This week’s episode of Good Girls Get Rich is brought to you by Uplevel Media CEO and LinkedIn expert, Karen Yankovich. In this episode, guest Elizabeth Louis and Karen Yankovich discuss how to master a mindset.
For the past seven years, Elizabeth Louis has worked with high-performers, professional athletes, corporate, private, & small business powerhouses, and innovation-driven entrepreneurs, helping them master their mindset, increase their cognitive awareness, achieve peak performance, while strategically building a multiple figure business. She walks alongside companies as their concierge Executive Performance Coach to craft tailored solutions, implement processes, strengthen leadership, enhance culture, and adjust the most daunting performance troubles, resulting in 10-figure success stories and lasting results that grow with time.
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About the Episode:
In life, one of the greatest battles we must fight is with our mind. In this episode, I have the privilege of conversing with Elizabeth Louis. We’ll be talking about how to master a mindset.
For the past seven years, Elizabeth has worked with high-performers, professional athletes, corporate, private, & small business powerhouses, and innovation-driven entrepreneurs, helping them master their mindset, increase their cognitive awareness, and achieve peak performance, while strategically building a multiple-figure business.
She walks alongside companies as their concierge Executive Performance Coach to craft tailored solutions, implement processes, strengthen leadership, enhance culture, and adjust the most daunting performance troubles, resulting in 10-figure success stories and lasting results that grow with time.
She also works with entrepreneurs, athletes, and high performers, helping them develop a champion mindset, improve self-esteem, fine-tune goals, shift perspectives, overcome traumas, face fear, achieve success, gain mental freedom, and more.
In this episode, Elizabeth shares how she got into the high-performance world, how she works with people, the power of being consistent and how to deal with imposter syndrome. She also shares how we can identify areas that need improvement.
Are you ready to learn and get motivated? Listen to this episode.
- Where to find everything for this week’s episode: https://karenyankovich.com/231
- What brought Elizabeth to the high-performance world? [03:10]
- How Elizabeth works with people and what she has learnt from working with people [05:25]
- Stepping out of your comfort zone [07:58]
- How consistency helps us master our mindset [09:09]
- Elizabeth’s most significant wins [10:17]
- How to identify areas that we should work on [17:33]
- Dealing with imposter syndrome [19:39]
- What’s coming up for Elizabeth [25:30]
Magical Quotes from the Episode:
“If you’re afraid of failure, move in your comfort zone for a long time.”
“If you want to spend the rest of your life in your comfort zone, nobody’s judging that but if you do have bigger dreams and bigger goals, then they live outside of your comfort zone.”
“When you’re intentional and you don’t meditate on fear, but you meditate on faith, love and hope. It’s amazing what you can do.”
“Deals are closed through listening, not through talking, which a lot of salespeople forget.”
“Your purpose is always evolving at the end of the day.”
“There’s not a single psychologist on planet earth or human being for that matter that can tell you if your perspective is right or wrong.”
“If you’re good at something, owning it isn’t bad.”
“Confidence is just meaning you have positive experiences going something.”
“There’s no point wasting your time proving that you’re worthy or proving that you’re confident at the end of the day, bees don’t go around to flies trying to explain to the fly. Why honey is better than shit.”
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Karen Yankovich 0:00
You’re listening to the good girls get rich podcast episode 231.
Welcome to the good girls get rich podcast with your host, Karen Yankovich. This is where we embrace how good you are girl, stop being the best kept secret in town, learn how to use simple LinkedIn and social media strategies and make the big bucks.
