164 – How to use LinkedIn to Strengthen Your Commitment to Diversity, Equality, and Inclusion

by | Jun 21, 2021 | Podcasts

This week’s episode of Good Girls Get Rich is brought to you by Uplevel Media CEO and LinkedIn expert, Karen Yankovich. In this episode, Karen shares why Uplevel Media is being intentional in strengthening our commitment to diversity, equality, and inclusion.

Our world is ever-changing and becoming more inclusive. We believe it’s important that we become inclusive with it.

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About the Episode:

When is the last time you looked at your company or personal brand? Are you being inclusive?

It’s easy to feel like you’re being inclusive while failing to show it in your branding and advertising.

What are some ways you can begin to show your inclusion? First off, LinkedIn is rolling out the ability to display your preferred pronouns on your profile. Add your preferred pronouns to help normalize the practice.

How about your visuals on LinkedIn? Are they inclusive? Does the wording on your profile unintentionally sound racist?

By making these changes and more, you can start to show your inclusion!

Episode Spotlights:

  • Where to find everything for this week’s episode: karenyankovich.com/164
  • Introducing this episode’s topic (1:30)
  • Preferred pronouns on LinkedIn (5:05)
  • Look at your visuals on LinkedIn (6:45)
  • The words on your profile (9:27)
  • Modify your job offerings on LinkedIn (11:27)
  • Inclusive keyword strategy (12:10)
  • Episode recap (13:44)

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Karen Yankovich 0:00
You’re listening to the good girls get rich podcast episode 164.

Intro 0:06
Welcome to the good girls get rich podcast with your host, Karen Yankovich. This is where we embrace how good you are girl, stop being the best kept secret in town, learn how to use simple LinkedIn and social media strategies and make the big bucks.

Karen Yankovich 0:23
Hello, I’m Karen Yankovich. And this is Episode 164 of the good girls get rich podcast. And this podcast is brought to you by she’s linked up where we teach simple relationship and heart based LinkedIn marketing to women that gets them on the phone consistently with perfect people building your network full of people who will change your business, your life and your bank account forever. In the she’s linked up family, we create wealthy women. And if you’ve listened before, or if you love what you hear today, we love hearing from you. So make sure that you subscribe to this podcast, leave us a review wherever you’re listening and share this episode on your social media use the hashtag good girls get rich tag me I’m at Karen Yankovich, I’ll be sure to share your post when I see it with my audience. And that’s how we lift each other up. That’s how we all get more visibility. Just go to Karen Yankovich comm slash 164 you can see the blog for this page, you’ll see a link to speak pipe where you can leave us an audio message. You’ll also see any of the links we talked about. And we’re talking about a lot of links in this show here today. And we love hearing from you. So this is this is you know, it’s June of 2021, while I’m recording this and when it’s going to be released, and it’s Pride Month here in the US or maybe in the world. And you know, I am a straight white woman business owner, right? So I am forever a student of diversity, equity and inclusion. And you know, I am always looking to get better at this and always looking to learn about this. And more recently, it has become important to me to not just talk about how we as uplevel media, and she’s think that family can be more of a champion to the diversity, equity inclusion, our friends, our diverse friends, but also the work we do with our clients. Right? We’re helping women primarily, but we help people show up in the world and really shine a light on their greatness. And you know, initially we weren’t doing this, we weren’t really even considering, like, do we include their preferred pronouns, like didn’t even occur to me that we should do that stuff, right? That’s why I’m going to be a forever student, cuz I’m sure there’s things at this moment in time that are still not occurring to me, right. So you know, LinkedIn is starting to step into this arena, which is why I thought it would be important to do this episode, for all of you, you know, as I mentioned, is June 2021. And if you’re if you look at your LinkedIn profile today, with your listen to this, while it’s still june of 2021, they’ve got their logo was rainbow, right. And it’s a little thing, but it shows support, it shows support, and not a lot of other social media platforms are doing this stuff. Some are doing more than others. And it’s, you know, it’s so Okay, so what they have a rainbow logo, but it shows support, and I feel like every little thing that we can do to support our friends that are more of a diverse population, then we should be doing that. Right? We should be doing that. A couple of guys, maybe a year ago now we did a podcast episode, you know, I had two women of color, working at uplevel media, it was Episode 123. So Karen Yankovich, calm slash 123. And we talked a little bit about how we could incorporate better dei practices into uplevel. Media. So you know, we just had like a little bit of a live no holds barred brainstorm about that, because, you know, I’m just learning from everybody I can learn from, but one of the things we talked about was, you know, we don’t we never think to ask, when we do ratings and profiles, we’re never going to ask, you know, do you have preferred pronouns? Right? So we talked about that, like a year ago? Well, you know, since then we’ve started asking questions like that as we’re writing your profiles. So maybe you can relate to this, you know, maybe you’ve seen people doing, you know, doing some of this, you’re not sure how to do it for yourself. And that’s really why I’m doing this episode today to give you a couple of tips to just keep you moving in what I feel like is the right direction, right? So as I was doing this episode, I did a lot of research. And I’m going to share some of the links to some of the research that I did in this, I could have spent another six months doing research. I really wanted to get this episode out in June of 2021. And I tried to keep my research focused on the work that LinkedIn is doing because like I said, I could have gone a million different directions. So I’m impressed with the work that LinkedIn is doing around dei and I wanted to share some of that work with you. So that’s where I got some of the research for a lot of the things I’m going to talk about on this episode. So I’ll share all of that in there. I’m not taking aren’t taking no credit for most of the things that are here. It’s just me kind of compiling this information together for you to make it easier for you to take some of the next steps in using LinkedIn in a way to really showcase your commitment to DNI. So one of the first things I want to talk about our preferred pronouns LinkedIn, I’m gonna say probably in maybe March or April, announced that they’re going to give us the ability to add our preferred pronouns to our profile. Now they rolled it out, I believe it’s rolled out to almost everyone, I didn’t get it, I only got it recently. But if you look at my LinkedIn profile, which will link here in the show notes as well, you’ll see next to mine, it says she in parentheses, she her next to my name. LinkedIn was, to my knowledge, the first social platform to bake that in, this is a baked in section, this is not where you have to like next to your name, put in parentheses, right, so that your name is now changed. This is a section that says, Do you want to share your preferred pronouns? And what are the pronouns you want to share? So LinkedIn, it’s actually in an editable field in their LinkedIn, in your LinkedIn profile? If you don’t see this, you will, it is being rolled out to everyone. Hopefully, I do think most people do have it now. But you know, take a step to do this. Listen, my preferred pronouns are obvious, right? I’m a woman, and my preferred pronouns are she and her, but by virtue of the fact that I’m including them, I’m normalizing this, right. And when I normalize it, I’m normalizing it for people whose preferred pronouns might not be so obvious, right? And then we get to be champions and supportive of people that are not identifying in a way that is as obvious as it as it is to me, right. So hopefully, that makes sense. So even if it’s not all that important to you what you’re called know that by using preferred pronouns as a field on your LinkedIn profile, you’re normalizing it for other people. So hopefully, that makes sense. So absolutely. Take a look. See if you have that option, and add it. The next thing I want you to do is take a look at your visuals on your LinkedIn profile. Now, I told you, I did a lot of research for this episode. So I looked at my visuals. And I’m like, Oh, yeah, this is not great, right. Like I had, I have a section on my LinkedIn profile where I list my podcasts, and I have a couple of episodes shared. And you know, again, I’m a white woman. And all the episodes are shared with white women. Now I’ve interviewed tons of amazing women of color, right? Why didn’t I showcase them? So I do now? Right? So look at your visuals, look at the media that you’re sharing. Just take a look at it from an outsider’s point of view. I of course, didn’t do this intentionally, right. But I now being intentional about making sure that I portray more of a diverse, you know, look when people look at my LinkedIn profile, so they know that I’m going out of my way to make sure that when I share media, I’m sharing media that that showcases my commitment to DNI right now, it wasn’t that because I didn’t do this before. It wasn’t I wasn’t committed to DNI, right? Like I said earlier, there’s gonna be, there’s probably more things that I’m not doing now that I want that when I realized that, I’ll be like, why am I not doing that? Why didn’t I do that? You know, I talked to a few. I got a while back on this podcast about a conference that I spoke at a million years ago. And, and the conference was a women of color connecting conference, and I was doing a LinkedIn training. I, I’m telling you, I learned more from that conference. And the people that were in my workshop, or awfully they learned from me as well. But I learned so much. One of the things, thankfully, my talk was in the afternoon, and I was I was sitting there in the morning, because every time I’m a speaker at an event, I do attend the entire event, I was a speaker there in the morning. And during one of the breaks, I was just kind of mindlessly scrolling through my presentation just to kind of, you know, just to familiarize myself make sure that I’m ready to go and I look at it. And I realized that every single visual in my profile was a white woman or a white guy, I was mortified, I quickly ran out, grabbed my laptop and did some updates to my profile. And now I intentionally make sure that there are people of color and a diverse, you know, I’m showcasing a diverse group of people when I do my presentations, right. I didn’t do it intentionally before, just like I didn’t intentionally share visuals that didn’t have people in color of people of color in them. Now, I am intentionally doing that. That makes sense. Hopefully, I feel like I’m going in circles a little bit with that. But I wanted to share that story to let you know, like this is I feel like this is a lifelong thing for me. And maybe it is for you too. So I as much as I could kick myself for this. The reality is I can’t I have to just know that this is a lifelong journey. And, you know, it’s not about doing something wrong, right? When I didn’t do it, it’s about know when you see it and you look at it differently. shifting it to it’s more in line with your values. And then the third piece of this that I want to talk about and this is really a bigger piece, right? It’s the the words that you’re using in your profile, right? The words that you use in your LinkedIn strategy. We use words like whitelist and blacklist, right they’re words with racial connotations. You know, you take them out, like look at the words and you and when you wrote them, right? You weren’t looking at it with thinking about the racial connotations. I know that but they have potentially racist overtones. So you want to swap them out, right and use something that’s more neutral. You know, I come from the technology world. And in computers, there’s, you know, a master in a sleeve, right? Like, obviously, those are not words you want to use. Now, if you are, if you want to eliminate potentially racist overtones in your profile, intentionally do this, look at the word you’re using, even if they don’t have an entire racist overtone in your mind, they might in other people’s minds, right? So swap them out, be mindful of how the words you’re using might make other people feel, you know, this is another thing you may want to do is convert all your language to more gender neutral language, right use words like they, instead of using, you know, he or she, we tend to default to E, right, we tend to default to men, right? So convert the descriptions in what you’re doing to, you know, when you’re talking about your clients, and listen, if you have clients, like I have clients that are women, if I’m talking about a specific woman, I’m going to use her preferred pronouns, right. But you know, look for gender words, like gender coded words, that might like the example and I’m going to link to all of the places I saw this research, but the example that I saw was like words like aggressive or dominant dissuade women from engaging in the content, right. So if you are looking to, to really have your profile appeal to a larger audience, then you don’t want to use that. So there’s a platform called text.io, that will help you see what the content that you’re using. And then there’s, there’s other free apps, I’m going to link all of those in the show notes that you can see that you can check for gender coded words, okay. And then the other thing when you’re thinking about your copy, think about like a lot of people use LinkedIn to right put to post job offerings, right, maybe you’re hiring a VA, or maybe you’re hiring, you know, an assistant or an executive assistant or a CFO, right. So ideally, what you want to focus on is what your new hire is going to be expected to achieve right in a month or six months or a year, not the qualifications that they have to have. So that you will get a wider representation, and a more diverse representation of applicants for that position. Okay, so hopefully that makes sense. There’s some other apps that we can talk here, about, there’s an app called gender decoder, I’m going to link all of these in the Resources tab in the show notes. So check all of that stuff out, that can help you with all of this. But at the end of the day, what you want to have is a keyword strategy. Like we are always talking about keyword strategies here on LinkedIn. But you want it to be an inclusive keyword strategy. So once you’re creating like one of the things we do when we write LinkedIn profiles, is we identify what all of your keywords are. We then now Now we didn’t before, but now we take a look at it and say, is this keyword strategy inclusive? Right? And you know, sometimes it changes in some many times it doesn’t change. But now it’s now we’ve looked at it where before we didn’t, right, does that make sense? There’s a term that I learned as I was doing the research for this episode. And the term is called woke washing. And I literally had to listen to that a few times. So like, what is it woke washing. And woke washing is when a corporation or an institution or an individual says or does something that signals their advocacy for a marginalized cause, but then continues to cause harm to that vulnerable community, right? Here’s the deal. When you know better, you’ve got to do better, we need to improve our processes, we need to reflect on what we do internally, we need to reflect on our customers touch points. And then and then take action on it. Because if you’re not taking action on it, if you’re just saying like, Yes, I support Black Lives Matter, but you’re not taking action to look at something simple, like your LinkedIn profile to see if you are really being inclusive and how you describe yourself and the work you do and the commitment you have, then your work, work washing, right, then you’re doing exactly what you’re you might even not know you’re doing it. But I’m here to tell you that you are doing it, I’m doing it, I’m probably always going to be doing it right. But I’m always going to be trying to get better at this. So just take the time to do this. Right. Let me just recap this a second. And then we’ll talk about how to take the time to do this. You there’s LinkedIn has a section that allows you to put your preferred pronouns and by all means do that, by all means do that, use that if you got that feature, do that, because it just shows your your commitment to normalizing. Use the use of preferred pronouns, right? Take a look at your visuals. Make sure when you people look visually at your profile, your LinkedIn profile, that the media you’re sharing, and the the images that you’re sharing, you know, represents the diverse world that you that you live in, and that you put out to the world and the people that you work with, right? Make sure that you’re doing that and change when you need to change it. It’s not wrong if you didn’t do it this way. But now’s the time to change it. And then take a look at your words, take literally look at your words on your profile. Make sure you’re not using words like whitelisting make sure you’re using, you know, more general neutral language and, and again, you know, if you’re looking for a diverse group of people, you know, that are that are responding maybe to your content, maybe you’re putting content out there, or maybe you’re putting you know, a job application out there. Do it in a way that you’re you’re going to be attracting the most diverse population. And that happens and the case that I saw in this article that I’m in link to you is, you know, taking out the checklist of skills and writing more results based things. So hopefully that helps. So how do you get started? How do you get started, be the person who is always, always always making small changes like these to your LinkedIn profile, so that you’re walking the walk, not just talking the talk. This is a marathon. It’s not a sprint. It’s a long term commitment. But if you truly have a commitment to DNI, then taking a look at it from a LinkedIn profile perspective, is just one small step that can help you move towards bigger commitments in this LinkedIn is the place to tell your story. It’s the story of you it’s the story of your personal brand, right? If you’re like me, maybe you just move through the day and forget to go back and reflect on things like that presentation that I did, right until I until like, I thankfully realized that it right you’ve got a lot of stuff already out there. Take the time Take the time. Take this episode as your reminder to go and do this. And LinkedIn is just one small places lots of other places you can do this, but your LinkedIn profile and your LinkedIn strategy is one small place that you can take action today right to show your commitment right put a stake in the ground declare your values let your values guide you to learning you know to really showing up for the way you want to be seen and for the people you want to show up for you know as she’s linked up in our she’s linked up family we create wealthy women you heard me say that we are committed to supporting women of all races, all identities, right? And we talk about women honestly we take men to we don’t care what your body parts are who your you know how you identify, but we do feel that women are feeling underrepresented on LinkedIn and we are here to make you feel more comfortable right it all starts with our on demand masterclass, you can check that out and the link is below but you can go to that at water that money tree comm you know that I think LinkedIn could be your money tree. I hope that this was helpful to you. I hope that you understand that. There’s just a few small things you can do to take. I think I think a big action towards your commitment to DNI I do this podcast to support you I’ve got this free training course that helps you that the word of that money tree.com to help you get started with your profile. It’s really the first step to your LinkedIn success. Let’s lift each other up if this was helpful to you, if you think that there’s people in your audience that don’t know some of these tiny little things we talked about on this podcast say that could make a big impact than share this podcast helped me help you take a quick screenshot of this episode on your phone share that on social also. I will share it with my audience. I want you to get more visibility. I want to help you do that. I am here to support you. I want this to be simple for you. Let’s create this simple business empire together. And I will see you back here again next week for another episode of the good girls get rich podcast

