Lana Shlafer is a mindset coach, law of attraction expert, and author of the best-selling book Manifest That Miracle. Over the past decade, she has empowered thousands of clients and students to manifest what seems out of reach, including buying their dream home, healing from a chronic illness, and meeting their ideal partner.
About the Episode:
What do you find fulfilling? What brings you joy? Whatever that is, go after it! You have the ability to achieve what you want to achieve. It just takes consistency.
Having goals and plans are good things. All too often, however, we get scared to divert from the path we laid out for ourselves. Along the way we often discover something we enjoy more or find out a better way to do something. That’s okay! If fact, it’s a good thing. We just need the confidence to divert.
In this episode, I interview Lana Shlafer, and Lana says you need to have a relationship with yourself instead of berating yourself. If you’re following a lift path that you have no interest in and doesn’t grow you as a person, what’s the point?
In this episode, Lana and I discuss what you need to do (which includes changing your mindset) to make the journey you’re on miraculous.
- Where to find everything for this week’s episode: karenyankovich.com/136
- Introducing this episode’s guest, Lara Shlafer (2:54)
- Make real connections, not fake ones (11:09)
- The danger of gurus (13:40)
- Lara’s manifestation journey (17:16)
- Failure is okay, but you have to take action (23:20)
- Lara’s book (26:20)
- How to find out more about Lara (36:28)
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Karen Yankovich 0:00
You’re listening to the good girls get rich podcast episode 136 Welcome to the good girls get rich podcast with your host Karen Yankovich.
This is where we embrace how good you are girl. Stop being the best kept secret in town, learn how to use simple LinkedIn and social media strategies and make the big bucks.
Karen Yankovich 0:24
Hello, I’m your host Karen Yankovich. And this is Episode 136 of the good girls get rich podcast. And this podcast is brought to you by uplevel Media where we teach simple relationship and heart based LinkedIn marketing. We teach you how to do human to human marketing that gets you on the phone consistently with people that will change your business your life at your bank account for ever. This week’s show. We have Lana Shlafer with us and Lana and I’ve been connected for a while and you’ll hear our story a little bit on this show. I’ve been following her journey and watching her and I’ve done some of her challenges. She’s got a great YouTube channel because she’s got great energy. So when you watch her on YouTube, it’s just you can’t help but be inspired by her. So I highly encourage you once you’re done with listening to this episode, to go back to the page, it’s karenyankovich.com/136. And check out the links to some of her social media and follow her because she’s got some great stuff going on. You know, she teaches how to manifest the life that you love, and she’s got this great new book out all things you’re going to hear about, honestly, it’s amazing to watch her journey and it’s inspiring to kind of just stay focused and clear on what it is that you want to bring into your life. And, and when you what you focus on becomes a reality. So I’m really excited for you to listen to this show. And as you’re listening, of course, If you love what you’re hearing, we love for you to take a quick screenshot of the show, share it on social media, tell your audience that you’re loving the show, and that they should listen to right tag me I’m at Karen Yankovich tag Lana, she is active on Instagram and Facebook and make sure that you subscribe to this show because we have a lot of good stuff coming and I don’t want you to miss anything. So remember also that in the show notes for this episode at karenyankovich.com/136 we have a link to speakpipe where you can leave us an audio review or just tell us who you think we should have as a guest or a topic you’d like to hear me talk about. We love those because it really helps us dial in the messaging on this show. So again, you can check that out at karenyankovich.com/136 All right, we’re gonna dive in to today’s episode with Lana Shlafer. So we have Lana Shlafer with us today and Laura is a mindset coach law of attraction expert and Author of the best selling book Manifests That Miracle. Over the past decade, she’s empowered thousands of clients and students to manifest what seems out of reach, including buying their dream home, healing from a chronic illness and meeting their ideal partner. Lana’s energetic personality and no holds barred coaching has been featured in Forbes TV one MPR. She studied at UC Berkeley and the Institute of transpersonal psychology. She’s originally from Siberia, she now lives her dream life in Puerto Rico with her amazing husband and three magical kids. And she can be found dancing wildly around her home and hosting champagne popping celebrations for even the smallest moments in life. I am so happy to have you here today, Lana.
