that that’s their duty to their kids to help, you know, to go into, you know, it’s seeing a serious amount of debt to get this college education. And I again, I know, I sound like I’m making judgments. I’m not I’m not a college education is for you, and you want to go into debt, do it, do it. I mean, and just make it work. Right. But don’t but understand that that’s not the only way.

Mia Hewett 33:33
Absolutely move forward on your path. Right? Absolutely. Like I really in likewise, right, like my daughter is in med school. The truth is, if she wants to be a surgeon, she has to go to med school. Right? So that is not something I would ever tell her not to go to med school in order to achieve, but that you are right, like what I often say that every single person who comes to me they’ll say, Well, I just don’t if when they they say I just don’t know what I meant to do in the world. And I always say the same thing. We’re not going to know it until after we heal your trauma in the eight weeks, we have to heal your trauma. The reason is, is because the trauma filter will prevent you from seeing it. So there was I’ll tell you a quick story because this is like so good. So that this just happened inside of this. So there was a a woman who came into my court and my front end. And originally when she came to me she was an immigration attorney. And she said I want to win I want to like heal this so that I can become a motivational speaker. I’m like awesome. I have no idea what is going to come out of it like this is the most amazing thing because once you heal it, the most amazing things open up for people so so yeah, within eight weeks, we heal her trauma and she comes out and she’s like, I want to be a motivational speaker. I am going to be a p i attorney and I’m like what? Amazingly this is awesome. Like you know like this is how because God related to her trauma, like..

Karen Yankovich 35:02
I don’t know what PI is.

Mia Hewett 35:03
Personal injury. I’m sorry.

Karen Yankovich 35:05
okay, because I was like I was I finally I was sitting there going tip I was doing the same thing.

Mia Hewett 35:11
Totally, totally. No, I love that you asked me. So like she was like, no, no, based on what her trauma was she shifted to PEI. Now guess what she just sent me last night, the email because she went into our year long program. We taught her how to then live this even more further in her business. This was her her literally her email that she for her message in Facebook that she just pinged me. She’s like, Mia, I want to tell you, I just settled a $15 million case, doing personal injury. You guys, I told you, I told you I want to do PCI. After my breakthrough, I said I was gonna make do a $10 million case, and I just did a 15 million. You guys are awesome. This changed my whole world that just happened

Karen Yankovich 35:58
isn’t how I get on. I totally get it. I love it. I totally get it. Cuz here’s the thing. Like, if you were looking at, you know, Derek Jeter or some sports athlete, somebody was arrogant enough to say, I am going to be the best baseball player ever. And I don’t need a coach, I could do it by myself. You feel like that guy’s crazy, right? That person’s crazy. There is nobody, there is nobody, there’s no professional athlete that can reach those kinds of levels without having a coach. And you know, I come from the corporate world, I was like, I don’t need a coach, I don’t even know what a coach was, you know, just give me a book or just give me a course I’ll do it. But the reality is, if that worked, we would you know, self help books wouldn’t be the billion dollar industry that it is right? We would buy one book and we’d be cured. Right? We wouldn’t need all of that. So, you know, the reality is, we’ve just got to shift our minds a little bit. Because what sounds I don’t even want to say that it sounds like a lot of money. But if it sounds like a lot of money to you, and we’re saying, you know, half a million dollars in coaching or $50,000 coaching program, you know, it would it means, like, think about what’s on the other side of that, like, what’s on the other side of that is $15 million, you know, pie cases, right? That you’re winning, right? That’s what’s on the other side of it. So it’s really about having the confidence in yourself, to invest in yourself and invest in your dreams. And I feel like we might have interrupted your steps to overcome the fear of judgment. Was there more than

Mia Hewett 37:23
Perfect. Yeah, for I would definitely, you know, for to actually live it. Yeah. And when we learn these skills, when we learn to process how to process our emotions, like what we do in the eight weeks for us, because what we have found is vital. These are the all the things that I wish somebody would have done for me, is exactly what the recipe is inside of what we do. So the first is you know how to heal your trauma, if we don’t heal our core trauma, that emotion that runs in the background of your mind. 24/7 that is constantly leaving you feeling confused, doubting yourself overthinking everything, right, it’s exhausting, it’s exhausting. So we have to heal that so that it frees ourselves, there’s nothing energetically in the way, then the next thing is we have to know how to really process our emotions. We’ve never been taught that. Like nobody ever said to me, here’s how to process your emotions, like the way in my family, it was either my mom would get really angry. And again, I don’t have any judgment, because they’re doing the best they know how from their own parents. But my mother would get either really angry and just shut down and stop talking to us. Or my father would reach for the belt. So we either got the belt, or we got the silent treatment. So you know, like, who has these skills? Right of like, how do you process your emotions, but there really is ways that you process your emotions. And we could go on and on and teach you that inside of this as well.