163 – You Deserve a Retreat with Amy Ries

by | Jun 14, 2021 | Podcasts

This week’s episode of Good Girls Get Rich is brought to you by Uplevel Media CEO and LinkedIn expert, Karen Yankovich. In this episode, guest Amy Ries and Karen discuss why you should take a retreat and focus on yourself.

Amy Ries is the Founder and CEO of RETREAT. Amy curates and leads luxury retreats and transformational coaching for women to discover their most authentic, empowered, and truest version of themselves.

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As women, we’re hardwired to focus on others. Whether that be our spouses, our kids, our friends, our employees, or anyone else, we often don’t leave adequate time to care of ourselves.

Amy Ries believes that women should take at least three days a year to focus only on themselves, free from any and all distractions.

Going on a retreat is the perfect way to get the much-needed “me time,” especially Amy’s retreats! During the retreats that Amy curates and leads, you’ll discover the most authentic, empowered, and truest version of yourself.

Listen to Episode 163, find out how to sign up for one of Amy Ries’s retreats*, and start prioritizing yourself!

*Note: The date of Amy’s next retreat has been changed from August 2021 to November 2021.

Episode Spotlights:

  • Where to find everything for this week’s episode: karenyankovich.com/163
  • Introducing this episode’s guest, Amy Ries (2:02)
  • Amy’s story (4:31)
  • Efficiency is important (16:56)
  • Examples of change that happens at retreats (18:32)
  • How to justify retreats (24:13)
  • Amy’s next retreat* (33:44)

*Note: The date of Amy’s next retreat has been changed from August 2021 to November 2021.

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Karen Yankovich 0:00
You’re listening to the good girls get rich podcast episode 163.

Intro 0:06
Welcome to the good girls get rich podcast with your host, Karen Yankovich. This is where we embrace how good you are girl, stop being the best kept secret in town, learn how to use simple LinkedIn and social media strategies and make the big bucks.

Karen Yankovich 0:24
Hello there. I’m your host, Karen Yankovich. And this is Episode 163 of the good girls get rich podcast and this podcast and this episode is brought to you by our she’s linked up family where we teach women simple relationship and heart based LinkedIn marketing strategies that gets them on the phone gets them seen gets them heard gets them viewed differently for the maybe the first time in their lives by their perfect people, people who change their business, their life and our bank accounts for ever. We are creating wealthy women as she’s linked up. And I am excited today because we’re actually going to introduce you to Amy Reese today who is a member of our she’s linked up family. But before we do that, if you love what you’re hearing today, take a quick screenshot of the podcast that you’re listening to on your phone or wherever you’re listening and share it on your social media use the hashtag good girls get rich tag me I’m at Karen Yankovich tag, Amy will link to Amy’s links below and share it with your audience that helps us get more visibility. And in turn, we will share your posts with our audience. And we have you know, hundreds of 1000s of followers. So we will share it with our audience. And that gets you more visibility. And that’s how we lift each other up. So I would love for you to do that in the show notes. There’s a link for speakpipe where you can leave us an audio message and in that audio message maybe you could leave us a review. Or maybe it is a you’ve got to guess Do you think we should interview or a topic you’d like me to cover on the show any of those things, just leave us a message on the link in the show notes for speakpipe You can find those notes at Karen Yankovich comm slash 163. I am really excited to introduce Amy Reese to you today Amy is a member of our she’s linked up community. And we have so many amazing women that are part of this community that I decided it was time that I started shining a light on them. I teach them how to shine a light on themselves. And now I want to help them by shining a light on them as well. So Amy Reese is going to be joining us today and Amy runs retreats for women and I’m gonna let her tell you about them because I cannot do it justice. But just know that I think it’s so in line are so aligned with the messages that I teach on this podcast that you need to just run not walk over to Amy’s website and book a call with her so that you can hear about these retreats. They are absolutely life changing. And they’re going to book fast. And I’ve got her agreeing to hold some spots for our audience. So I would love that to be you. But first listening without further ado, we’ve got Amy Ries. We have Amy Ries with us today and Amy Ries is the founder and CEO of retreat. Amy curates and leads luxury retreats and transformational coaching for women to discover their most authentic, empowered and truest version of themselves. Prior to retreat, Amy’s 20 year career spans both the fortune 100 and fast growing international startup. And he left the corporate world from the C suite determined to follow a path of passion, freedom and fun while serving executive women. And now she’s combining her love of personalized coaching luxury travel and the core belief that we all need to prioritize ourselves. Retreat was born and she lives in Doylestown, Pennsylvania with her husband and three daughters and two doodles, when she’s not exploring fabulous future retreat locations, Amy can be found restoring her 180 year old farmhouse learning to horseback ride, or her favorite coaching All Star cheerleading. Amy, I’m so excited to have you here today.

