168 – Don’t be a Superhero. Be a Human Hero.

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Hello there. I’m your host, Karen Yankovich. And this is Episode 168 of the good girls get rich podcast. And this episode is brought to you by she’s linked up where we teach simple relationship and heart based LinkedIn marketing to women that gets them on the phone consistently with their perfect people. People that they’ve been dreaming of building relationships with that will change their business, their life, their bank accounts for ever. We create wealthy women of influence here at she’s linked up. Basically what we do is we help you with digital marketing with a human touch human to human marketing, because that’s where the biggest opportunities happen. So if you listened before, if you love what you hear today, you know, we love to hear from you. Please subscribe to this podcast, leave us a review. 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But there’s an episode I did in a couple years ago, maybe a year ago, talking about my journey through superheroes, right? superheroes? Yeah, you heard that, right. So you know, we’ve heard it right. We’ve heard all behind all before. Like, we’re Wonder Woman, we’re women, we’re entrepreneurs, we can do anything, especially women, right? I can do anything, fire up the bacon, you know, serve it up in the pan or whatever. However that story goes, right. And I remember a few years ago, I was you know, on on that journey right on that journey of what’s my superhero. In fact, I’ve been interviewed on podcasts and you know, YouTube channels. And sometimes the question they ask is, who’s the superhero that you identify the most with? And, you know, at the time, I thought that was important, I needed to be a superhero. So I was Wonder Woman, right. And I actually had those of you that know, touchdown crystals. I had touched on crystal bracelets, I had like a red one, a blue one and a clear one. So I felt like I had the Wonder Woman cuff on. Right. And I, you know, I had a Wonder Woman mug, one of my friends. You know, we had we were having this conversation. And I was telling her about that. And she happened to have extra, you know, I have friends that have extra Wonder Woman cups and mugs. So she had an extra Wonder Woman mug and she gave me the mug and I was using the Wonder moment mug. And one morning, I was making myself some tea and I grabbed the Wonder Woman mug and I looked at it and I was like, I am exhausted. I’m exhausted. I don’t want to fight through everything. Wonder Woman fight through everything. The reason she has that cuffs is to fight her way through whatever right. And then right next to my Wonder Woman mug was a mug that says I want to be a mermaid. I was like I put the mode of Wonder Woman mug down, picked up the I want to be a mermaid cup up and said I want to be a mermaid. I don’t want to be Wonder Woman anymore. I want to just like swim with ease through you know, through life through business and really just have ease and an expansion and joy in my life. Right not have to fight all the time. You relate to that? Does the idea of having to be a superhuman to be successful, sound exhausting to you? Like what if we don’t have to be superhuman to be exhausted? What if we just had to be permitted to be exhausted? What if we didn’t have to be superhuman to be successful? What if we just had to be human? Right? What if we just had to be human? You know, I take a lot of coaching as well. I have a you know, a coaching program that I’m a part of. And it’s interesting because the you know, it’s a pretty high level coaching program. It is you know, it’s got a nice hefty price tag. And I you know, I work every diamond 10 times that right. But what’s really interesting to me is a couple of weeks, a couple months ago, a couple times a year, right? They have a virtual they have an event and the events have been virtual lately. So so they had this virtual event. And it was a three day event and the vast majority of the training in this event. No, there’s a business training course. Right? The vast majority of the training was about mindset. Not about how to you know click here do that. It was about mindset. It was about tapping into you know, and I will say they do a lot of deal. They do a lot of talk chat talking about superheroes. And, you know, I’m not no disrespect to any of that you feel good about being a superhero, you can be a superhero. But I feel like we can just be a hero. But the point here really is, is tapping into yourself tapping into the genius that’s already inside of you, the genius that’s already inside of human you, right? And if you don’t have that piece, right, nothing else really works. Right? Right. If you don’t have your mindset in the right place, nothing else really works, right? So three days, a three day event, a business event, and the I would say 75% of what the trainings were about what the lectures were about what the talks were about your mindset, focus, not click here, do this, do that. Because without your mindset, nothing else works. Right? So I really, you know, it’s been something I’ve talked about a lot, and I’ve never, and I probably have mentioned this on this show before, but I really wanted to do a whole episode about this. Because, you know, as we are, you know, opening the doors back into whatever the new chapter of our life looks