Lana Shlafer 3:41
I am so happy to be here.
I feel like I’ve been like we’ve been like in our each other’s lives peripherally, and I’ve never really had enough time to talk to you. So I’m so happy to be able to do that. But like I’ve been following your journey of manifesting your houses through all the different houses that you’ve had, right because we’ve been Facebook friends and for years And even things like your YouTube channels amazing like I’ve done some of your daily challenges through YouTube and I love them. So I’m so happy to have you here. So apart from your official bio, Tell, tell us a little bit about what you’re doing and why you’re doing this kind of work now.
Yeah, so I feel like my biggest Kool Aid drinker of what I dish out, you know, I feel like I am by my own biggest sort of creation, because I grew up in Russia because I grew up in an atheist communist culture and environment. I did not grow up with any of this. You can do it go for your big dreams. Like this was not the sort of slogans I was growing up with. It was sort of like Keep your head down. Try not to stand out too much, and maybe you’ll survive. And so when we came to the US, I was 12. And it was a really tough transition because not only language wise, I didn’t speak English and culture wise, but also You know, as formative, again, you’re 12 you’re you’re becoming a person and creating your identity. And so I feel like now it’s such a gift that I had so many different challenges and different cultures and sort of identities to pull from. And they were really at odds with each other. And I had to sort of form my own way in this world. So I did for a long time. So to follow the American dream and worked really, really hard and my parents ended up getting divorced and I struggled eating disorders. And I just thought like, if I just get this job if I just have this relationship, if I just sort of have that like, white picket fence and two and a half kids, my life would be okay, I would finally feel okay on the inside. And the closer I got to that the worse actually felt I had a six figure investment banking job, but it was soulless work, and I was sort of feeling like I was killing myself. I was in a what seemed like a dream partnership from the outside but we were repeating myself But my parents had and I didn’t know how to get out of it. And I was just didn’t want to live. I mean, that’s what it comes down to. I was like, if this is what life is, this is what I worked so hard for. The disillusionment was so deep that I decided I can’t, I have to see what else is out there. I ended up leaving that job and that whole path, and ended up literally going off the grid and studying yoga in Mexico and doing crazy things because I felt like I had nothing to lose. And realizing that there’s so much more to life than I realized and so much more that I was creating from my mind than I realized, I thought that reality was out there and I had to adapt to it. And it was struggle and strife and like, you just have to do the best you can with what you’re given. And when this idea started really settling and I started exploring it and I had amazing teachers and it was happening in my body and in my psyche and in my relationships that actually I can mold and shape things the way I want them to be. was revolutionary in such incredible proportions that I essentially have never stopped talking about it since I was talking about it before it was my career. Before you know, I was training coaching everyone, it just blew my mind that this isn’t out there available to everyone. And so I got into it because I feel like it just made such an impact in my life that I have never hit a limit so far with how much I can create, implement, and oh my gosh, that’s cool. Like I keep raising the ceiling for myself. And it just has a lot of juice in it for me because it’s never ending. There’s always more worthy that you could feel more love. You can create more magic, you can experience more abundance, you can, you know, share and circulate. So it has a lot of continued sort of passion and purpose for me and so I feel like I didn’t mean to do it as a career quote unquote. I know how you will Do this as a career, I just kept sharing and people kept asking, and here we are,
Karen Yankovich 8:04
oh my gosh. I mean, there’s like five things I want to talk about and what you just said. But I think that, you know, the interesting thing, and I and I hope that I remember following your journey or, you know, years ago, and then a couple years into it, learning that you grew up in Russia, and came here and I was like, blown away by that, because I was like, essentially, like this California chick, you know, like, that’s kind of like what I saw you as, so I remember seeing that and thinking and now we I think, I think at least I do, I think we pay more attention to the people behind the the social media influencers, right. But it i think that that takes some courage to kind of open up to that journey, right to open up your journey beyond like, what you’re seeing as and say, yeah, here’s where, here’s where that came from. Right. Like, here’s where it came from. It’s because we are. It doesn’t just come naturally to so many of us, but we look at other people and we think that it does,
Lana Shlafer 8:58