Amy Ries 3:45
I am so excited to be here. Thank you so much, Karen, I can’t wait to jump in and get started.

Karen Yankovich 3:50
Well, hopefully if you’re those of you that’s listening, when you heard Amy helps women discover their most authentic, empowered and truest version of themselves. You knew I wanted to have Amy on the show, right? Because that’s exactly what we’re all about here. Really, you know, good girls get rich when you do what you’re good at. And you just lean into that and really shine a light on that. That’s where all the abundance comes into your life. And I think Amy you really do a great job of shining a light on that. And we met because Amy is a student in our she’s linked up accelerator program or has gone through that program. And we It was fun to be able to work with Amy to help Amy kind of just get some clarity around the retreat and helping her show up right as her most authentic, empowered and truest version of herself. So Amy, what, tell us a little bit I want to take a step back in your journey and say like, what, what made you know, like, what was the moment that you were like, I gotta get out of the C suite job and do something else like what was there a moment that had to be a moment.

Amy Ries 4:45
There definitely was a moment I don’t usually talk about this actually. But it’s very clear in my mind, I was on vacation with my family. We were at the Grand Floridian in Walt Disney World and I was desperate really needed a vacation. So I had booked this family trip. And about a day or two before I left, I was told by the chairman of our board that I had to be on a meeting. And I knew they knew it was the only vacation I took all year, but that I had to be on this meeting, and I couldn’t spend the time. Anyway, long story short, I ended up being on a call at 5am. sitting on the edge of the bathroom on the edge of the tub in the Grand Floridian bathroom trying to whisper to not wake up my three daughters in the next room, and thought to myself, something needs to change. This is not the life that I thought I had built for myself, to be honest, I was paranoid that I was going to wake up my girls and they would get some sort of thought or validation that maybe my work mattered more than they did. Because on on one family vacation, I was prioritizing work. And it was a really hard reflection, literally looking at myself in the mirror that morning, saying something in my life needs to change. Because while I have a great job and a great title and a great salary, this isn’t the life I want to be living.

Karen Yankovich 6:09
Wow. So that took that took guts. That took guts. So what happened? What did you did you What did it take you to?

Amy Ries 6:16
Yeah, it wasn’t an overnight process. It was definitely required a lot of exploration on my part. A lot of it was a very, you know, when you have a 20 year corporate career, most people don’t overnight, just change some people do. But if you’re being intentional about it, it was really a process of thinking about and coming to grips with the fact that I was going to walk away from this much of my identity was tied up in that. And so for me, that was the biggest thing that I had to get acceptance with. And after that, once I realized, yep, I 100% want to make a change, then it was about sort of the life say the longest breakup in history, it was sort of a long process of meat, you know, moving from full time to contract to out and then the discovery process of Okay, now what am I going to do for the next 20 years of my career?

Karen Yankovich 7:04
Wow. So then what brought you to retreats?

Amy Ries 7:07
Yes. So when I took the time off, and I said, I’m not jumping, committed to myself that I’m not jumping from the frying pan to the fire. I really wanted to spend some time with me, I hadn’t had spent time I’ve been working since I’ve been 13. I was about 40 at the time. And I really just want to reconnect with what makes me happy, really like what I love what I do love working. I love my family, of course, but what makes me tick what makes me happy. And so I started I myself, when I’m multiple retreats, I myself started working with a coach, I started doing things just for fun. That’s when I started horseback riding, just because I wanted to and it was fun. It’s why I started coaching all starts here because I wanted to and it was fun. And I started to bring different passion and joy areas into my life while strategically planning ahead. which got me to the point of moving in deciding that coaching is what I love to do. And it’s what I’ve always loved to do even in the corporate world, and then specifically to retreats because for me, that was the biggest game changer. I found that you know, Coach it, I am a coach, I love coaching. But the three nights on retreat when you’re away from the chaos and the hectic of your daily life and you’re able to focus in and zone in on yourself. Under the right guidance that is life transformational. You have such clarity and such breakthroughs that you don’t have when you’re just on the phone with someone that for me, I was like this is the best use of my time. This is how I want to help busy women who have no time. I want to give them this gift of spending time with themselves reconnecting with themselves fig figuring out in three nights what took me a year to figure out because now I’ve gone through the process and know how to do it.

Karen Yankovich 8:53
Yes, yes. That’s such a that’s such a key point in this right figuring it out in three days. What took you a year and in many cases, probably more than a year. Me it probably took us many years. To come to that. Right. So closer to three. But yeah, yeah. So obviously I hear the word retreat. And I’m like, I’m in right so but tell me because I hope I who doesn’t want that but in reality, right in reality that I am not like I’m you know, ahead of you in the families Did you my kids are grown, they’re having their own kids, right. So, so I don’t have you know, the I’m not as tied down. Maybe as somebody whose kids are younger, I still don’t make time to do the retreats enough. Right. And that’s on me. And that but I also know how valuable it is because I do do it. I do it so far. I’m doing it once a year now. I want to maybe even get to more than that because I do I completely agree with you. You know, I I’m not a big fan of the word accountability. I feel like we’re grownups we can hold ourselves I don’t need somebody else to hold me accountable. But at the same time when I’m in my house, which is just you know, there’s nobody bothering me here. I can get done whatever I can get done. I get just it’s easy to get distracted by stupid things like laundry, a drain that needs to get fixed, right so like even when I say All right, I’m going to take these next three hours, I’m going to really focus on this. When I’m in my house, it doesn’t matter how, how accountable I try to be or how focused I try to be, I, it’s so easy to get pulled by looking out the window and your neighbor doing something or like looking out the window and seeing a plant that needs to be watered, right. So, so taking yourself out of your out of your environment, and putting yourself in another place right off the bat, I think is hugely helpful.

Amy Ries 10:26
Oh, it’s hugely helpful. And as women, most of us just by nature, when like you said, all the things that catch your eye and distract you, all of that stuff, whether it’s your work, or your kids, or your family or your house comes before you, right, that’s just how so many of us are wired. And so our to do list keeps falling lower and upper and lower on the you know, grand to do list, if you will. So I completely agree the 90%, you know, I would say 90, that might be high. But the the majority of the benefit of the retreat is that you’re away that you’re actually out of the chaos, you’re out of the overwhelm your mental to to to do list has stopped running, and you’re able to relax, you’re able to focus, you’re able to walk away from your phone works, not bothering you, your family’s not bothering you, the laundry is not bothering you. And you’re given permission with a small group of women who live the same way you do to say, okay, for these next three to four days, it’s all about us. And it’s never all about us. But in 365 days a year, I believe women should at least have three days that it is all about them.

Karen Yankovich 11:40
Totally 100%. And I’m I don’t know how many times I’ve said this on the podcast to date, maybe not before this episode, but I know because it is a fairly recent statistic. But it’s a study which just recently done a me that and I was saying, I’ve been saying this for a couple months now. But a study was recently done that said, as a year ago, or a year and a half ago, like say in 2019, early 2020. If things continued at the rate that they were at the gender wage gap would take about 99 years to be equal. So in 99 years, it’s gonna take it’s gonna take 99 years for women to be making the same amount of money as men, that was a year and a half ago, one year later, post pandemic, it’s 136 years, an entire generation of women have prioritized their families, their husbands, their, you know, their partners over themselves in their careers and entire so now like you have daughters, I have daughter, I have granddaughters, right? We’ve now given them another generation where they’re not going to be making as much money as their male counterparts are. And it’s, and I get it, I get it, like I get it. You know, I look at even my own family. And I see how easy it is for for the moms in my family to take on all the responsibility, right, even though they’re working as many hours as the dads in my family, right? So I get it. And it’s because we don’t prioritize ourselves. Right? We don’t do that. And and this is what’s happening now obviously, if you’re you’re This is a lot of the statistics come from the fact that many women went to part time many women left their jobs, many women you know, so a lot of those things have happened. But they’re, you know, they were not showing they were not able to show up at the level they wanted to show up at so that they’re now making less money than their male counterparts even in an even greater rate. So I feel like we have to do this stuff. Like I feel like not even I almost feel a little bit like I’m picturing like Mary Poppins and the the the women and suffrage movement, right. But I almost feel like like what, you know, our daughters daughters will adore us, you know, like that’s kind of like the like what we’ve got to do. We’ve got to look at what’s happening, and say if we don’t start doing this stuff now, what what kind of world are we leaving for our daughters, so we expecting them to not prioritize them says that we’re teaching them don’t prioritize yourself.

Amy Ries 13:47
I say well, I couldn’t agree more. And I you know, I feel like I’m blessed with three daughters for a very intentional reason i don’t i don’t think there’s any mistakes. Because so often I now in look my actions through their eyes, you know, when I say all the time to women on retreats, if you prioritize everyone and everything else First, you have taught them all that you come last, which means you have taught your daughters that when they grow up, they come last and everything else comes first or your sons or your grandchildren, you know whomever, but it’s, it’s so about the example we set, you know, even calling bullshit on myself when I was in that transition phase, I used to tell my daughters Oh, it’s all about being happy happiness is what matters most chase your dreams. Meanwhile, I was so stressed my hair was breaking off. You know, I was not sleeping I was not I’m doing one thing and saying another and at one point I literally just call bullshit on myself. I’m like, What am I doing? like really? What if this is really what I believe to be true and what I want best for my children. I need to get myself in check. And the only person who’s going to do that is me. And you know people will say all Time I don’t have time. And I agree, time is in Excel is our most precious resource. Sometimes people think money, but it’s not when they put a little thought behind it, they realize it’s time, which is why I love the efficiency of a retreat. Because rather than six months of coaching and another thing on the to do list are running here and there, you are in a situation that’s not only a beautiful location and luxurious and delicious food and and and but you’re able to accomplish in those three days true transformation, true breakthroughs. True Aha, is that for all of us who are balancing a time crunched calendar, you need efficiency. And I have found nothing, nothing in my own journey more impactful at that than actually jumping all in in the retreat.