like post pandemic, right? We don’t, we’re crafting, maybe a new journey. And, and I want you to know that you don’t have to be superhuman to be successful, and you got to give yourself a little grace, right? You’ve got to give yourself a little grace. It’s interesting. Yesterday, I had a friend come over, just for the day, one of my friends came over and, you know, we barbecued and chatted and you know, went out. I live near the beach. So we took a ride and we you know, checked out the beach and blah, blah, blah. And when she came home, she can we came back she left like shuffling until like 630 Okay, like this did not go on till 10 o’clock at night. And I, I like cleaned up this morning. I just was like, I was tired. I haven’t done that in so long, right? And it’s not like I don’t have the energy. I mean, I work a lot. I run around like crazy. I do a lot of things. I babysit my grandkids, they certainly are exhausted. But you know, as I’m doing, we’re doing things that we used to do all the time that we haven’t done in a while. It’s kind of relearning that muscle and there’s some muscle memory there, of course, right. But that’s why I want you to know, like, it’s okay, like so I kind of gave myself the grace. I’m like, you know what, I never go to bed with like dishes in my sink and stuff like that. But I just did. I was like, I’m leaving it. I’m leaving it. I’m gonna do it tomorrow morning. And that’s just gonna have to be okay. Right. And it wasn’t even and it wasn’t that I was exhausted. And I couldn’t physically do it. I just gave myself the grace to do it. I’m like, I don’t have to do all this today. Right? It’s okay to just do this with ease. And it felt more like doing it with ease to just wait. Right? And that’s, you know, super huge supermom super woman, Karen would have done everything before it like had the house spotless before she went to bed. But human Karen said, let’s just leave it. Right. So that’s kind of the mindset I want you in, you know, as we knew this now, you know, it’s it’s 9am as I’m not even 7:30am. So I’m recording this and the dishes are done, right. So like, it’s still good still happens, you still like life is still good when you’re not super human. So the first thing I want to talk about, kind of again, and I mentioned this already, but I want to talk it again, I want to talk to you about the importance of your mindset in your success. Okay, now remember, you are human, as a human being you have a conscious mind, you have a subconscious mind, all of that works together, right? To help you have the kinds of days and weeks and months and years you want to have. You know, who knew who knew this was going to be such I mean, I certainly didn’t realize that it was going to be such a big part of my life. You know, as I as I, as I go into the next chapters of my life, you know, I remember when the secret came out, remember that book, The Secret? I remember when that secret came out the book, The Secret came out, and I remember listening to it, and thinking, do I think that if I go to bed at night and think that there’s going to be a bright shiny boat in my driveway when I wake up that that’s going to happen? No. And I and I think that’s the critics was saying that, but here’s what I knew instantly when I heard when I read that book, I knew instantly that if I believed that there was never going to be a boat in my driveway, that there was never going to be a boat in my driveway. Right? So So we know that right? Like we’ve heard people there you know, they just maybe they have not such a positive mindset and like this is never gonna happen that’s never gonna happen. like yeah, it’s never gonna happen cuz you keep telling me it’s never gonna happen. Right? So why can’t the opposite be true? Why can’t the opposite be true? Why can’t we have the mindset and you know, I have a morning mindset practice and my morning mindset practice involves every single morning, every single morning without fail, I do not miss this. I will miss a podcast episode. I do not miss this mindset, morning mindset routine that I have. And a big part of it is visualization. How do I What do I want to see in the next chapter of my life? Who’s in that chapter? Where am I? What am I feeling thinking smelling? Seeing hearing, right? Like what’s happening as I am going through the upcoming chapter my life like I visualized that right. So so that and I know that many of you that understand manifestation and visualization, all that Understand this, but but that, to me, is a big part of, of my successes, right? my mindset, my thinking big mindset, my being confident mindset. So when you are, you know, and again, this is within you, this is within human, you, you don’t need to be superhuman to have to be able to visualize, to be able to have a morning practice where you really set your mindset for the day, right? This is human, but human, you can do what some people might call superhuman things and superhero things. Because they, you know, are seeing they see these things happening in my life or your life. And I’m like, well, she works really hard. Well, yeah, work hard. But you know, what, I don’t work as many hours as I used to work, you know, like, I visualize what I want my life to look like. And the more I visualize that, the more I have the kind of success I want to have within the boundaries that I want to have that success in. Right? Does