Karen Yankovich 38:52
I know. Here’s gonna get to want to get to as your book. So then surely it brought you to wanting to put this book out and your book, there’s so many interesting things about your book, but tell me what made you want to create the write the book and tell me what you know what you hope that people? You know, get out of the book.

Mia Hewett 39:08
Thank you. Well, I mean, and I would love your you know, because I’ve been in it. I’m inside the glass on this one you would have like, you just read it, what we what would you say is like the greatest thing that people could get out of the book. What was the greatest thing for you

Karen Yankovich 39:23
No, I think there was a lot in it. There was a lot in it. It really was what was really interesting to me about the book is the perspective you wrote it from. So the book was written and as a perspective of like a student, right, or a client

Mia Hewett 39:36
was actually me. So he

Karen Yankovich 39:40
was trying to figure that out. Because it was really interesting how I because it took me a little while I was like what am I reading here?

Mia Hewett 39:49
I totally get it. And I and I now that I understand that that wasn’t clear because there’s a little blurb that people miss and I totally get that. This is what we’re cleaning up inside of the you know, revised This one piece, because I didn’t want the the reader to constantly be going like little Mia said too big Mia, big me, I said a little Mia, like it would be annoying. So I changed my younger self to call her Sue, just so that it wouldn’t be so annoying. But that is the book I wrote was the book that I wish somebody would have given me. I wanted to write a book that would give people an experience, that it wouldn’t just be a book of concept, because the truth is content. When somebody gives you content, it’s useless. If you don’t know how it applies under a context. Well, yeah, but how do I do that when this happens? But yeah, what do I do when this happens? So what I did is I wrote it in a story from which it is a true story, the whole thing is true. Everything that I share about what happened to Sue is my trauma is what happened to me. And then I’m being who I am in the two days of my life as my higher self, then coaching my younger self, on how to come back into wholeness within myself, such that I could live in oneness, and no longer feel the divide.

Karen Yankovich 41:10
But and that’s what I that’s what I think was most interesting, though, about the book was that interplay, whether it is, you know, I mean, obviously, it is when you’re young, and it makes it I’m gonna have to go back and look at it now. But I was like, I’m not quite I should have asked you before we got on your dress. Okay. I wasn’t quite sure. You know, where, where we were going with it. But it was really interesting. Because it because what it does is it allows me and the reader to put themselves in the, in the shoes of sue your younger self. Yeah, right working with me, as opposed to just a book where me is teaching us and talking to afraid, it is still that book. But instead of it it’s doing it’s done in a practical hands on, like questions that I might have that Sue had, right, and then how Mia would respond to it. Right. So it was really cool the way you did it. And I think it was really impactful. And I think, you know, again, at the end of the day, the name of the book is meant for more. And I you know, here’s here’s the thing, I mean, I you know, as we’re recording this, it’s November 2021. And so many women and men are looking at what the next chapter in their life is, are they going back to the office? Are they going back to this? Are they going? And, you know, we’re hearing about things like the great resignation, the great reassignment, people are starting to think, yeah, more like it’s it was we were in a place where we were just doing the day, right, this is what comes a comes up, you know, B comes after a, you know, and this is what we do. And we do it. Now we’re in a place where we’re, I don’t know that we were given choices, but we somehow feel more like we have choices in what our next chapter is. And I think that it’s important that we understand that it can be at a level that maybe we didn’t realize, two years ago or five years ago that it could be at. I told so that we’re never in that situation of not having the cash. Yeah, and that important moment in our life.

Mia Hewett 43:02
Absolutely. Absolutely. I think that’s so very important. You know, I know that in the future, I have plans on on not only writing a business book, because this is in the being but then the next book is in the doing. And then my final like I know, I would like to write a final book on really well, because because now that I’ve come full circle, and it’s not just about making money, so I have wealth as kind of like a trinity of like of, you know, family, the three apps right of like family, which is relationships, right? How to be like, do what you teach, how to be successful in relationships, and sort of that, but family Fitness, Health, right? Who cares if you make a lot of money if you don’t have your health, to enjoy it. And then finally, the freedom of choice, having a business that allows you that freedom of choice. So how do you from that? How do you create real wealth, like generational wealth, and that is my passion, teaching people how to not just make money, but really create, like, real wealth is so passionate about me because it answers my original one at 13. Right? going, like, I’m going to give this to the world and when people can see that you really can be you don’t have to be a millionaire. But you absolutely can be if you choose to be. And it’s not as hard as what mainstream or the world makes it sound like that it cannot happen for you. And that there is a recipe like everything, it’s just a recipe. And when you understand the recipe and you do the right ingredients in the right order, YouTube can have excellent brain.