Karen Yankovich 15:52
Oh, my gosh, that’s, that’s so true. And you know, it’s, I love that you’re talking about how efficient it is how we will invest in efficiency, right? Like, if you said to somebody, or if I said to somebody, and I, you know, I mean, I teach this is one of the first things we do in our shooting program is have a conversation, like, what is the biggest opportunity? And a lot of times I get pushback on that, right? Well, I have a six month package, and it’s you know, $5,000 or $10 million, or $12, whatever it is right? And you know, blah, blah, blah. And I said, You know what, you know, what, if you did what, what could you do? If I said you can even give him a month intensive? Well, you know, but they really need to six months, and I can’t charge more for one month, and I charged for six months. I said, Oh yeah, you can. Because it’s an intensive. And I can tell you that if you said to me, you know, if I have $5,000 in my hand, and I want this transformation, and Person A is gonna say, Okay, give me your $5,000. And in six months, you’ll have that transformation, or Person B says, Give me that $5,000. And in three days, you’ll have that transformation. I’m not person. I’m personally all day long, right? Because I don’t have six months, and I will pay for a fast transformation. And I I hope that you guys are listening can understand where we’re going with that. Because Because it is it is about the efficiency of stepping into a place in your life. And, um, that that serves everyone else as well, not just you in a way that happens much more quickly.

Amy Ries 17:12
Yeah, well, it’s funny you say that, because I actually do hear from husbands from partners from kids. Because, you know, a lot of times, especially women who are, you know, very successful in their career and keeping multiple balls in the air. You know, there’s a glimmer, there’s some guilt around the idea of, I already have no time, how am I going to take time just for myself? Yeah, and the reality is what they don’t see. And they don’t see it till after I guess there was a way I could bottle it and show them ahead. But they come back a different person, and their interactions and relationships come back differently. I mean, it’s game changing everyone in the family, everyone on the work team, whatever that stress point is for you benefits from you. Coming to a new state of clarity, coming to a new state of calm, coming to a new outlook on how you want to live your life and how you want your family and your work to show up. Everyone benefits. Yes, you’re in the driver’s seat of it. And yes, you’re the one physically going away. And because I do them at beautiful locations, because I think you deserve a beautiful location. People sometimes think, oh, they’re just going out of, you know, a boondoggle vacation. But it’s not when they come back. And they realize you’re not the same woman that walked out of the house four days ago. Everyone sees the benefit.

Karen Yankovich 18:32
Oh, my gosh, so can you give us some examples of some of the things that change? Yeah, people go through retreat? Absolutely. So I know you’ve done a few of them already.

Amy Ries 18:41
You know, and yeah, I mean, there’s a ton and it varies by person, you know, everyone’s there for a little bit of a different reason. But one thing I would say that, you know, a couple universals across the board. First is people rediscover themselves. It’s amazing how we at you know, 20 years old when we were in college, or left college sort of planned out the rest of our life. And we sort of been living on that track since. And we have never taken the time to hit pause and say, when I was 20, and young and stupid, no offense to any 20 year olds, but do I still want that now at 40 or 50? At 60? Or 30? or whatever? Right? Yeah, we take the time to pause and reflect. So that is one thing that everyone gets, everyone gets to check in on like, okay, is this still I say, Is this the latter? You still want to be climbing right? Or do you want to jump over to the next ladder next to it right? There’s a level of clarity that people leave with, on whatever their intention and they’re there to find, right? I often have people who are looking to make changes, whether that be career, whether that be life, you know, or they’re just looking to bring more joy, more happiness, more balance into their life, whatever they’re coming with sort of that mission of, there’s clarity around that because one of the things that I do because of the way I curate retreats and keep them small and intimate is before we get there, I speak with everyone individually one on one. And I do that not only to, you know, be a good service and ask if they have any questions or what they need or how I can support them. But to really get ahead of the game, and what people are coming with the intention for, you know, what brought you here, so that I make damn sure during that time together, we’re addressing that this isn’t like a mass rollout that I just offered the same retreat to every person, everything is customized. Because if you’re coming, I want you to I have 100% exceeded expectations rating, and I don’t want anybody to change that. So I made sure that I know what you’re coming for. So that we make sure you get that and you get that transformation, you get that breakthrough, you get that you know that shift in perspective of what’s possible with your life. You know, the other thing I’ll say, everyone leaves with an entire new support system, the women that I cure, oh, important. Oh my god, it’s game. First of all, with COVID. And not having the face to face time, I am ecstatic to get this group of women together in August face to face. But it’s so amazing as adult women to meet new friends, call them friends, because that’s what they become who you don’t know through your kids soccer or you don’t know through your husbands, whatever. They’re not a co worker, just a woman who wants to be a support for you, and only cares about your happiness and seeing you succeed. And you walk into that retreat, not knowing those other five people and you walk out, you know, with a team of people behind you. And it’s it warms my heart because it’s what it’s one of the big reasons I know the magic of groups of women, powerful groups of women. And it’s it’s one of the main reasons I started this and it’s, I see it time and time again. And it’s just, I love it. I love it. I love that part of it, too. Some people discredit that, but it’s a huge oh my gosh, of the retreat, he it’s not a retreat where you’re there with 100 people, right? It’s, it’s me, it’s the team. It’s a small, intimate group, and you’ve got people who have your back for life, when you walk out of that.

Karen Yankovich 22:08
You know what, that that’s that right? There is so important. I mean, I can say personally, and I know a lot of people in our program, and I don’t know this about you, but maybe it was true for you as well. When you make choices like moving from ladder, a ladder B, a lot of people in your life don’t understand it. Yeah, they don’t understand it. They want to be supportive. But they’re like, Wait, you’re doing what? Right? You’re like you’re leaving that CEO job to coach cheerleading, is that, right? Like so. But they don’t get it because they’ve never, they don’t they haven’t gone on that same journey. These are people that have been on the same journey as you so they can understand it. And it’s not that the other people in your life don’t want the best for you. Right? They do. But they don’t really know how to support you because they don’t understand it. So the success rate of somebody that really finds people that are like minded as they move into a new journey in their life is so much greater when they find those people. And when they know that they need those people like as women were so like, I got this, I got this, I got this, I don’t need anybody, I got it. Like we need this kind of support from each other, we need to be able to lift each other up when we need to.

Amy Ries 23:13
Yeah, one of you 100% right. And it’s for you’re right in terms of it’s not that the people don’t want to support you as you’re making a change or exploring new avenues. They’re looking to make tweaks and you’re you’re right, they just don’t know how First of all, and you don’t know how to communicate why you want it. So you know, you’re not communicating effectively. They’re clueless and what’s happening, right, they’re just thinking this is so strange. Like I thought everything was great, you know. So that’s another thing we address, we really talk about you leave a retreat with complete clarity so that you’re able to articulate why you’re doing what you’re doing. Not only articulate it from a mental point, but have been so strongly connected with it over three days that you know, it’s the path for you. And that totally changes in that regard, which is awesome, because it helps move that support level or, you know, the support level you get from the community much further but yeah, the the women’s support network is so special. And so unique coming out of this.

Karen Yankovich 24:13
Yeah. So you know, we’re women, and we’re going to we’re going to spend some time with you on this solo luxury retreats right without our kids without our partners without our families who probably think it’s a vacation right? So how do you justify this how do you justify this and why now when you know so many crazy things are happening in the world?

Amy Ries 24:31
Yeah, so a couple things I’ll start with the why now I could not think of a better moment in time than right now right? Be my you know it I frightens me a bit because I you know, obviously the women I coach are primarily executive women have been a men most working from home during the pandemic are on various stages of about to head back into the office. And what I say all the time is before you literally just jump back on that hamster wheel. Stop, just stop, like you have had a life. Your entire world has been turned upside down everybody’s has this past year. But especially if you’ve gone from being a high power executive and an office to a high power executive off your dining room table, right? Like they are totally different worlds. Before you jump back into the office, the crazy the hectic readjusting, make sure you’re heading in with a head, that is clear. Make sure you know what you want, you know where you’re going, you know what you want to change in your life, you know, you want to keep in your life, you know, you need to come in there. This is the time when so many women have had the opportunity to start to just a little bit think about is this what I really want. And I think that’s one gift the pandemic has given us, in some ways women have started to question. And that’s the first step that’s that, that if that has happened to you in any degree about any aspect of your life, that’s the first step where you need a little more self exploration, a little more digging. And the pandemic has allowed that. So I think from a timing perspective, literally before just jumping into what you used to do before, now is the perfect time to get clarity around that. But then also in terms of you know, part B of your question of justifying it, it really, you know, it really is about the benefit of the group, when you come back, right? When you come back a less stressed a less overwhelmed, less indecisive, a less tense person, everyone benefits from it, you are must show up as a different leader in the office, you show up with complete clarity, you’re able to articulate whether to your boss, to your team, to your co workers, whomever, you know, in a different way you show up differently with your family, you know, it’s it’s just you come back a different person than you left with. And they all benefit from that. And that’s the point that, you know, I don’t know, I have one woman who said your husband, I’m going to do this. And if I don’t come back different, you can go on a solo vacation or however you on any game back. Like you know, she, in fact very ironic that she just popped in my mind because we’re working on a big career change for her. And just this week, she’s switching so departments at work and making something so it’s life changing. And I hope that you all have the support network that you your team of people behind you realize that when you’re in a healthier, happier place, everyone’s in a happier, healthier, I mean, it’s a joke, right? What is the phrase about you know, happy wife happy life, but it’s very, very true. And if you’re the one carrying stress, and overwhelm, and tension and indecision and confusion, around your career around next steps around balance, when you get that stuff figured out, it is a game changer for everyone in your life.

Karen Yankovich 27:54
Yeah. And, you know, I would imagine, you know, I can certainly see myself saying, I’m going to sit on an island for a week, I’ll be back. But that doesn’t really help me. I mean, it helps, of course, who doesn’t want to live? Well, I shouldn’t say I would love the idea of sitting on. But But you know, I go on the the CEO kind of retreats that I go on, because I get the coaching along with it. And that helps me stay focused and really achieve, like you said that you have, you know what they want to achieve at the end of it. So you as their coach can guide them towards doing that. So what does that look like? What are you doing on these few days together?