that make sense? So the first thing I really want you to understand is that this is mindset, you can have a mindset that helps you achieve what you might have thought were superhuman achievements, which is being human without being exhausted without having to wear the Wonder Woman cuffs. And then the second thing that I want to mention is that, you know, you have to be ready to learn, I am always learning I’m always, I can’t even tell you, I really have to have a moratorium on buying more books. I’m always buying books, and I always have, right I always have. But I you know, I’m always learning. I’m always, you know, reading books, or listening to podcasts and listening to trainings. But most importantly, what I’ve learned, and all that learning is the importance of unlearning, right? For me to be really successful, and whatever success looks like to me, right, human, there’s a lot that I needed to unlearn. Okay, and one of the things I needed to unlearn is the fact that I didn’t have to be super, you don’t have to be superhuman to be able to do these things, that I could do these things in a, you know, in an with ease, right within an expansive environment. So what is it that you need to unlearn? What is it that maybe you say you talk the talk, but you don’t walk the walk. So let me give you an example of that, like, I talk the talk about having a life with ease. And I want to, you know, I have, like I said, I do a lot of visualization. And then I don’t want to work 10 hour days, seven days a week, but I gotta tell you, that sometimes happens. And it recently happened again, when my daughter had a baby, which you know, amazing, a beautiful little new, new little grandson. And I was helping, I’m going over there to help her a couple days a week. Now, this is the life that I’ve dreamed up. This is the life that I’ve created for myself having a business where I can do that, where I can work from my daughter’s house, help her with the baby, right? And then you know, do my front of like, if you know Michael Hyatt my front stage, right days, on the days that I’m not with her where I need to, you know, meet with clients and things like that. But when I first started doing it, it took a while because I needed to unlearn like I needed to unlearn a lot of things like I thought that I needed to do all this stuff to be able to do that. And what I was doing was burning myself out, right. So I needed to just I needed to learn, I needed to kind of walk that talk, and I needed to unlearn things like the dishes have to be done before you go to bed every night, right? I mean, that’s a silly thing. But there are so many things that I needed to learn, right, especially as a woman who grew up in, you know, the 70s and 80s. Like, you, you know, we were taught things very differently than our daughters are taught today. So what do you need to unlearn, in order to be able to be to not have to feel like you need to be superhuman, and fight your way through to have a successful business. And then the last thing I want to talk about is kind of being a hero, like let’s talk about like being a superhero, right, like superhero, like, like I mentioned to you sometimes when I get interviewed on podcasts or YouTube videos or things like that, you get, you know, questions ahead of time. And more than once one of the questions has been who’s you know, what’s, who’s the superhero that you identify with? Honestly, I hate that question. And I tell them that I don’t want to be a superhero. But here’s the thing, it doesn’t mean that I’m not a hero, it doesn’t mean that you’re not a hero, to not be a superhero. Okay, I’m going to tell you a little bit about a story that I heard over this weekend. Actually, I’m as I’m recording this. It was a fourth of July weekend, and I saw a video from a guy that grew up in the town that I raised my kids in, who was in at the you know, I live at the beach now and he happened to be right near where I live now. And it was on a lagoon. And there was a deer a baby deer in the lagoon. And all these people were like talking looking at oh my gosh, oh my gosh, and this guy was like, Well, I’m not gonna let him go. He jumped in, he jumped in the lagoon swim over to the baby deer picked up the baby deer carried him out of the water, you know, somehow climbed up with the deer in his hand on just companies, some poor, unsuspecting families, Doc, and, you know, kind of walked in. And then I guess people came around and drove them and they and they brought the deer back into the woods. Now, you know that, you know, of course, everybody’s talking about him as a hero. And, and that’s absolutely true. I mean, this guy is a hero, there was a million people there, he’s the guy that jumped in, right? But you don’t. And I’m not and I don’t want to take anything away from him. Because that is a heroic thing to do. But it’s also heroic, to be a coach who changes someone’s life. It’s also heroic, to be a therapist or a, you know, whatever it is you do, if you’re changing lives, if people’s lives are better, because you’re in it, you are a hero, you are a hero, you don’t have to be a superhero. You don’t have to be, you know, like, we know we have this superhero stuff inside of us. Because we’ve seen video will not videos, because there’s typically no videos of this up. But we’ve heard stories about moms who lift up the car to get their kids stuck