Karen Yankovich 0:23
Hello there. I’m Karen Yankovich, the host of the good girls get rich podcast. And I firmly believe that our mindset is if as important if not more important than the strategies that we employ as we build our marketing strategies to build generational wealth in our world. And I love when I get to meet people that bring it from a scientific point of view, because as much as I can go with all the Whoo, I love my Whoa, I also love the science behind all of this. And Elizabeth Lewis, who you’re gonna meet today was an unexpected surprise around this, I truly didn’t really know her. So I didn’t understand how amazing she was before I interviewed her. And I thoroughly enjoyed this interview. I hope you do too. This is such an important conversation. And I want to hear from you. So without further ado, me, Elizabeth. I am here today with Elizabeth Lewis and Elizabeth has worked with high performers, professional athletes, corporate, private Small Business powerhouses, and innovative driven entrepreneurs helping them master their mindset, helping them increase their cognitive awareness, a cheek peak performance. While strategically building a multiple figure business. She walks alongside companies as their concierge executive performance coach helps these some of the significant wins she has or she helped an entrepreneur raise $1.3 million in 90 minutes after their first session, help the financial advisor increase his closing rate by 4 million a month after three sessions helped a real estate firm reach a billion in revenue. She walks alongside entrepreneurs, athletes, high performers, helping them develop a champion mindset, Improve Self Esteem, bind to goals, shift perspectives, overcome traumas, face fear, achieve success, gain mental freedom, and in even more, and you can already hear why I’m so excited to talk to Elizabeth right, those of you that are longtime listeners, and we started this conversation before I let Elizabeth jump in, you know, by me saying, you know, I so many of the people that I work with on round their LinkedIn strategy in the LinkedIn profile, and their networking and their relationship building, have these big goals. And I can give them strategy all day long. But without the mindset, the strategy is just not enough. And that’s the common ground that we’re gonna start this conversation off with. Elizabeth, I’m so excited to have this conversation with you.
Elizabeth Louis 2:41
I’m so excited to be here and have this conversation with you. I know we’ve only been like talking for a little bit, but I just I’ve had so much fun already.
Karen Yankovich 2:48
I know. I know. And you know, as as typical, sometimes I you know, I like to have a conversation before we start, just so that we’re framing the conversation. And there’s so many things. I’m like, oh, I want to save that. I’m gonna save that for the show. I want to save that for you. But tell us a little bit about your background. Elizabeth, like tell us a little bit about like, give us a little bit of the background of Elizabeth, what brought you to this high performance mindset world?
Elizabeth Louis 3:10
Yeah, it’s kind of interesting story. I had never any intention of being in psychology or coach or a therapist. Unfortunately, like many people in America had a really traumatic childhood. My brother tried killing me most of my childhood, like verbatim like, I’m not figuratively, I mean it very literally. And I was so I ended up moving out at 16 to survive. And by the time I was like, 25, I was so mentally tortured. I was suffering from complex PTSD. And I gone to therapists, after therapists, and they were just like, Oh, my God, your childhood was awful. And like, cool, great. Like, I just want to know how to move forward. I don’t Right, right, right. You’re about so horrible. I lived it. And so no one can really give me the answers on how to transform your psychology. So this sounds really conceited. But I said, You know what, I’m gonna go get my my master’s degree in positive psychology with a subspecialty in coaching psychology to figure it out, because maybe they just like don’t know. And I just was naturally good at it. And my professors gave me some of their overflow. And I became like obsessed with neuroscience and neuroplasticity, and neurobiology, and just understanding everything. And really quickly, I got transformation. And then I just started helping other people do it. And then I was like, well, I’ll go get another degree, so I can become a therapist. Because at one point, I really wanted to go into that arena, and I just kind of more so fell in love with business. So that’s kind of how I got here was no intention to do this for a living.
Karen Yankovich 4:31
Yeah, so So tell us a little bit about some of the challenges you’ve seen? Because as you know, and as you that’s listening now as well, you know, my focus is this, the premise behind good girls get rich is when you focus on what you’re good at and build your life and your business from that place of, of, you know what I’m great at. That’s where the abundance comes into your life. And at the same time, so many women have a challenge with that because they feel like well, if I’m good at it, how can people give me money for it like You know, it’s not like it’s not, you know, so so we hold ourselves back. And think we have to do all these things that other people think we need to do. And it all I believe, with my heart of hearts that it all comes down to our mindset and how we position ourselves and see ourselves. Right. So tell me a little bit about how, how you work with people and how you know what you’ve seen as you’ve been working with people?