Amy Ries 28:31
Yeah, sure. So, um, like I mentioned before the retreat even starts, I meet with everyone one on one before we even set foot just so we have a connection, any questions, I know what sort of brewing in your mind and even if you’re not sure how to articulate it yet, there’s something that brought you to the point that you want to prioritize yourself. And I love it. And I just, you know, I know what it is. Then when we get there, it’s a three night four day magical experience. Truly, it’s a combination of an exclusive vacation, because if you take sort of the best of the vacation, right, the best of the relaxation, the delicious food, the fun activities, you know, I curate luxury experiences that you do not have to plan because I know you plan everything else in your life that you just show up to whether that’s, you know, private yoga sessions, whether that’s a chartered wine cruise, whether that’s a chef’s dinner, whether that’s a demonstration kitchen, and then all of that is balanced with workshops, and free time. So and you know, the free time is super important. And I say to people, there are no wrong way to do your free your free time can be anything from a nap to high a high you know, to whatever however you want to or whatever fills you up. And then really the magic of the retreat is where the workshops come into play. So twice a day. We meet as a group in workshops we meet in the morning after breakfast and We meet right before dinner. And that’s where that’s where the self discovery journey takes place. That’s the coaching exercises and activities. That’s the visualizations. That’s the discussion topics. That’s, you know, where the women not only speak for themselves, but speak in support of each other. You know, that’s where the magic happens. It’s funny because I usually keep them the workshops to an hour and a half, two hours, usually an hour and a half’s sweet spot, because a lot happens during that time. And then I want you to relax, I want you to go fill you up any way you choose. So that what’s running through your mind, then while you’re getting your massage isn’t, oh, my God, I have to check my email, I have to do my to do list I have to wash the laundry. When I get home. It’s reflecting on the breakthroughs from the morning thinking of really sledding that sink in how does that sit with you? What do you think and then coming back in the evening, and building upon that in a very, you know, structured and tailored way, but the environment is super relaxed. And it’s you know, very positive. It’s, you know, no one has to say or do anything that they do not want to do, you know, I’m not nothing like that. But everyone is just excited to be there and excited to go on this journey. When they start once that door opens and they start walking through it, they’re running through it, you know, they’re there already the workshop before I even come down to do to show up to do them. So it’s it’s a really magical space. And then the other thing I’ll say is, I’m a big foodie. So food is a huge part of my retreats. I love doing fun, you know, whether it’s trying different restaurants for dinner, doing a chef’s demonstration kitchen, at one point, I bring a chef into our house and they do a private dinner and we do tarot card readings just for fun. You know, it’s, it’s an experience. So it’s not all work. It’s not all play, I feel like I’ve hit the nail on the head of because I myself been on many retreats and have run many, the perfect blend of how that comes together. So you come back feeling not just relaxed, but also like you’ve made huge strides and huge accomplishments. And that’s, that’s the biggest thing I think that differentiates a retreat from a vacation is that you know, a vacation is great while you’re sitting on the beach. But the minute you come back that shit that feeling of relaxation, goodbye has been left on an island somewhere in the Caribbean while

Karen Yankovich 32:28
I everybody that’s listening is shaking their heads right now saying Yep, I get that

Amy Ries 32:33
It was great while it lasted right. Yeah, that’s the difference when you come back from retreat, because of the transformation that happens because of the breakthroughs because of the AHA. And then I will say I always follow up my retreats with I do two VIP coaching deep dive sessions, 90 minutes and their one on one. And the reason I do that is because I want to make sure that those breakthroughs you had those those moments of clarity, that thing you never thought of before you remembered from 10 years ago, now has a way to take action in your life, I would never leave anyone high and dry. So you know, it’s about you and I then going deep and making sure what your breakthroughs and what your discoveries and what your things you want to figure out and now turn into action actually happen and aren’t left on the retreat. So I think those deep dive coaching calls, not only are they you know, extremely high value from the way I do executive coaching, but they’re the perfect way to cap off the retreat and make sure that nothing is left behind and everything is incorporated into your quote unquote, real life.

Karen Yankovich 33:42
Oh my gosh, so cool. So I know that you’re doing these regularly, but at the time that we’re recording this and this is going to be live mid June, you just put an August date on the calendar, right?

Amy Ries 33:54
I did. I did. I’m super excited by big summer retreat. I call it big but it’s it’s limited to six people. It is in August, it’s August 9 through 12th. And it’s called Beyond success rediscovering claim the life of your dreams. This retreat is amazing. It is at the ends of Aurora in New York, which is up by the Finger Lakes. And what I love about that location. Not only is it absolutely gorgeous, but we have taken over a restored mansion. So it’s called rolling house so we will be our group and our group alone. It’s actually it’s just us plus we have a dedicated innkeeper she helps with anything anyone needs. But our group in her taking over this drop dead gorgeous restored lakefront mansion where we’re going to do our workshops, have our you know, have some of our meals, who enjoy the outdoors, do the indoors and what I is unique about this retreat versus any that I’ve done before is I’m bringing a guest coach this time. So someone who I used to work with To know really well, her name is Elizabeth Pearson, she’s, she’s also an executive coach, but she’s more career focused and money mindset coaching. She’s really a money mindset expert, because a lot of times when we’re thinking about these big changes, obviously, the financial implications are huge consideration. Right. So I’m bringing her on board, specifically for the theme of this, you know, beyond success retreat, to add additional support, additional excitement and fun and insight to the group, specifically from financial and money, mindset expertise.

Karen Yankovich 35:36
So cool. So cool. So if those of you that are listening to this, like in September of 2021, and further, just look on Amy’s website, we’ll put all the links below you can see when the next one is, but those of you that are listening to this live, can they get it? Like is there like how quickly? Like I’m sure it’s gonna fill up fast. So can they can you take deposits to hold spots? Like, how can people secure their spot in it because I want, I want your retreat to be I want somebody listening to here to still have a space to be able to get in?

Amy Ries 36:03
Yeah, so the easiest way to do it, well, you can go to my website, which is retrieved by Amy Reese, calm, or you can email me at Amy at retreats by Amy Reed, Reese, calm. And let me know that once. I will say I curate the group. And I say that because I want to make sure that everyone’s there with the right intention. And because we’re small, and we’re intimate, if it’s not a good fit for you, I’m going to let you know that because it’s really important that the women who are there the reason they’re such magic in the group, is because I make sure that it’s the right group coming together.

Karen Yankovich 36:38
You know what Amy? That honestly would be make or break for me. Yeah. So I love that you’re doing that that would be make or break for me? Because I want to know that. Yeah, I love that you’re doing that.

Amy Ries 36:46
Yeah, it’s not. So if you’re interested, just reach out, you can do it via the website, email me directly. And we’ll

Karen Yankovich 36:53
Connect with Amy via LinkedIn, because she had an amazing LinkedIn presence that we helped her with.

Amy Ries 36:57
Thank you like, yes, LinkedIn looks great on thanks, Karen. And team. LinkedIn is another great way. Any way you can get in touch with me, and we’ll hop on the phone for a short call, and really make sure that this is the right retreat for you answer any questions you have. And if it sounds like it’s a great fit, I would love to, you know, invite you to be part of our amazing group of women that are coming together in August.

Karen Yankovich 37:22
And Amy and I were talking about this beforehand, because I just there’s such such a natural fit between around what she’s doing and what we teach in our choosing step accelerator program. So what I told Amy was, if anybody registers for her retreat, and tells her that she heard me on my podcast, I will actually get give, I’ll actually contribute to a special bonus for you as well. Because I want you to invest in yourself. And this is such a great way to do that and get started doing that. So I will throw in a little sauce sweeten the pot a little bit for you with not sure what yet, but I’ll make sure it’s good. I’ll make sure it’s good. Because you know what, if you know anything about me, and Amy, I think is the same way. She’s this isn’t high level, top notch, you know, experience class stuff, right? So we’re not gonna I’m not gonna send you a bag with a pen and a notepad, I promise that they’ll be something, there’ll be something good. For sure.

Amy Ries 38:12
I so appreciate that, Karen and you know, I know your audience is right. They’re the type of women I want to help, right. They’re the type of women that are doing it all that are moving up in their career, they’re moving and shaking, and I want to help you with that I want to help support you make sure you are clear, make sure you know where you’re going on that ladder. If you’re thinking about changing it, let’s do it. If you’re worried about balance, let’s get that sorted so that you have nothing but success. I mean, that’s I literally changed my entire life. Only for that purpose to help executive women find better clarity, more joy, better balance, you know, so that they can have a very successful and fun career and not get to a point where they’re in overwhelm and stress and not happy because life is short. There’s one thing I know life is short, and the only it is your responsibility to make sure you’re living a happy one so, so appreciate that, that you’re offering a gift and I will be offering a gift as well to anyone from Karen’s audience so there’ll be a little space something extra because I know that unity is is an amazing one. So I’d love to have some of you along

Karen Yankovich 39:22
it is it absolutely is all right Amy so we’re gonna put all the details on your August retreat and your website for people that are watching this after August and every you know and your LinkedIn profiles we will connect with you and so that they can just stay in your world because if the August retreat isn’t a good date or fit for you there are there’s another one right so if you have a conversation with somebody, Amy that is a good fit but can to the August one you know can they can they hold a spot and a future one as well so that at least they know that they’re making. I love the I love the energy of them making the commitment with even just a deposit.

Amy Ries 39:57
Yeah, absolutely. You can totally and by the Time this goes up, they’ll probably be additional retreats listed on the website. I always do a January retreat to start the year off new. We’re looking at something potentially for November. So yes, it’s, it’s funny with COVID. I’ve had to take it a little bit, one at a time. But now we are ready. The women are ready, I am being asked for it. The gates are flying open, because, you know, I know you guys need the support. And I think it’s, I think there’s no better way to get it than on a retreat. So

Karen Yankovich 40:29
Well me thank you for doing what you do in the world. Thank you for leaving your cushy CEO. We’re all just pushy with the way you describe it. But thanks for leaving that so that you can help more women really make the kinds of, you know, life changing life enhancing decisions that you made. And thanks for being here on the show with us today. Thank you, Karen. I had so much fun. It was awesome. Thanks. I really appreciate it. So are you like sitting here now thinking how the heck do I get to the Finger Lakes in New York and August to get on that retreat with Amy because I know that’s what I think when I see Amy, we’re always cooking up some ideas on how we can serve our she’s linked up community and family with some of the retreat type things that Amy does. So we’ll see if we can make that happen. Just it’s just so important. It’s just so important that you take time for yourself. It’s never been more important. So I hope that you enjoy this episode. definitely connect with Amy on LinkedIn. definitely follow everything she’s doing and keep on top of the work she’s doing with these retreats. If you think it’s a fit, absolutely reach out to her as you heard. I am you know, I think it’s such a fit with the work that I do that we’re going to actually give a bonus to everyone that’s listening to the show that goes to one of Amy’s retreats. We’ve I don’t think we’ve ever done this on the show before. That’s how passionate I am about the work that she’s doing and how important I think it is for you to take part in that. So check that out. And if you want to be creating a business and a life that just lights you up remember I’m here to support you as well. We’ve got our free masterclass you know I refer to LinkedIn as my money tree and we reef and our masterclass you can find out what are that money tree.com that’s how you get started learning a little bit about what it’s like to work with me on that masterclass, we’re on selling anything. It’s just how I want you to think about how you approach LinkedIn differently and there’s some shifts that I want you to make in the way you think about LinkedIn. So we talked about those shifts on that masterclass and if it’s something that you want to learn more about, we tell you how you can learn more about working with us but it is absolutely no keep your credit card in your wallet and you’re in your wallet you don’t need to take it out and I’d love for you to check that out. So check that out at water that money tree comm if you want to know what it looks like to be building a business like Amy built or is building, you know, we’re a tiny little part of her success. I certainly want to give her credit for doing all the hard work but I love that we just get to collaborate with amazing smart women and if that’s you check out the masterclass and that’s how you start your journey. I will be back here again next week with another episode of the good girls get rich podcast

162 – Why Not You?

by | Jun 7, 2021 | Podcasts

This week’s episode of Good Girls Get Rich is brought to you by Uplevel Media CEO and LinkedIn expert, Karen Yankovich. In this episode, Karen asks the question, “Why not you?”