yeah, and this whole Like comparison and looking out there with it, it became really important to me because one of the things that I, you know, teach in my book and work with clients on is that they aim with all their mind, but at the wrong target. And so I aimed with all my might, and I have a lot of mites. I am like a tank when I focus on something, and I’m going to go for it. But I was aiming at all these external manifestations that I thought would bring me some sort of fulfillment, and they didn’t. And the more I got them, the more disappointed and depressed I felt. And so when I realized that what I really wanted is to feel seen and understood, like my childhood formative experiences and challenges were about feeling abandoned. I mean, my parents did the best they could but listen, it was a very stressful environment. So it was the best of what they could do. And I feel like I’ve spent all of this time really identifying what matters to me and if I want to feel seen and heard if I want to have a purpose and a connection to what I’m doing, which I feel is a privilege and I think where I’ve really covered As not your typical American is that I know hardship on a country wide level and a systemic level that I think a lot of Americans are just starting to a lot of middle class Americans are just starting to really understand. minorities have been experiencing that for forever. And we came here as refugees. My dad’s Jewish, so he had a lot of anti semitism and racism and segregation that we Well, my dad more than I experienced, but I know what it’s like to be the minority. And now I’m the privileged one, and I’m very aware of the privilege. And so I feel like it’s using our CIO to underdog, the zest, the ambition, the drive, because you know what it’s like not to have, it’s using it as fuel to create. That’s one of my biggest messages because if I had to be born like this, I have no chance at being peaceful and being happy because it was not in my environment. I had to create a deliberately and so I feel like I knew that I wanted to share my story. And people that don’t get it don’t resonate that one a judge or that think I’m stupid or whatever, that’s okay. They’re not for me, and I’m not for them. But I knew that you know, there’s a saying it’s better to be loved for what you’re to be hated for what you are loved for what you’re not. And I realized that fairly quickly that social media could create a place for where you feel so fake and not loved, that it is actually triggering and painful to you. And I did not want to create a persona. I’m a real person with real struggles and real beauty and magic as well. And I want to have real connections with people and not everyone is ready for that or gets it but the ones that are I don’t need a million people I just need like this now. I want the realness of it. Not the fame or that sort of the facade of it.
Karen Yankovich 11:48
Yeah, so that’s so resonates with me and what we teach because to me why I talk about LinkedIn so much, because it’s human to human marketing, right? It’s talking and I want you to talk to people. I don’t want you I mean, There is, there’s something to be said for credibility and visibility and fame and things like that add to your credibility. And it helps you build some amazing human to human relationships when you’ve done the work to establish your credibility, right. So there’s something to be said for that. But at the end of the day, it’s really the it’s really the people, the human to human aspect of LinkedIn that I think is the most important part that helps people you know, build their brands, build their business, build, whatever their careers, whatever it is, they’re looking to do.
Lana Shlafer 12:32
So that’s the thing is, I think that people are looking at building brand building Korea Bonet. But if it’s not building you, what the hell are you doing it for? I just feel like I could have made money elsewhere. I could have been doing a lot of other things. Like if I’m going to choose to spend my time and energy here it better damn well be an expansion of myself and my life, you know, real practical sense. Right. And so there’s a lot of things that are happening in the world today, where sort of the math To find out the gurus or the people that were on pedestals and platforms are starting to sort of come down, I’m just like, I’m gonna knock myself down a few notches right from the get go. Because I don’t want to be on a pedestal. I don’t want to build up this whole idea of, you know, the best of me. So that this is the interactions we have. I think from the beginning, I’ve always joke that I have a big ego and I don’t need any anything else to do it. And that I am a teacher among teachers and a master among masters and a leader among leaders and I treat everyone I interact with in that way. And I think it creates a totally different energy. And again, there are people they’re looking for a guru, they are they have such an inferiority complex that they are looking for someone to give them the answers to feel more certain than them and to sort of fake the certainty for them. I am not one of those people. I will be honest and say, I can teach you how to fish but I’m not going to give you a free And this is something you shouldn’t outsource.