Elizabeth Louis 5:25
Yeah, so the way I work with people is I always want to find agreement, right? Because you can’t walk forward unless you’re in agreement. So I use a handful of assessments that just allow us to draw a line in the sand and say, Okay, this is where you are, psychologically, this is where you are, in comparison to the psychometrics and necessary to be successful in this company. You know, do you agree, do you disagree, and from there, we move forward, you know, I will say, I have the ability to psychoanalyze someone in about 10 minutes, I’m usually always accurate, and that for some reason, just like gives a lot of like, I guess respect or connection or or open mindedness to my client, they’re like, Wow, you’re like reading my mind. And I’m like, I get it, like I’ve done, done the work. And then from there, we, I work to find your your root issue, a lot of therapists and coaches want to deal with symptoms, I don’t care about your symptom, quite frankly, I care about your root problem. And so I listen for that. And then we quickly pull the root, I mean, I get transformation within about two to three sessions from my clients, which is pretty cool. And what I see most often, unfortunately, and it’s not, it doesn’t matter if you’re a man or a female, is the lack of self discipline traits. And so like, you know, lack of self confidence, which means lack of self esteem, you know, lack of tough mindedness, lack of autonomy, lack of composure, or control or contentment. And all of those things need to be increased, so that you can be successful at the end of the day, because you have to learn how to control yourself. But in America, we’re all like, trust your feelings, and your feelings mean everything. I don’t know if I can cuss. But I just want to say go ahead. And like, You got to remember that the news is a business and sensationalism sells, and they will not give you the accurate information. And I say that because I used to work in production. So it’s a lot of just customizing it to to figure out where do we need to realign our thinking. And I also will tell you, perfectionism is something that I typically deal with, with my clients. And we’ve got to break down that perfectionism perspective, before you can really move forward. Because if you’re afraid of failure, move in your comfort zone for a long time.
Karen Yankovich 7:30
Yeah, yeah. And you know, I’d be like, our comfort zones, right? We like our comfort zones. If they’re comfortable. They’re familiar. And it’s scary to get out of our comfort zones. And no, and if you want to spend the rest of your life in your comfort zone, nobody’s judging that but if you do have bigger dreams and bigger goals, then they live outside of your comfort zone.
Elizabeth Louis 7:49
Yes. And you know what, staying in your comfort zone is just as much of risk as leaving your comfort zone. Okay, so
Karen Yankovich 7:56
tell us about that. Well, you
Elizabeth Louis 7:58
got to think everything’s a risk. Yeah. Yeah. People want to say they’re risk averse, well, people just have an inaccurate viewpoint of risk, quite frankly. And you’re, it’s normal to want to go the way you’re comfortable. But there’s lots of biases. You know, it’s like, it’s sometimes you’ll get clients that are like, oh, man, I need to go and do this. Because I already spent the money for it. Well, you spent the money regardless if you go or you don’t go to your point. And so you know, sometimes it’s learning even what are your biases that you’re seeing things through? Like, I mean, take a lottery. People don’t go and say, I’m gonna buy this lottery ticket, and I can’t wait to lose, even though your chances of winning are like one in a million. Right? Still a risk, right? So there’s, there’s really a risk with everything that we do. It just comes down to what are your goals? What are your what do you value?
Karen Yankovich 8:43
Yeah. So what are some things that you work on with people? Like, you know, obviously, before this show, I, I checked out some of your social media. And there’s just so much as an alignment, like one of the things I saw you talk a lot about his consistency, which I talk a lot about, tell us tell us a little bit about that, like you’re consistently doing what we’ve always done, right? How do we consistently what how does consistently factor in to us really mastering our mindset?