It’s so easy to believe that we can’t do something. When we shift our mindset and start to ask, “Why not?” things begin to change.

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Who do you want to be? What do you want to do? When you’re honest with yourself, do you then immediately feel like you can’t achieve the life you want? You’re not alone.

It’s difficult to believe that we’re capable of achieving our dreams, but it’s possible! Instead of saying, “I can’t,” it’s time to start asking the question, “Why not me?”

Start by being honest and open with yourself about what you want to do. As you start becoming this person, people who know you might doubt you ­– it takes guts to prove them wrong!

Along the journey, it’s also important that you are connecting with the right people on LinkedIn.

In this episode, Karen shares how to shift your mindset, build your confidence, and make the right LinkedIn connections!

Episode Spotlights:

  • Where to find everything for this week’s episode: karenyankovich.com/162
  • Introducing this episode’s topic (1:35)
  • Be honest with yourself (9:05)
  • People start seeing you differently (11:17)
  • Make LinkedIn connections (14:40)
  • Episode recap (16:45)

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Karen Yankovich 0:00
You’re listening to the good girls get rich podcast episode 162.

Intro 0:06
Welcome to the good girls get rich podcast with your host, Karen Yankovich. This is where we embrace how good you are girl, stop being the best kept secret in town, learn how to use simple LinkedIn and social media strategies and make the big bucks.

Karen Yankovich 0:23
Hello, I’m your host, Karen Yankovich. And this is Episode 162. of the good girls get rich podcast. And this podcast is brought to you by she’s linked up where we teach simple relationship and heart based LinkedIn marketing to women that gets them on the phone consistently with people that can change their business, their life, their bank accounts for ever over it, she’s linked up, we create wealthy women. So if you’ve listened before, or if you love what you hear today, we love to hear from you. So make sure that you subscribe to this podcast, wherever you’re listening to it. We love your reviews, we love to know what your favorite episodes are. And I’d love for you to share this episode on social media use the hashtag good girls get rich tag me I’m at Karen Yankovich, I’ll be sure to share your post that’s talking about our podcast with my audience. And that’s how we all get more visibility, right lifting each other up. in the show notes, there’s the link for speakpipe. Or you can leave an audio review. Or you can just tell us who you think might be a great guest or what you’d love to hear me talk about on this podcast, we love your notes there. Just go to Karen Yankovich comm slash 162. And you’ll see the blog for this page, you’ll see the link to speak pipe and all of the things that I talked about today on this show. So we’re talking today about why not you why not you. And this is, you know, this is something that takes the things I’ve been talking about in this episode today, take a little guts and a little confidence and a little like you have to go with your gut and then really just just lean into it, and really move forward. And it’s not always easy to do this, you know, I can tell you, you know, I want you to think bigger, right? If you’re going to be a wealthy woman, you need to be thinking bigger, you need to be thinking about, you know, not getting up and going to work today, because it’s hard to beat to build wealth, when you are at a paycheck job. And I’m not knocking that if that’s what you want to do, right. But if you really truly want to take the next next step higher, if you really, truly believe you are meant for more, then this episode is for you. You know, years ago, I owned a small company, we were telecommunications, consultants, you know, kind of a long story. But the bottom line to that business was I was really good at the customer stuff. And I wasn’t great at running the business. You know, it’s just not my strength. I’m you know, in fact, even now, the business I’m running right now, like I get help, I have a CFO I have I have help, right, because I don’t want to do that, again, I want to do what I love to do. And that’s inspire you, and to brainstorm with you about how you can use LinkedIn and other tools to really create a great personal brand for yourself, right one that brings you in clients or big opportunities, right. So we know that business closed, gosh, years ago at this point now, and at the time, I just became a consultant I just took some of the clients on and I was just a private consultant for them. And, and I enjoyed that. But one of my one of my clients brought me on as a an employee, they need to help them put a new phone system in and they need somebody to manage it. So they brought me on initially part time and then eventually full time. And you know, I just wasn’t born to be an employee. I mean, I was good at what I did. I think I was good at what I did. But I wasn’t really loving it. You know, I wasn’t loving it. I didn’t love having to compromise my values seem to just make things happen the way you know, the powers that be wanted things to happen, things like that, right? So I know that that there was anything bad about any of that it just wasn’t really meant for me, right? So I started, you know, because I was always doing consulting, I was still doing consulting, and I started to build this business that I’m in right now. And I was just my kids were growing, I was starting to take some classes in online marketing. And I was good at it right. And I realized pretty quickly that I was good at it. So I started to do more and more of it. And it got to the point where it was becoming a conflict with my job, right? Because I was I had a crazy amount of time off and a crazy amount of vacation time and things like that. But it was using all my time off to do speaking engagements and all this stuff, right? So it got to the point where I had to make a choice. And let me tell you something, it was not an easy choice to make walking away from a great paycheck. The best benefits I’ve ever had in my life I dream about I drew about those benefits now. Right, you know, a crazy amount of time off. I mean, an opportunity that many, many people would really, you know, love to have. But I had so many people say to me, I’ll take your job. What are you talking about? You’re leaving that job, but I knew there was more for me, right? And why not me? Why not me? So it was scary to leave that job. In fact, like I can think of a few people that were like not happy that I left that job, you know, but I did it. I did it because I found the confidence inside of me. To do it, right. I mean, the first episode of this podcast when I pushed release on the first episode of this podcast, I’m telling you, my stomach was in knots if you haven’t listened to it go back, I talked about, you know, a few personal things, my journey and, you know, it’s, there was just some things I was just like, Oh my gosh, can I really say these kinds of things in public? Right? But again, why not me? Right? Because what we what we default to what I default to, in which so many of the women I speak to default to, is like, Who am I to think that I can create general generational wealth, right? Who am I to think that I can you know, that people want to listen to me, right now we have like, 162 episodes later, people are still listening, right? But at the time, I was like, Who am I to do this? Who am I to think that I can, you know, leave this job and make it on my own? Right. But I wanted to not just make a living, right. I wanted to create wealth, I wanted to create generational wealth, and why not me? Right? Can you relate to this? Have you seen people who you know, you know, you’re better than, you know, you do whatever, they’re doing better than they do it. And they’re killing it. They’re, they’re just earning a ton of money, and they’re seemingly like you’re having an amazing life. But for you to take the steps needed to get there. There’s some really freakin scary things you need to be able to do you need to do, right to do that. And you might be wondering, like, what the heck am I even thinking that I can do these things? Like I’m telling you this because if you’re thinking these things, you are not alone. You are not alone. I can tell you, every single woman that joins my shoes linked up accelerator program has these thoughts. That’s why we brought Carrie pet singer into our program. She’s our mindset coach. And we’ll link to the episode way before she was our mindset coach, she was episode like, two I think of this podcast, we brought her on, because she she helps our women in our program with their mindset with a Why not me? Right? With the Who am I to think I can do these things. She helps them to do that. So listen in because I want to talk a little bit about how we do this. So for me, I had a really big why, right? I when I was raising my kids, I worked like crazy. I had a crazy long commute. I left the house practically before they woke up, I got home, like six o’clock at night. I mean, I had to go to bed early, I had to get up at the crack of dawn to do what I was doing. So I maybe had two hours at home where I had to make dinner, do all the house stuff do with the thing. There’s a kid’s things, I wanted to go to their games and things like that life was insane. Life was insane. Like, I wish that I knew then what I knew now what I know now, right? But no regrets, right? It was what it was. But when I started to realize, look back at that and think what the heck, right? Like what the heck, I knew that. I wanted to shift things so that when my kids were having kids, I would be around to support them. Okay, that was my why I wanted to create a business that created wealth, but also that allowed me the flexibility to be there for my parents as they age for my kids as they have kids, right. And honestly, that’s the life I’m living right now. It’s really every morning, I sit and do some gratitude work. And I sit and I’m so grateful that I truly did create a life where I can be there for my kids and I kids are now having kids, right. So now I have a couple of grandkids and I love being able to spend time with them and being able to be there for them while so my kids can go to work. So they don’t have to spend all their time in daycare, by the way they love daycare, right? But it’s just amazing that that it really did work out that way. And now you know, my I’m blessed to have parents that are in their 80s they’re so healthy, but I like to be able to be there for them to write. So that was my really big why as to how I did that. So I want you to think a little bit about what your why is. and think like what efa could be me, right? What if it could be me? And now we’re going to dig in to the house, right? How can you make this happen for you, how it can be you and how to have the confidence to really make the shifts make the changes you need to make to step into a new paradigm in your business and your career in your life. Right. So the first thing you need to do is you need to really be honest with yourself. Okay, it is a whole lot easier to be confident around things you love, and things you already know that you’re good at. Right? So you need to you need to stop with stop being negative, stop the negative talk and look in a mirror and look at yourself, look eye to eye to yourself and say I am so good at this, whatever that thing is, what is that thing? What is that thing that if you that, you know, you can shift you can change lives with this thing. Right? You know, that there’s, if you could build a career around doing this holy moly, would that be amazing, right? So you need to figure out what that thing is. All right, and then go back and listen to more episodes of this podcast, where I talk about the things on a LinkedIn profile, you can just scan through it. There’s a bunch of episodes and start updating your link. Tim profile to shine a light on that you need to tell people what you’re good at. You need to tell people what you’re good at. And I know some of you have this like crazy knot in your stomach when I say that, I mean, I get it, I’ve been there, but just know that I’ve got your back here. If you don’t have that crazy knot in your stomach, by the way, then you’re not thinking big enough, just saying, okay, know that I’ve got your back here, we do LinkedIn profile reviews in our free Facebook group all the time, we’ll link to that in the show notes. I’m happy to help you do this. But you’ve got to understand, you got to know what it is that you’re really good at. And you got to be like, Damn, I can make this I could, if I could do this, I could really change lives, change the world, do whatever, right? Like, you need to just dream big, right? And but do it in that thing, not the thing you think you should do? Do it in the thing that you know, you’re great at, okay. And then we can shift the house to make that happen after that. But first, you just got to stay in that space. Because it’s a whole lot easier to be confident and do a really good job at what you do at the things you love, that you’re really good at. And that you love to do, those are two parts to that right? Not just what you’re really good at, you may be really good at doing laundry, right? But you may not want to do laundry for the rest of your life. So I want you to be things that you’re really good at, and that you it lights you up to think about doing this for the rest of your life. And then the second part of this is you can never remember you’re shining a light on this on your LinkedIn profile, right? So you’re starting to step into this role as this person that’s really good at this. Because here’s what happens. Now, when you start talking about yourself in this new way, the current people in your life start seeing you differently. And again, I know this is scary, right? I when I hit publish on my first podcast episode, I was like, I cannot believe that the people in my life are gonna hear me talking about this stuff, right. But again, I’ve got your back on this, right, I’ve got your back on this, it takes a little guts to do this, to shine a light, and then to start sharing it all over in all areas of your life, you’re starting to infuse this new confident you into areas of your life, I have to tell you that scarier than new people listening to it. Right? It is scarier sometimes for me to be talking about something on a podcast and thinking about the people in my life that I know, listening to it, and people that I don’t know listening to it, right. So I get that. And when you start doing this, you got to deal with that you got to deal with the fact that the people in your current life are gonna start to see you differently. And some of them are going to be are maybe going to even say, What makes you think you can do that. And here’s the deal, those people are never going to achieve the goals you have, because they don’t think big enough. So don’t let them get to you. Right? Come to our Facebook group, like, let me help you let let the people that are like, You go girl, those are the people I want you to surround yourself with, right? Because here’s the thing, you’re not changing, you’re just owning the things that you already are amazing at and the person that you’ve always been, right. And it takes guts to do that. It takes guts to do that. But when you do it, you know, and a lot of times people come to me too, and say I can’t do that. Because my job is gonna think this, I promise you my experience I can. There’s not a single person that I’ve worked with that has gotten fired from their job because they talked about how great they are in what they’re doing on their side gig or what they’re even doing in their job, right? Not one single person. Okay? So I’m not saying that it’s not going to be that way for you, I certainly don’t want you to get fired from your job if it pays your bills, right. But, but I’m telling you that what you’re worrying about is probably not going to happen. I can tell you, we have a student in our program. And she did this she just started to shine a light on what she did. And honestly, life started changing immediately. I guess she has an entrepreneurial family. And she was you know, she had a like pension type job, right? So we’re, you know, one way to say it forever. And you know, you get your benefits paid for forever, right. So, so her entrepreneurial family always never really saw her even though they knew she was doing this other thing. They never really saw it as something that was anything other than her making a couple of bucks on the side. But when she started to shine a light on that, and started to shine a light on those things, her dad reached out to her and said, We need to trademark this. We need to make sure that you’re like he all of a sudden started taking her seriously. Right? How amazing does that sound? Right? When you start owning what you’re amazing at and then the people in your life start falling into place. And going You go girl right now, yes, 100% you’re going to have some people that are not, don’t worry about those people. Like those are not the people are gonna worry about you want to you can either keep yourself down with them, or you can rise with the people that are rising with you. Right? So I want you to the second thing you need to do there is once you start to like shine a light on that you need to start infusing this confident you into all areas of your life. Okay, all areas of your life. And I honestly can’t wait to see what happens. And then the next thing you need to do is go back on over to LinkedIn and start making LinkedIn connections with the coolest people you can think of. Don’t do this cold. Don’t do this randomly. No cold calls to Oprah right? Not that’s not what I’m talking about. Think about who wrote a great article that you just read right connect with the journalist that wrote the article on LinkedIn and tell them What a great article it was, and tell them that you loved it. You know, listen to this intentionally right think about think of people that might maybe use you as a source next time or you know, for whatever reason is just the coolest people you can think of. And honestly, sometimes you don’t need to know where it’s gonna go. You just love them. You love their work and you want to be connected to them. Right? Connect with them and tell them what you love about them. Tell them you read the article, right? This is what I mean by not cold. Who did you hear just interviewed on a podcast? Who did you just come across on Instagram or even tik tok? Have you followed me on Tick tock, by the way, I just at the time that I’m recording this, I am just starting Tick tock, my Tick Tock journey. And it is wild wild ride over there. But But I’m meeting some cool people that I would never have met before. Right. And I’m connecting with them on LinkedIn, who did you just see on a panel at a conference, right, and maybe you love their message, reach out to them, don’t let them be faceless people. When you walk out the doors i like i like to call the door, the conference doors like the doors have amnesia, right? While you’re at the conference, everything’s all cool. And then you walk out those doors and you completely forget everything you did, don’t do that, right? list five people that you met at a conference virtual or otherwise, right? That you loved their message and you loved their energy, and you’d love to be connected to them for whatever reason, and connect with them on LinkedIn and tell them that start building relationships with the greatest and coolest people that are that you’re seeing right? Connect with them on LinkedIn, with the goal of actually getting on the phone with them, I promise this as simple. There’s always a path to them, right? We have women in our shoes linked up accelerator program that have some big connection aspirations. And we always find a path to that connection. And it’s never, ever, ever a cold call. Okay, I promise you, we know how to do this, right. So start making those LinkedIn connections and start building your life filling your life with some really cool new people. Alright, so we’re gonna recap this now. Why not you write why not you be honest with yourself. Think about what it is you would love to do niche this down. By the way, even if you’re an entrepreneur, you’re listening to this new 42,000 different programs, cut it down, to cut it down to one, cut it down to three be really good for what you love doing. Because I promise you the money is going to come faster. When you shine a light on what you love to do and what you do really well and where the most successes. And it takes guts to do that takes guts to do that too. Right? Everything we’re talking about here, it takes confidence. Like I said, I’m here for you. So do what is you love to do, shine a light on that and tell the world how great you are that usually tend to do that. If you need support with that, join us in our Facebook group, we’re happy to support you there. And then when you start talking about yourself in this new way, understand that people are going to start to see you differently. This also takes guts. And again, I’ve got your back. Okay, just know it’s gonna happen. Be cool with it. Because honestly, the best way to show these people that you know that you don’t, that it doesn’t really matter is to just be amazing. And start to create that, you know, to be that wealthy woman, not just that confident woman. Right? That’s really cool. And then start using LinkedIn to make connections with the coolest new people that you can think of. Don’t do it randomly. Don’t do a cold but do it consistently. I cannot wait to hear how this goes for you. I want to know I want to know how this goes for you. Okay, you may have heard me refer to LinkedIn as my money tree it can be the same for you. If you’re intentionally connecting with people that can lead to more money in the bank. So let me know how this goes for you. Let me know how you’re feeling come into our Facebook group if you need some help, email me use our speakpipe link I mean it’s pretty hard to not buy me on tik tok and tell me they’re right follow me wherever obviously connect with me on LinkedIn. We work really intentionally with women as she’s linked up to create wealthy women we create wealthy women and it all starts with our on demand masterclass which you can check out at water that money tree calm, a rising tide lifts all boats, right, I do this podcast to support you. And now I’ve got this free masterclass to help you get started right to help you get some LinkedIn success. Let’s lift each other up. Help me Help you share this podcast. Take a quick screenshot of this episode on your phone. share it on social but add your point of view, add what you loved about it and tell people you all need to listen to this if you if you’d like to show right if you’d like to show because then what I can do is share that with my audience and that helps us both get more visibility. That rising tide is lifting all of us right and honestly let’s do this together. I want this to be simple for you. I am happy to do this with you. Let us kick some 2021 booty together. And I will see you back here again next week for another episode of the good girls get rich podcast.