Karen Yankovich 14:02
Yeah. Oh my gosh, so cool. So cool. I feel like this last few years have been, at least for me, there’s been a shift around that whole guru thing. Like, I love, you know, manifestation and spirituality and, you know, I have, you know, a pile of like different kinds of decks and things like that. But a few years ago, I was like, I, I just all of a sudden kind of, almost it’s almost like I woke up one morning like, it’s almost It was almost that art of a transition to like, it’s just within me like, Why do I keep reaching out to find answers? Why am I going to the, you know, to other people to find the answers? I mean, sometimes the sometimes different decks will help just focus me, right a little bit and like, Okay, what is what is what is the message I need to hear, but I don’t, I don’t really need it to be like fortune telling, you know, I feel like that’s all within me. And when I started to really focus on that, that’s when everything started shifting in my Life in my business that I was reaching out to get help from other people. I mean,
Lana Shlafer 15:04
I think it’s where it comes from. It’s like every tool, it matters why and how you use it more than what the tool is. So if you’re coming into any interaction from a place of void from a place of lack from a place of needing neediness, codependency, or however you want to describe it, then you are going to whatever tool you use is just going to take you further in that direction. And you are going to enter relationships that are going to point out to you the self fulfilling prophecy. Oh yeah, I really do need this person. I really didn’t know this. And I really, and it’s not the tool, that’s the problem. It’s the fact that you are using it as a way to not go deeper into yourself but instead to play somebody at the center of you. And images and a power in a power position. And nobody can know this for you. Nobody can do this for you. Maybe that’s the hardest thing you know. You’re watching, I’m watching my kids grow up, I can’t make decisions for them, I can’t. I want to teach them how to think how to make decisions so that they can go on and be, you know, whole people that can stand on their two feet. And we have a lot of helicopter parenting and a lot of other things happening that I think are preventing development. We only learn really from having challenges and learning those lessons and overcoming it you know, you either win or learn and a learning a lesson is a win too. And I just think our culture as a whole is really shifting around that thing, God and yeah, maybe I came from a too harsh of an environment where I was sort of a latchkey kid and I had to take care of my brother. I was eight he was six that’s when I started watching him. I had to walk home feed everything, you know, so I’m not a proponent of like, maybe extreme survival in that sounds. But the same time it did serve me and so I see the benefit of people really, I call it It’s no not an evolution, it’s an involution you’re going deeper into yourself, right? You’re… the universe is this is where all of your expansion is not out there. It’s in here.
Karen Yankovich 17:14
I love that. So let’s talk a little bit about your manifesting journey because one of the journeys that I watched you do is your journey as you progressed from two different houses to different places where you lived with your kids and your husband and your family. Tell everybody a little bit about that because that was kind of fun to watch.
Lana Shlafer 17:30
I feel like I have a particular sort of connection to housing because we grew up in one room with like in communal housing like a dorm room so it’s no bathroom, no kitchen, everything was communal. And then we came to us were in really small places, everything was mismatched furniture was hand me down. And you know, poor all through college. Even when I was working in investment banking, I sort of was afraid to nest and to I think I was just afraid to even allow myself to Have something because it felt on one hand impossible. On the other hand, I would sort of judge it as frivolous. This is where a lot of my money blocks came from is like, well, this is wasteful. Like there are people in Russia like my own family that could use this money, how could I go buy a new couch or whatever. And then I started realizing what a lack full mentality it was, no matter how much I had, it wasn’t enough No matter how much I gave away, it wasn’t enough. There was just not enough period. I wasn’t enough. I didn’t have enough. And what I like losing cycle that is, and so the housing manifestations really started especially after we had kids where I was like, I realized I want to create a home. So what is what are the elements that are a home to me, and I realize I like