Elizabeth Louis 9:09
Well, you know, it’s it’s storing 1% Every single day. I mean, you know, PTSD is the perfect example of neuroplasticity, which is just your your brain rewiring itself to say it’s simply working against you, right? And it’s by constantly meditating on the painful thoughts or memories of the past. And so just imagine if you spend an hour a day, intentionally thinking about your ideal self, where would you be in six months and in fact, neuroscience has proven that if you consciously think about your ideal self, for an hour a day cumulatively and 100 if you do it for every single day for 180 days straight, you’ll be 90% there as your ideal self in six months or clearer on how to get there because some of this is obviously a little bit more complicated. And so consistency is very much being intentional. And when you’re intentional and you don’t meditate on fear, but you meditate on faith, love and hope. It’s amazing what you can do.
Karen Yankovich 10:01
Oh, I love that. Can you tell us about some of the like you’re talking a little bit in your bio about some significant wins, and you don’t have to give us people’s names or details, but can you give us some, like fun things you’ve seen happen like, they were here, and this is what they were doing. And we did this. And this was the result.
Elizabeth Louis 10:17
You know, it’s actually off the top of my head. I mean, I’ve I can really simplify it to that degree. There’s so many threads, like it’s like, that’s the thing with humanities, we even want to oversimplify everything. So much of mindset in psychology work is complicated. People are complicated. It’s like when my clients come in and say, I’m a good person. No, you’re not. You’re a complicated person, trust me, you’re. So like, the
Karen Yankovich 10:39
reason I asked that there was I think I want people to kind of self identify with some of this, like, because you’re in good company, if you are having these challenges, you know, and and most people that are having these big successes, were once there as well. Right? And that’s kind of why I’m asking that question like to help people kind of self identify a little bit with where some of these people were when they started with you?
Elizabeth Louis 10:59
Well, I’ll just share with the financial advisor, because I think that’s probably the easiest one to like, make linear. So we gave him a psychometric assessment to figure out where he was like kind of taking an x ray of your mind, not your brain, just to figure out where he where he is. And what we found out is he had really low recognition, meaning like, he didn’t really care what people thought of him, which isn’t a bad thing. But when you work in a business of people, and your main strategy is people strategy that can become problematic. And so I worked with him on powerful small talk, believe it or not just ways to engage your clients, we used to be a better listener, because deals are closed through listening, not through talking, which a lot of salespeople forget. And by just working with him to increase his recognition and a little bit of his nurturance, he increased his closing rate by 25%, which was $4 million a month. And so it’s these small little adjustments that you can radically transform your your psychology, I was dealing with a professional, retired professional athlete who had 30 years of suicidal ideations, and in seven sessions, we broke her suicidal ideations, and a lot of it is is fine tuning on what she’s saying, changing the perspective, learning optimism, because when you’re depressed and suicidal, there’s a high level of pessimism. And sometimes it’s even bringing in a spiritual power. I mean, we need something that’s bigger than yourself. Neuro theology has proven this, and then it’s walking with that person. So many people just want to be heard one thing that I offer my clients, it’s like, Call me when shit hits the fan life doesn’t happen in our sessions, and never will this is the safe like, this is a practice. This is a we’re live. So if you need me, call me text me, you’re not doing this alone. And I think that’s a big point, big part of people transforming because they have someone else’s hope and faith that they can rely on. There’s a few self confidence and self esteem worksheets that I’ll give a person and that will radically transform their self esteem within about a 45 minute session. Because a lot of what we what I do in my sessions is psychoeducation and giving people the verbiage and the skills and the knowledge to move forward. The fact of the matter is, is life’s not going to be perfect, it never will. Life is going to suck, toughen up, buttercup, like, that’s my biggest encouragement, don’t trust your feelings. Learn yourself, start to label yourself, start to label what you’re feeling. So you can get distance. And then really learn your values and start making decisions off your value so you can achieve a life that you want. I mean, it’s funny, like I specialize in nerves, psychotherapy, and some of the most basic things we could do are the most powerful like exercise, you want to change your life, you want to stop being depressed exercise. It’s amazing what that could do. So you know, at the end of the day, there’s all these things that a person can do. But the more you learn yourself, and you figure out what’s most gonna be impactful for you, which is trial and error, the better you can be at the end of the day. We want to say like, this is the only way but it’s more of like, Here’s the menu that’s working for majority of the people, it might not work for you. But what are you willing to try because, you know, even if you just did yoga for a week, and it just didn’t work for you, doing yoga for a week was better than not doing anything.