underneath of it, right? Who would never be able to do it in a normal day, like we have. But that’s a human, she’s human that mom, chat is human. These are not superhero skills. These are human heroes. So what if you were just a human hero, and not a superhero. And you could be a human hero with ease in your life, right. And you can be a hero that, that changes people’s lives. And that impacts the world for the better. When you’re donating, you know, whether it’s money or time or whatever, to nonprofit causes, you’re not superhuman, you’re not a superhero, you’re a human who’s a hero. Right? You can do more of that when you are running a successful business. And you can be a human hero, you know, to be to be running a successful business, you don’t have to be a superhero, to run a successful business. So you don’t have to be Wonder Woman. You can just be human woman. How does that feel? Does it feel good? Does it feel good to know that you can like that you don’t that you can just let that go. You can unlearn the idea of having to be superhuman, to be able to be successful, to be able to have successful kids, you know, and you got to learn unlearn things, let things go create a life with ease. So let me just recap this for a second. The importance of your mindset, right? You the importance of your mindset, like visualization is more powerful than those wonderwoman cops, okay? You don’t have to fight your way to get what you want. I mean, think about this for a second, what if there’s something that you really want to go your way, whatever that is, and you’re just getting flack, whether it’s your family, or your test your team or we are neighbors, whatever it is, you can fight with them, get out the coughs, right, and maybe you’ll come out, but that’s exhausting. Or you can start to visualize the outcome you want. And I am not going to kid you. When I tell you when that starts, when things start to happen. The way you visualize them, when you had the mindset of this. It changes everything in your life. Because it’s a it is a it is a tool that we all have our it’s a tool that every human has. Don’t need to be superhuman to have that tool, and then be ready to learn and more importantly, unlearn. Think about what you have to unlearn to be able to be, you know, superhuman, or human hero not superhuman, to ready to be human hero, a human hero. What do you need to unlearn? And then know that you don’t have to be a superhero, you can still be a hero, without having to be a superhero. And you probably are a hero. And if you’re listening to this and say, I don’t need to be a hero, because I know you. I know a lot of you women, I talk to you all the time. You’re like I don’t want I just want to help. You want to help people, you’re a hero. So I want you to own that rose Blitzer. That’s an episode for not that’s a topic for another episode. But just know that you are not a superhero, but you are still a hero. You’re just a human hero. So like, what is this change? I really want to know what this when you listen to this episode, did it shift anything, did anything shift around this? Because I really truly want you to be the mermaid, not the Wonder Woman and then still have the kinds of success in your life and in your business that you really want to have. I you know, I can tell you story after story after story about the time that this happened in my life. And I bet that you could tell me some of the same stories. But yet we still we what we learned was that we have to do doo doo doo doo doo doo to make things happen. You have every human has these powers within them to bring about these kinds of change this kind of success, right? without having to leap tall buildings in a single bound. Okay, so I would love for you to to you know if you are not a member of our Facebook group yet join the Facebook group well there’s a link in that you can actually go to LinkedIn for women community comm or there’ll be a link obviously Karen Yankovich comm slash 168 and be around like minded people and let me know what your human hero skills are and if you’ve got experience with this because I want to know this you know I mentioned earlier at our in our she’s linked up family we create wealthy women of influence right and wealthy women of influence we’re all heroes we’re all heroes. It all starts with our on demand masterclass. I would love for you to join us in that masterclass you can go to Karen Yankovich comm slash masterclass. And check that out. A rising tide lifts all boats, right, I do this podcast to support you, I’ve got this free training course the masterclass to help you get started with your journey to you know what’s and obviously there’s a lot of LinkedIn chatting in here because a lot of this is owning this owning your your hero your human hero skills and you know, the the amazingness that is you and you got to shine a light on that. And LinkedIn is the place to do that. So that that I do all of that to support you. Let’s lift each other up. Help me Help you share this podcast, take a quick screenshot of this episode on your phone, share it on social, I’ll share it with my audience and we’ll both get some more visibility. And let’s be human and kick some 2021 booty together. I want this to be simple. And let’s create a simple mermaid Empire together. I’ll see you back here again next week for another episode of the good girls get rich podcast.