spaciousness, being in a spacious place to me feels like I can breathe easier. I am expansive it isn’t a vanity thing for anyone else. And but too big a place makes me feel like it is unmanageable. For example, I can’t imagine even now having a house like much bigger than maybe 5000 square feet to me that Like, even if I was a bazillionaire, I don’t think I could feel comfortable space that was too big. So it was giving myself permission to really dream and vision. If I could have anything, what would be meaningful to me outside of what I think I should have should do, or what other people like I just never had a chance to ask those questions. And with each sort of manifestation because I feel like I’m the queen of creating something out of nothing. I was manifesting these amazing homes before we had the money to back it up. It would always come in through some amazing way like our first one is we had newborn twins. We were both in debt because I got pregnant in grad school. We got engaged and got pregnant A month later. So my husband and I moved to Southern California to be with his family. He was unemployed. After we moved here, and I was about to pop the two babies. I was leaving grad school and with a bunch of loans, and we ended up having this tiny tiny apartment and dreamed of all I saw palm trees. I saw space. I said yard would go out to the beach and carve out like 20 minutes to do my meditation manifesting practice, even while I was like not sleeping and having twins and all these stressors, and it was this crazy manifestation where a friend of a friend said, I saw a post on Facebook, which is weird because we weren’t friends. So how I saw her post pop up on my feed was a whole other story. And she said, I’m moving out of my house. I would love for somebody to have this house. Well, I’d seen this girl around the neighborhood. And so I knew she lived close by I send a message right away. Hey, we want to see this house. We have no business seeing this house. We end up it’s three blocks away. We walk over where they are my husband’s like, yes, we were taking it. It was twice as much rent as we were paying an apartment. We literally have enough money in all of our savings to only put down first month’s deposit and oh, and we didn’t get approved. We applied for the leasing company. We didn’t get approved because they said we have no money. We even got his parents to co sign And we she’s like, I really want you guys to have it. I will pay the rent in my name. Even after moving out, you just write the check to me. Literally for the three years we lived in that house. We weren’t on the lease, anytime we needed to get anything fixed, we had to fix it ourselves or had to call her to call it like it was. At that time, that was the most I could allow. But as soon as we moved into that house, within a month, he had a job, our financial situation improved. That was one of my bigger manifestations that showed me that when I go to the next level, and it feels absolutely right, even if their fears, if it’s like 51% right 49% fear, I’m on the right side of this equation. Let’s go everything up leveled as a result and it had enough space for me to start doing my coaching practice that had a little room that I converted into an office and all of that and all the other manifestations. We had the craziest things we moved into this house. The owner ended up going into foreclosure, someone else’s bought it, they paid us out $21,000 to move out and we got five and a half months rent for free. And this was a huge house like a 4000 square foot house. I am the craziest house manifestations. And the reason this is fun for me is because I can now unequivocally tell you, you don’t have to have all your ducks in a row. You don’t have to have $500,000 in the bank to buy a $500,000 house. And you don’t as a matter of fact, we still my husband owns a property now but we lease it. I still don’t own I’ve never bought a house, I really have no desire until recently in Puerto Rico to buy land and own something. It is having the ability to receive what you want to receive through the path of least resistance and not making it. It has to come in this way through this particular Avenue. It has to be in the particular way. And so many people limit their manifestations but the house manifestations within themselves are largely irrelevant because I’ve lived in a small room, I can live in a small room again. To me it’s the process that I’ve used to heal My eating disorders to improve my marriage to create unbelievable manifestations in my personal life. It’s the process that I’m most in love with, which is why I feel like I’m such a good manifester. Most people are looking for the result, and I’m looking for the process to be magnificent and enjoyable to me.