Karen Yankovich 14:10
I just wanted to jump in real quick and take a little bit of a break from this conversation and remind you that the mindset strategies that Elizabeth and I are talking about today aren’t infused in every single thing we do in our she’s linked up community and our she’s linked up accelerator program, our 12 week program, or she’s linked up society, our High Level Mastermind, that mindset is so important. And in fact, our entire program, it kicks off with a little bit of a mindset visualization. So if you want to learn more about what that looks like, and check out some really solid mindset and identity shifts, as you are moving into a new paradigm in your life and in your business and let’s chat, go to Karen yankovich.com/called Or have a spot on Got a calendar. And let’s have a conversation and see if some she’s linked up mindset identity, and LinkedIn and PR strategies are a good fit for you right now. Karen yankovich.com/call get you on the calendar. I would love to tell you more about it. And I would love to see if it’s a fit to spend some time together. So how do people learn more about like, where do you share this information? I know you have a podcast tell us more about how people can get more of this information from you.
Elizabeth Louis 15:31
Yeah, so I have a podcast, I’m on YouTube, you can go to my website, Elizabeth lewis.com. My podcast is the live show right now. We’re a little behind on releasing episodes. So I apologize. And then my YouTube channel is cached. I think it’s like youtube.com, backslash C backslash Elizabeth Lewis. Right? Well, all
Karen Yankovich 15:50
of which, you know, they’re not gonna remember any of this, because we’ll have show notes. But the reason I say that is because I feel like people get a taste of my guests on this podcast. But then they’re like, wait, no, no, no, I want to immerse myself in this. And I think that you’re one of those guests. You’re one of those people that I think people are going to want to immerse themselves in. Or, frankly, they should, well, I’m not gonna use the word should I understand if they want to immerse themselves and I want to immerse myself in it, because I think this is something that while I love that you’re saying that they got results in three sessions, or six sessions or seven sessions, it’s also like, I feel like it’s also never done. There’s always a new level, right? So understanding that, yeah, yeah. understanding that and understanding that, you know, you can listen to this, you can, you know, live, check out our podcasts and YouTube videos and things like that, and there’ll be more things that will bring up and that will be more, they’ll be more things to uncover and to work on. And that’s just part of being a human being.
Elizabeth Louis 16:42
Yeah, and I love that you say that, Karen, because I work with a lot of people to figure out what their purpose is. And one of the biggest, like, misbeliefs I’m learning is that people think your purpose, their purpose is like finite, like, once you identify it, that’s what it’s always going to be. Your purpose is always evolving at the end of the day, because you as a human are evolving, and the more you grow, and the more you start to learn yourself and your automatic thoughts and your projection and then your transference, the deeper you can go at the end of the day, you know, there’s so much growth and it’s not about arriving, it’s about getting as far as possible from the dock, which is where you start.
Karen Yankovich 17:18
Ooh, that’s awesome. That’s awesome. So how can we like get started with learning some of these things? Like what are some things we can do now to start to identify some of the challenges or blocks or or work areas that we need to work on?