161 – Take Care of You with Christine Arylo

by | May 31, 2021 | Podcasts

This week’s episode of Good Girls Get Rich is brought to you by Uplevel Media CEO and LinkedIn expert, Karen Yankovich. In this episode, guest Christine Arylo and Karen discuss why it’s important to take care of yourself.

Christine Arylo is a best-selling author, transformational teacher and speaker on women’s empowerment, feminine leadership and wisdom, and self love. She’s also the host of the Feminine Power Time podcast.

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Are you taking care of yourself?

As women, we often overserve and under receive. It’s how we’ve been raised. Once we see who we really are, we can then begin to embrace the power of our fierce feminine hearts.

Overexerting ourselves in all areas of life isn’t sustainable, so it’s important to ask ourselves some questions: “What in my life is sustainable? What in my life isn’t sustainable? What do I want?”

By answering these questions, we’ll be able to better take care of ourselves. When we take care of ourselves, we can then create greater change in the world!

Episode Spotlights:

  • Where to find everything for this week’s episode: karenyankovich.com/161
  • Introducing this episode’s guest, Christine Arylo (1:46)
  • Why Christine wrote her book (3:32)
  • Why women are overwhelmed (10:00)
  • Embracing women to embrace the power of their fierce feminine heart (15:28)
  • Cultivate and retain your life force (20:28)
  • How could this not impact your income? (31:35)
  • What is sustainable? What is not sustainable? What do you want? (41:12)
  • Where you can find Christine (43:59)

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Karen Yankovich 0:00
You’re listening to the good girls get rich podcast episode 161.

Intro 0:06
Welcome to the good girls get rich podcast with your host, Karen Yankovich. This is where we embrace how good you are girl, stop being the best kept secret in town, learn how to use simple LinkedIn and social media strategies and make the big bucks.