Karen Yankovich 23:19
Oh my gosh, I love that. So I’m pretty sure it was the show that came out last week for those of you that are listening to this on the podcast, but we talked about I talked about the fact that you know, there’s failure and as an entrepreneur, you can fail and that just that’s a cool thing because we just have that means it just means you have to change things right? Like it does it just means it didn’t work yet doesn’t mean that it doesn’t work. But the one thing that can derail everything is if you’re not taking action. So I love that you’re talking about the fact that there is a process to manifestation it isn’t just go to bed and like I remember when the secret came out there people going Oh, yeah, I’m gonna go to bed tonight and there’s going to be a you know, a Mercedes in my driveway when I wake up tomorrow. Like Yeah, no, that’s not what They’re saying, you know
Lana Shlafer 24:01
It’s not what they’re saying and you wouldn’t want it to happen that way you people that I’ve had that have quote unquote, manifested too quickly and they will actually use those words is those manifestations are really difficult. And I’ll give you a perfect example. I had a client, she had a miscarriage and it was very painful. And we worked in my program on her wanting to be a parent but she was starting to feel like she’s too old. What if it won’t happen to me what you know all of that it’s a very painful thing for a woman to feel like you can’t create something that you feel is so natural and biological. We have all kinds of identity things about that, to make a long story short, relative of their relative died unexpectedly which was a very painful experience. And a child was left that they were offered a baby. The manifestation happened instantly. She has been asking for it for Probably yours, but at the very least months, but I promise you, when you haven’t happened that instantly, we have to sort of work through, can I receive it now, so I’m not a big proponent of getting something you’re not ready to receive. Now we work through it happy ending all around. But people say be careful what you ask for. It’s not that it’s that to get what you want, you’ve got to want what you’ve got. So really, just focus on what you’ve got. So when you receive what you want, you have the practice of also wanting it because there are too many people that are always on that treadmill. And the next thing and the next thing and the next thing and the next thing it is a never ending, never fulfilling journey. And entrepreneurship attracts a lot of those people and they think they are productive and successful because they’re just running faster, creating more achieving more, but if it didn’t actually fulfill you in any way, I feel like you’re not really fulfilling your your true purpose as a human being, and I take it very seriously because I have so many ancestors that have fought for this right of self realization, and I’ll be damned if I squander it. Because I am chasing this imaginary carrot in front of me that keeps moving.
Karen Yankovich 26:18
Right? So I did have a chance to check to check your book out before you before we had this conversation, which is amazing. And I want you to tell everybody about it
Lana Shlafer 26:27
where I talked about the steps by the way, they are not a formula. I don’t believe in formulas, they are guideline and different ways that you can create something out of nothing right? They take I take you through a process in the brain. And one more thing I wanted to do, because I realized this one would say that all of the mindset practices how you know they’re effective, is if they move you into action, literally the purpose of them right not for you to sit there and feel, oh, I’ve just meditated and I’m just going to write not do anything else. with it.
Karen Yankovich 27:00
That’s right. And that’s what I love about your book is that it’s it’s about taking action. And it’s such I think that’s a piece that, I don’t know maybe maybe it’s maybe the people that understand manifestation. Understand that. And people that don’t think it’s we’re all like just walking around waving our magic wand and hoping things will happen. But we’re but it’s not and I and but you talk literally about knowing what you want, focusing on what you want, and then putting a plan in place to, you know, but I love how you’re also saying, like, just let it happen then. Right? Don’t be so don’t be so focused on how it’s gonna happen. Right?
Lana Shlafer 27:34
You have to aim at the right target. The target has to be how you want to feel your why. Your what to some degree, not the how. And if you are able to test the hypothesis and prove to yourself that if it’s happening, it’s for me, and I’ve tested this enough, especially in hindsight to where I know everything is for me, even if I can’t see it clearly that I’m wasting zero energy questioning why is this happening? Why is this bad thing happening? And instead I’m saying, hey, this thing happened, it didn’t feel good, or there was something that went as unexpected. What’s in it for me? How is this creating a portal into something else? What can I learn what is the meaning. And that is a completely different use of my energy. So I am for smart action, not just busy action, I am for leveraged action. And this is where the mindset practices are really useful. Again, it’s like you need your right hand and left hand to really be you know, fully productive if you have use of both of your hands. It’s not mindset or action. It’s not just using your imagination or taking stuff. It’s both and when they’re in harmony when they are working together. That’s when you really feel like you are flying. And any one of those without the other just feels like a shadow of what you could be on what you could do and that’s where it starts to get very frustrating,
Karen Yankovich 28:59
Very cool, very cool. So tell us what brought you to wanting to put a book out about all of this?
Lana Shlafer 29:05
I mean, I’ve been doing this work for a long time and my why my my what was first of all, I want to keep getting better at this molding my mind molding my life creating business and manifesting business. I want to share it with as many people’s want to hear it and I really have explored what are the best ways to do it. So I have had meditations courses, online courses, live courses, live events, workshops, one on one group coaching, I mean, I’ve done it all memberships,
Karen Yankovich 29:36
I’m trying to like high fiving across the Atlantic Ocean or the Caribbean wherever the hell you are. Right. I’m high fiving I’ve done every single one of those things too.