Elizabeth Louis 17:33
Yes, you know, one of the first things you could do, because, you know, this is coming from cognitive behavior therapy, which is your thoughts are going to dictate your quality of life. And we’ve proven in neuroscience that humans work to create their most dominant thoughts. So if your most dominant thought is, I’m a screw up, and I suck, well, we need to learn these these thinking errors. So we can, you know, take them captive and make new decisions. But that’s really hard to do. And we have 60 70,000 thoughts a day and 80% to well, actually one to 99% can be negative, and 95% of them are the same. So we have plenty of opportunities to start paying attention. But I’m also an American. And what I mean by that is I like instant gratification and collapsing time. And so I do have a free assessment that helps you that that scores you on your most common thinking traps. Because if you can learn your core thinking traps, you can start to identify your core beliefs. And when you can pull out that core belief root and plant something better, man, it’s like the gates of heaven or something open up, right? You’re just like released from this oppressed way of living and being which I think is awesome, right? Because nobody is a piece of crap. Like your worth is a constant, you’re worthy because you exist. That’s beautiful.
Karen Yankovich 18:41
And that quiz is on your website. Right? Yeah, put links to all of that in there. That’s cool. That’s cool. That’s awesome. So what is this is so good. This is so good. And I I say this because and I said this is when we started this conversation, you know, and I know I don’t really care what your body parts are, how you identify, but most of the work that I do is with women, right? And, and I know that women do they just struggle a little bit more with kind of owning this stuff in themselves. Right? And, and it’s not about being negative about them, because sometimes they know it, like they know, I am the best at this. I know I’m the best at this. But then taking it to the next step and actually being comfortable, kind of like sharing that right on their LinkedIn profiles or on you know, in their content. You know, that is where I see some of the biggest challenges that is the biggest like block I have to get people through is alright. We’ve we’ve now gotten to here, how do we get you now talking to people from that place of being this, this expert or this? You know, person who who knows that they’ve got this ability? Do you see that? Do you see that?
Elizabeth Louis 19:39
Yeah, yeah. And I can relate man, I struggled with it years ago, too. You know, it’s cognitive dissonance. You’re holding two beliefs, right? And it’s hard to like bring them together. You know, I will say I do see it louder in it. And to your point, like I don’t care what body parts you have or what have you. But I do see a ladder with women, especially because of women. I’m typically struggle more with toxic guilt than men based off of my experience, the last seven years. One thing you have to remember is, there’s not a single psychologist on planet earth or human being for that matter that can tell you if your perspective is right or wrong. Now, we can identify the extremes. But this is another bias. It’s called fractional attribution error, I believe, and it’s where you make judgments, or you you stay labels based off of what you see versus the context of the situation like, so maybe someone cuts you off, and you go, Oh, you’re a jerk, you attack the person versus being like, well, you know, maybe they were oblivious. Maybe they’re in a rush, maybe it was an accident, right? Looking at the context instead. And so I say that saying, like, really, who is an expert, but the end of the day, someone’s always going to know more than you. And I’ll just tell you, the My biggest takeaway is someone who’s an absolute nerd and reads about six books a week now is, nobody knows nothing. Everybody’s trying to figure it out. There’s, there’s no guarantee in life, it’s just owning it. And so I say all this to say like, if you’re good at something, owning it isn’t bad. You can be conceited about it. But I’m not saying be conceited. I’m just simply saying, like, if you’re good at what are some of the things that most of your clients do, if I can ask, Oh,
Karen Yankovich 21:16
my gosh, it could be anything. It could be anything, it could, you know, it could be, you know, coaching or consulting, but it could also be the arts or, you know, yeah,
Elizabeth Louis 21:25
we’ll just take coaching and consulting, then like, if you’re good at getting people transformation, and you have that proof. Look at the external proof. Like, have you ever considered that maybe your opinion sucks, right? Especially if it’s been a consistent opinion of, if you look back to your childhood of like, you’re always saying you’re not good enough, or you’re not doing it well enough. And that’s an automatic way of thinking that you have programmed and conditioned your brain to. So what would happen if you just say, I’m choosing to be confident this confidence is just meaning you have positive experiences going something. Tiger Woods is confident in golf, because he started at age two, and he hit 2000 balls, for 18 years straight before he even became a professional athlete, he was confident in his skills. Here’s the other thing. So many people want to trust their outcome. They’re like, No, I can’t be an expert until I’ve hit this. And it’s a little bit like an eating disorder. Because the this keeps changing based off of what they’re doing, right, it’s like the weight right? going lower, you never actually get there. So trusting the outcome is the stupidest thing you can do trust the effort, have confidence in your effort, have competence in that you know, what you can bring to the game, you know, what you can do, knowing what you can do doesn’t make you humble or not humble. It’s just saying like this, it’s just owning it, it’s that bring the emotions to it. It’s more so holding the acceptance of saying, in my opinion, I think I’m great at this. Now, I might not be great with everyone. That’s why you got to know your target client. Right. But if you can own this sliver great, like we have 15,000 different types of grocery stores, like, you know, based off of where you need, like there’s enough to go around. But the other question is like, what’s the value of not owning it?