Karen Yankovich 44:41
Well, you know, that’s so important. And I you know, I think one of the other things that I’m noticing that we’re that we’re learning at this moment in time, is that at least in my world, my family are teachers and you know, they will have pensions and you know, they all make this much money we live a nice life. They live a nice life, right? They have and there’s no generational wealth, but they’re doing well. They’re doing well, it’s all good. And I don’t want to speak to teachers, because none of our teachers, but those are the people right now that are struggling, the people that have the paychecks, the people that are getting laid off, they’re getting downsized, the companies are closing, they’re, you know, it’s the entrepreneurs, that that are saying, and it’s our time, you know what I mean? Because we can count we count on ourself, right? So investing in that coaching, and that you can count on yourself, and you can build from that place. And so many people have come to me because, you know, being LinkedIn, you know, being known for putting people on LinkedIn, as people were getting downsized, a lot of people were coming to me, and these are, you know, men and women that are in their 50s, and maybe 60s, and they’ve, they’re making a quarter million dollars a year in salary, and, you know, another $100,000, in pension with six months vacation, and they got downsized, and they’re like, I need another one of these jobs. I’m like, dude, there are no more of those jobs. But those jobs are gone. You know, and and I felt, I mean, there wasn’t a whole lot I could do for them, you know, I could help them if they wanted to step into an entrepreneurial world. But it’s and I, I’m just I think, so I think the sooner we realize that the best investment ever is an investment in ourselves, and getting to the root of the problem so that we can, you know, just achieve things beyond our wildest dreams, the sooner we are able to do that, and support our families and do all the things that we never thought we could do, right?

Mia Hewett 46:23
Absolutely, absolutely. I mean, our mission is to really support and evolve consciousness on this planet, so that we can stop living in scarcity and really live in abundance. And abundance is possible, it is not only possible probable when you understand how, like there is those key steps and then learning those crucial skills that will allow you to do it. But yes, I’m, I’m right with you on it, like I’m right with you on it. And I really stand that, you know, together, each one of us plays an important part of really helping evolve consciousness on the planet to really have us all awaken to the truth of who we really are, how life really works, and how we can have life work for us, instead of always feeling like it’s against us.

Karen Yankovich 47:08
So interesting. So cool. Thank you so much for sharing this with us today, we’re gonna put links to all of this in the show notes. But Mia hewitt.com gets you to her website. And there’s a we can if they go there, they can get a couple chapters of your book for free. Is that right? Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, yeah, check that out. But we’ll also check it out to your book, and get your book on Amazon, and all those places. So all those normal places, so put links to links for you to be able to get it there, too. Thank you so much for being here with us today. I think that this is it’s an important time to remind ourselves of this, of this message. And, you know, sometimes I feel like we have to just trust that the path will appear as we as we are creating these things for ourselves. And I think that’s the kinds of things you talk about, or I want, I want our listeners to really know that they are meant for more. Yes. So 1000 Thank you so much for being here. Thank you so much. It’s so good to talk to you. And I look forward to whatever else we can do together. And yeah, check out our book and check out our website. We’ll see you all soon. Wow, I really loved having a chance to get to know me and chat with me a Hewitt I hope you enjoyed her as much as I do. Absolutely grab the first couple chapters of her book it Mia hewitt.com There’s a link also, to grab the full book, it’s written in a really interesting way, it makes it easy to read, because it’s so conversational, you know, young Mia talking to Tay me of today. So it’s really interesting. And it’s such an important topic, and I really want this for you, I really want you to understand that you too, are meant for more. So you know, here, she’s linked up, we create wealthy women of influence. We want generational wealth in your world. And it’s all done on building relationships, just the kind of stuff that you’re probably already good at, but we’re gonna make you even better at it. And really, really get you to that place that you know is there for you. Right, that new paradigm, so that you are building the life that Mia and I talked about on our call today, it all starts with a phone call, grab a spot on my calendar at Karen yankovich.com/call. There’s no obligation and we spend a lot of time with you on these calls, really diving into where you know what’s working in your business, what’s not working in your business, but most importantly, where you really want to go. And you know, it’s we have no end of ideas. If it’s something we can help you with. We’ll tell you what that looks like. But either way, we’ll steer you to something that can help you take the next step towards your journey to the new paradigm in your life. So that’s at Karen yankovich.com/call. A rising tide lifts all boats right? I do this podcast to support you. We do these free policies support you. All of these are the first step to having success with relationships that come in, in the kinds of people that can change your business, your life and your bank account forever. So let’s lift each other up. Let me help you share this podcast. Take a quick screenshot of this episode on your phone. share that on social media. tag me, tag me and we’ll both share it with our audiences. We’ll all get more visibility, rising tide lifting all those boots, and we are supporting each other to reach that new paradigm faster than we ever thought possible. I will see you back here again next week with another episode of The Good girls get rich podcast.