Lana Shlafer 29:44
Right and and, and I’ve learned a lot and and I kept refining for what gets the best results and has the highest enjoyment for me because I think when you are at the sort of marriage of what you find most fulfilling and meaningful rewarding and expansive and joyous and what other people find most valuable, boom, you have your golden sort of egg that now you can, you know, grow and hatch and multiply, and it takes exploration. So when, when newer coaches or, or business owners come to me, I’m like, well, I’ve tried this and they’re like, great, what are you gonna try next? Like what did you learn the nature of entrepreneurs um, and and of coaching honestly. And of being a leading edge human, which I don’t want to just sit on what I did a year ago or 10 years ago, I want to keep moving to that edge to that frontier, I always want to be the pioneer of something, right? It’s going to mean that you’re going to explore and learn and which is why it’s so important to love the process, which is why it’s so important to find something that when you’re focusing on when you’re doing it has intrinsic meaning for you. Like if you want to work out, don’t pick a type of movement that you don’t like as you’re doing it. Like don’t go running if you really don’t like running, but you think it’s going to make you lose weight or whatever that is. So the ineffective hard way of doing things, I don’t care if you just want to, you know, do aerobics or dance or do yoga or walk or have a lot of sex, I don’t care do whatever makes you feel good that you intrinsically like the process. That’s when the result is going to be a side effect of you actually learning and and taking the action of doing that, versus the what most people are taught, which is to get somewhere they need to pick a goal and they need to pick a plan and at no cost. Should they move away from the plan, even if it’s highly ineffective. They don’t like it, they’re struggling, it’s costing them a lot and they are too willing to pay the price. I think that whole saying of no pain, no gain. And you know, if it’s a struggle, then that’s when you know it’s working. I really think that’s old school mentality. Now there’s a difference. Between consistently taking action falling getting up and, you know, trying again, that’s like when a baby learning to walk, right? They’re gonna fall and get up and they’re gonna like you think walking is the most natural thing. Well just look at a little human trying to learn they had to practice and fall and get up. But it is something that is worthwhile to them. And nobody’s saying get up, get up, dummy. Why didn’t you get it right the first time, right? You’re like, oh, you’re doing great. Try again. And if we approached everything in our life, and learn to have a relationship with ourselves, where we are cheering ourselves on, instead of berating ourselves for not getting it right the first time and having this sort of bar that maybe our teachers are well meaning parents or whoever set for us, then we are putting all of our energy towards walking this path and getting up do you fell down great, get up, try again, keep moving if this is the path you want to be on, and if you don’t want to be on this path, pick a different path. Michael Beckwith has a great saying it’s easier to change. directions when you’re moving. And I’m sure you’ve seen a gazillion entrepreneurs, they start on one path, they find something else that’s more exciting. They go on that path, they find something else that’s more exciting. They go on that path. But the ones that are sitting there that never got moving, are not going to have that journey. Yeah, if they’re sitting there waiting for it to be perfect. Or if they’re spending so much time trying to get the perfect website, or the perfect this the perfect ad, it’s like, if you want what you have, go and give it to them in whatever imperfect way that you currently know, and then improve how you do it.
Karen Yankovich 33:33
I completely agree. I spoke to someone I think yesterday who joined my she’s linked up program, and she asked me what is the trait that people have in common that are having a lot of success in your program? And my answer was consistent action. Like I don’t care what they’re doing. I don’t care if it’s right or wrong. But if they’re consistently connecting with people, if they’re consistently messaging people, it may be that they’re the wrong people, but we don’t know that until we start talking to them. Right, so well. 100% the thing that everyone that has success that I know have in common is consistent action. And then you shift if you need to shift.