Karen Yankovich 23:08
Well, like Yeah, that’s such a good question. That’s such a good question. I think about like, you also see what you’re looking for, you know, so if you are determined that you’re not good at this, and you’re not going to be good at it, no matter how many wins, you can count on your losses, you can count on your wins, right, like count your wins for you know what I mean? Like count your wins, focus on the wins, because then there’ll be more of those. And, and, again, it doesn’t matter if these other five people went to another grocery store. Yeah. Because these 10 people went to your grocery store and have this amazing transformation.
Elizabeth Louis 23:37
Yeah. And the other thing, like I do have the privilege of working with some, like extraordinary human beings in the sense of accomplishments, like the things that people have done, and I’m like, Oh, my gosh, that’s amazing. The one thing that I’ve learned and you see this more with men than women, the one thing I have learned, like if you’ve ever seen a confident man, and I’m talking about like a confident man, that’s humble, not narcissistic, not conceited, not arrogant, but humble. If you observe them, they have a perspective. And it’s the same with women, too, who are like this. They have a perspective and a self talk that focuses on optimism, and focuses on all that they do. Well, that’s where they keep their focus. That’s their self talk. Like, I mean, I think I’m sure you’ve ran into this care enough, where you’ve, you’ve met someone who’s just super confident, and it’s because of the narration that they told themselves. Like, that’s the equation in the work aspect at the end of the day. And so what is the point of focus? And even we talked about this in neuroscience training all the time. What’s the point of focusing on something you can’t control? What is the point of that? Who cares? A Bob down the road doesn’t think you’re you’re eligible or you’re qualified? When I first started my coaching company, I had so many misogynistic men that looked at me and said, You’re smart. You’re pretty what could you teach me? I’m like, Well, for starters, I know you’re controlling and you have low flexibility. We could start there.
Karen Yankovich 24:53
I love that. Yeah, yeah. Yeah.
Elizabeth Louis 24:56
Like there’s no point wasting your time proving that you’re worthy, or proving that you’re confident at the end of the day, bees don’t go around to flies trying to explain to the fly. Why honey is better than shit.
Karen Yankovich 25:08
Oh, you have so many good. You’ve so many good. Like, I’m already picturing all the lines coming out of this episode, you have so many good lines. That’s awesome. This is so good. This is so good. I really, I really appreciate this, Elizabeth, because I think this is this is just what some of our listeners need to hear. So how can people put all the links below what’s coming up for you, as you know, in as you go through the next year?
Elizabeth Louis 25:30
You know, I’m not 100% Sure, I’m kind of like I hold goals loosely, because deadlines really just get you motivated to do things. And so many of my plans have just been shifted that I kind of go more with the flow. So where are you exist in the first place, I’m working on a few more courses, I have one course out right now called mindset mastery, which is just like a foundational program to learn how to start to master your mindset. But you know, I’m sure a lot of the women listeners can relate to this. I just being chronically abused for so many years, as a child, I became really passionate about learning verbal self defense. And so I’m really excited about one of my I’m working on a verbal self defense course so that people can learn how to defuse things because you got to remember, all of abuse starts verbally before. Wow, that’s huge. Right? And I mean, it’s unfortunately, we live in a world where verbal abuse is very, very prominent.
Karen Yankovich 26:23
And I don’t think it’s I think it’s moving in the wrong direction to agree it’s moving in the wrong direction. Because I think yeah, I think that the people that are abusive, are seeing more and more powerful women, and it’s making them more abusive.
Elizabeth Louis 26:37
Yeah. I mean, at the end of the day, everyone has been abused. Like, it’s so okay to be I mean, like, think about your spouse, how many times have you been emotionally and verbally abusive at the end of the day? Like, it’s so easy to do this? I’m not saying it’s right. But yeah, you cannot control another person’s choices, but you can uphold your boundaries and learn how to identify the linguistics that they’re saying to you. Because it’s like verbal chess, right? Just because someone says something to you doesn’t mean you have to grab on to it. And if you watch lawyers and litigation, they do this, they keep an eagle eye view on the conversation versus being sucked in. Right. And when the tables get turned right, and, you know, I will say there’s more and more narcissist that are being cultivated because of the social media rise. And so learning how to communicate to the narcissist can be really impactful to kind of share
Karen Yankovich 27:24
and I think you read where I wanted to go with that statement more than where I went with as David. So thank you for that tissue. So it’s okay, no, I just, I’m thinking about this. And I just think that it’s just or I feel like they’re just louder than maybe because of the rise of social media, right? You’ve got a platform where you can speak that maybe you didn’t have 20 years
Elizabeth Louis 27:41
ago, right? Oh, gosh, the world was probably simpler back then.
Karen Yankovich 27:45
I love that. So okay, so we’re gonna keep our eye out for that. Thank you so much. All right. So Elizabeth, I love this. Thank you so much for being here today. This is I think this has been a great conversation. I’m going to be I’m a fan, I can see myself being a bigger fan. And I hope that you that’s listening feel the same way. So all the links to everything Elizabeth talked about will be in the in the show notes. And thanks so much for being here today.
Elizabeth Louis 28:09
Thank you for having me. This has been so much fun. This was such
Karen Yankovich 28:13
a fun episode, I thoroughly enjoyed getting to know Elizabeth, I have been diving deep into her content. Since I’ve recorded this with our I hope you do too. All of the links to everything we talked about are in the show notes, just go to Karen yankovich.com/ 231. You’ll see all the links to everything we talked about on the show, you’ll see all the links to Elizabeth’s content to book a call if you want to chat with me about what it looks like to get some support with some of this mindset, and identity stuff. All the links we talked about all in the show notes. There’s also a link to speak pipe in the show notes. And where you can leave me an audio message. I would love to know what you think of Elizabeth and what you thought of this conversation. Just go to Karen yankovich.com/ 231, or Karen yankovich.com/speakpipe. And you’ll get to leave an audio message I respond to every one of those personally because I love getting them. So leave us an audio message you can leave a review maybe it’s an I guess you think I should interview or a topic you’d love to hear me talk about or just your opinion on today’s show, I’d love to hear it. So all that information is in the show notes. And you know that we love it when you support us that way we support you right I’m here doing this episode for you every single week. And with hopes of lifting you up right and I want to continue to be able to do that. So if you take a quick screenshot of this show, as you’re listening to it, upload it to stories uploaded to social media, wherever you’d like to hang out online. and tag me I’m at Karen Yankovich Tag Elizabeth, her content is her links are all below. Use the hashtag good girls get rich so we don’t miss it, then we can share that with our audience. So you’re helping us by getting more visibility to this show. If you thought it was something that your audience would be interested in your followers be interested in. And then we want to in return help you back by sharing your posts with our audience. So we all get more visibility that way. I hope to see you back here again next week. with another episode, if you don’t want to miss it, go on over to the Follow button on wherever you’re listening to this and click follow so that you don’t miss next week’s show, and I will see you then.