Lana Shlafer 34:09
But look, we just had a conversation before we did this interview, and you’re like, yeah, you finally got your book done. And I was like, Yeah, because I paid someone to essentially sit there and be like, this is the dead line. And so the other part that you’re saying is, no one really takes consistent action and things that are really hard or really challenging or really new or really painful. So invested support. Everybody know, at a high level, success, has created, attracted manifested, asks for support, which for me, was the most vulnerable thing and the more I sort of, I don’t know, upgrade my mindset. And the more I’m surrounded by people that are seven, eight figures, whatever entrepreneurs, and and creatives and visionaries and leaders, I really start to see a very strong correlation and probably a causation. At the level of support they’re able to receive and the level of sort of results that they have. And so we’re not meant to do it alone. That’s one of the things that I feel like I was such a, like a built in sort of family myth is that no one’s going to do it for you, you’ve got to do it alone. And I’m not saying that it has to be this particular person that helps you, but there is help there is support. If this door doesn’t open, go to another door, go to the door. If you show up and you can’t afford Karen’s, you know, VIP program, do her membership, like I have a membership program that is a low cost. And do that consistently until you’re ready for the next step. keep taking those steps and ask for and receive support, especially as women, this culture of gum and I mean, it’s still comes up in me it’s still very vulnerable for me to some level, ask for support. I feel like there’s so many levels and edges that I have in it. I can just add each time I go to another level I look back, I’m like, what was I so worried about? What was so great was so bad about seeming weak and needy or whatever the heck stories I was telling myself, right? And it is willingness to sort of put yourself out there and ask for that next level because that’s what creates the consistency, then that you can take the action and have the results.
Karen Yankovich 36:26
Yeah, so true. So true. All right. So how can people get to know more about you and start to invest in you and the kind of things that you do?
Lana Shlafer 36:35
You can go to my website www.lanashlafer.com. We’ll put a link I’m sure to my book. I will give you a free copy of my book, grab it. Now. I don’t know how long it will be around my Kindle is out as well if you prefer that my print book is coming out in December 2020. And I feel like there’s a lot of different levels of engagement that you could have with this material. You don’t have to be a believer. I love skin. I’m a skeptic myself. So identify with that. Just try it, see the results, and choose what works. And I hope that something in this conversation has been useful. And if it is, find me on social media, let me know tag Karen and I, we want this to be a discussion. You know, human to human interaction is a real, like reward and a satisfying part of my experience because I don’t want it to just be something that people passively receive, ask questions, you know, engage in some way and keep taking those steps because the journey of 1000 miles is just step after step after step. And if you’re having a heck have a good time on that journey, you’re not so worried about where you’re going to get to and when and you can really have an epic life that feels miraculous every day.
Karen Yankovich 37:46
I’m just gonna just close on because you can’t you can’t beat that statement. Lana, thank you so much for being here. It was so fun to chat with you and I can’t wait to see I wish you tons of success with your book. And we didn’t really talk about it but you relocate from California to Puerto Rico recently, and that seems like it’s been a huge amount of fun for you as well. So congratulations on all the things you’ve got going on. It sounds like seems like things are, you know, you’re you’re doing some good manifesting in your own life.
Lana Shlafer 38:13
Thank you. And I’m so happy to have this conversation to connect with you finally. Yeah, the first of many more.
Karen Yankovich 38:20
I hope so. I hope so. Lana is amazing, isn’t she, I had so much fun chatting with her. And her book is so good. You have got to get her book and she’s offering you a free copy of it. If you click the link below, so check that out. You totally want to check our Lana’s book, and remember that I met Lana through human to human marketing, right? We were both a part of an origin of a group. And we met each other and we developed a relationship and is that human to human marketing that allows me to bring people like Nana onto the show for you. And you know, I get to go on other people’s shows and bring crazy amounts. business into my business with human to human marketing and we teach that in our free masterclass if you haven’t watched it yet, go to karenyankovich.com/masterclass and check it out. It’s on demand. You can watch it at any time. And I want to hear what you think of it. So remember, if you loved this show, share it with your social media so that we can get more visibility and then we in turn will give you more visibility by sharing that post. If you tag me @KarenYankovich. Use the hashtag #goodgirlsgetrich. And we’ll see you back here again next week for another episode of the good girls get rich podcast.