Karen Yankovich 0:23
Hello, I’m Karen Yankovich, the host of the good girls get rich podcast and this is episode 161. And this episode is brought to you by our she’s linked up family, that community where we teach women simple relationship and heart based LinkedIn marketing that gets them on the phone consistently with the people that can have them finally landing the opportunities that they’ve been seeing going on other people, for years put an end to that. These are things these are people and opportunities that will change your business, your life and your bank account for ever. It’s digital marketing with the human touch, it’s human to human marketing, right? We want you to actually get on the phone with people because we know that’s where the opportunities are. So if you’ve listened before, or if you love what you hear today, you know, we love hearing from you take a quick screenshot of this episode and share it on your social media. Make sure to tag me make sure to tag Christine who’s our guest today, all the information is in the show notes on how to find Christine, I’m at Karen Yankovich, across all social media, and then we’ll share it with our audience. And that gives us a chance to just give each other more visibility, right help me help you help me help you. And it just, you know just goes in a circle of love and giving and sharing and yumminess. So hopefully, if that’s something that you’re feeling, you will do that for us today, you can use the hashtag good girls get rich as well. And that helps us see it as well. So we’ve got Christina rylo on the show today. And boy, is this a great show. I know I say that a lot. But I am just so blessed to have people like Christina in my life that I can bring them to you. We had such a great conversation. I mean, we live on opposite sides of the United States. But I felt like if we were closer together, we would be hanging out because she really has some really interesting things that I think are even more important now that we’re kind of coming out or we’re on the other side of maybe some of the pandemic that we live through in 2020 and early 2021. And really looking at our life ahead and saying we’re you know, what does it look like now? What does it look like now? Do I want it to look like it looked and night? 2019? Or is there? Do I want it to be less chaotic? Do I want to be less overwhelmed? Right? So this is a great show? Listen in for Christina rylo Okay, we have Christina rylo on the good girls get rich podcast, and she is actually Christina rylo MBA. She’s the author of overwhelmed and over it. And as a transformational leadership advisor, Three Times Bestselling author and host of the popular feminine power time podcast. She’s recognized worldwide for her work helping women make shift happen in the lives they lead the work they do, and the world that they wish to create a rylo offers workshops globally and lives near Seattle. And we’re going to link to where you can visit her. Christine. I am so happy to have you here today. This is such an important topic.

Christine Arylo 3:10
And well thank you for having me on Karen and hello to everyone there. I’m looking forward to I always like to say a real conversation. Hopefully these are all more enlightened, inspired and prepared with some perspective and practical tools we can use to do things differently.

Karen Yankovich 3:26
Yeah. So you know, before we get into talking about your book, which I definitely want to talk about, because it’s so good. I want to take a step back first and hear from you a little bit about what prompted you to to write a book about being overwhelmed, right, what is the what is the backstory to this book?

Christine Arylo 3:42
Well, it actually took me three years to write overwhelmed and over it, but honestly, you all it actually took me 10 years of living it and researching it myself before I was even ready to put pen to paper, and I’ll share it I’ll share the there’s a couple different pivot points that kind of woke me up to this, like, Oh my God, we as women have been completely programmed to work in ways that you know, you know, they’re like, thrive, thrive, succeed, succeed, and we’re like, we’re really tired. You know. And so I’ll share the story of what happened to me it was about six months after my after leaving my corporate career and my corporate job. And I partly the reason I left my corporate career was because I just felt like a I couldn’t have the freedom that I wanted to it was all you know, for those of you that work in corporate or have you know that it’s like butts in seats, or you know, it used to be butts in seats, but it’s like, you know, you there’s not a lot, there’s not a lot of flexibility. And I was also really disillusioned by the you know, while we would talk about people and I think they’re really good hearted competence. At the end of the day, it was all about the bottom line. And you just had to keep growing more and more and more and more and more and it’s like it’s just like this insatiable Pac Man machine and no one’s to To be making any changes. So I’m like I’m going to go in, I’m going to go out into the world and try to inspire women and girls and write my first book. And so as a good MBA does, I had all kinds of spreadsheets, you know, broken out by quarterly goals. And as you know, as a person who really believes in working with the universe, I also had my vision boards, and Oprah was on it. And I had read on my revenue goals up there, and all of that, and after six months of working, really two jobs to basically make all ends meet. So it’s like when you leave your corporate job, it’s not unless you’re independently wealthy, you still need to create money while you’re building the next thing. So I was doing consulting that was really paying for my bills, and really funding the development of my of my coaching practice. And I found myself one day and I can still remember, I see myself right now sitting there six months into this, and I was working and doing and doing all the things I was supposed to do. And I just found myself sitting in the middle of my office floor. And maybe Karen, you’ve had one of these. And for those of you listening, if you’ve had one of these to raise your hand of what I call the Superwoman sob. And the tears just started pouring. I’m assuming from your exhale, Karen, that that means you’ve had

Karen Yankovich 6:12
Yes, of course, yes.

Christine Arylo 6:15
And it’s kind of like a cake, you know, of like beer that you pump it, pump it, pump it, pump it, pump it, and then it’s just like, you hit that tap and it comes flowing. It’s kind of like that, right? It’s like we are so resilient, that we can take so much pressure, but then it just comes that moment when it’s just like we can’t take anymore. And then the tears just, they just come and I felt like all this despair in my heart, I felt like no matter how it was I making a difference. What was I doing? Why did I leave my corporate paycheck? was a window like, was this ever gonna, you know, are they ever going to make my goals and after the sobs, you know, they were ugly slabs, like, you know,

Karen Yankovich 6:50
I’m very familiar with that.

Christine Arylo 6:52
Okay, now, here’s the thing. So when that happens to us, that is a very overwhelming moment, what you want to do on the other side of that is not just pick up and like charge back in or take a day off and charge back in. If you can get quiet and really tune in to your deeper or what I would call your feminine wisdom, she’ll speak to you and she’ll actually help you see what’s out of alignment, or what you actually need. Because those moments, they’re like, they’re, they’re a signal to us, like something’s out of alignment, something’s out of whack. So it’s kind of like, the calm after the storm. So I cry, cry, cry, cry, cry. And I know enough at this point to just be still when that happens. And so I would just get still in the voice. Because I’m auditory. My intuition is auditory. It says to me, Christine, no matter how hard you try, no matter how hard you work, if you keep working this way, you’re going to get sick. And not only are you going to get sick, you’re actually not going to reach your mission, you’re not going to reach your goals, you cannot do it the way that you’ve been taught. And I was like, I got my head kind of turned. And I was like I’m listening. And then the voice said this, you need the feminine. And I was like, Oh, that’s true. But I don’t even know what that is. And that began the question of like, well, what is the feminine and that began a journey into really understanding that the way I had been trained to most of us are trained in traditional, whether it’s leadership or school or entrepreneur ism, our success models are very masculine based and many times very distorted masculine about how we are supposed to be able to grow and succeed. And we leave out half of our power, which is our feminine side, which actually knows how to help us work way more efficiently. And I like to call fluid efficiency, fluid and the flow. And so that was what now, I don’t know, a while ago, almost 15 years ago. And that’s what led me here with you all, and I have to say, I’ve had Superwoman sub since then. But what is true is that I still always stop and say what is out of alignment and then work with that deeper wisdom to help guide me to a different path.

Karen Yankovich 9:05
So interesting. So interesting. You know, the Superwoman concept is something I am familiar with, and I have a personal experience. I think it was probably January of 2020. I talked about it on the podcast of, you know, I remember talking to somebody that one of my coaches and, and I have these bracelets, and they were like red and blue and silver and I’m like Wonder Woman, I’m gonna wear my Wonder Woman like cuff right? And, and I have a Wonder Woman mug that a good friend of mine gave me and I remember one day I was making tea. I grabbed my Wonder Woman mug and I was like, I don’t want to be superhuman. I just want to be human. Why do I have to I don’t want to be Wonder Woman. And next to that mug was a mermaid mug that said, I want to be a mermaid. I’m like, I want to be a mermaid. And I picked up that mug. And I just like Ever since then, I have embraced that because I’m like, Why? Why do we think we need to be superhuman? Why can’t we just be human? Right and as humans have a life that is not Full of overwhelm. So I totally I totally understand that. And I love that. And I’d love to hear your thoughts on this, Christine, I think, you know, we’re recording this, it’s, you know, winter of 2021. And I think that for many women, we’ve become overwhelmed again, because at the end of the day, we are still responsible for most of the things that are happening in our houses, right. And this is not anything bad about men at all. But I think you know, as women, we’re coordinating the schedules and who’s you know, who’s got school and where, who’s using the zoom the computer this minute and that minute, I almost feel like we’ve stepped back 10 years, since we’ve been, you know, virtual, like a lot of the work that we’ve done to get here, we’re realizing is just wasn’t enough. What do you think about that?

Christine Arylo 10:43
Yeah, it just kind of everyone just take a breath. I’m just taking a breath. And I’m looking at my window right now at the Puget Sound, and it’s super smooth right now. And there’s this beautiful sailboat that’s just going doo doo doo doo doo. And, you know, if you think about the way we’ve been trained to work as women, we are much more like speedboats than sailboats. Like, you know, we were like, what’s our goal? And, and what’s our intention, and we just drive forward and at any cost. And whereas like a sailboat will have a destination or an intention, but it you know, it goes to one place, and then that tax, and then it says, oh, where have I been? Where am I going? And then it, it does it it does it again, and it draws, you know, in it, and it’s it’s also working with the wind and the water, and it’s like in relationship to its natural surroundings. And so I think that what I when I look at 2020 and COVID, and all the things that have been happening to me, it isn’t that we’ve stepped back 10 years, we’ve actually just woken up to to how much actually hasn’t changed? I agree. Yeah, that’s because we’ve been basically, and this is no, this is where the original title, the subtitle of overwhelmed and over, it used to be overwhelmed and over it, why it’s not your fault, and how to find the power to change it. And then we changed it to be just how to stay sustained and consented in a chaotic world. But the whole the whole premise underneath this is that we’ve been working so hard just trying to keep so much of this together as women that we haven’t even realized that we are it’s kind of like we’re we’re prisoners of our lives. And we’re prisoners of systems that basically our education systems, our government systems, our corporate systems, our educational systems, that we don’t even realize that the way that we’ve been working hasn’t been sustainable for a long time. And what happened in 2029, go back and I look at some of my old podcasts. And I’m just like, we’ve been talking about the intensity ratcheting up for years. And when I was doing the research for overwhelmed and over at my my intention was women, we need to get to the roots of this like this isn’t new women have been talking about how overwhelmed they are since even before we entered the workforce fully in the 70s in the 80s. So I went back and actually talked to Gloria Steinem, I got a chance to have a private conversation was so lovely. And you know, she as well as other women I talked to was really very plain and kind of what happened is in the 70s, in the 80s, we basically what happened is the system said, okay, women, you want your rights, you want to be able to make choices, okay, that’s great. But we’re not going to take anything away, we’re not going to change the way that the systems operate. So you just have to do more. And because there weren’t enough women in places of power, or male allies were really consciousness at that time we put on shoulder pads, we cut our hair, we stepped on each other, you know, and they get up to the top. And you know, there’s this this this in, and we just did. There wasn’t another there wasn’t another option, I think of the 80s. Right? Can you remember the 80s? And just, I can remember the 80s? Yeah, I mean, like you think about the consciousness in the 80s in the 90s. That’s just like buy more consume accumulate Dallas, you know, the shoulder pads, like it’s just out of control. Yeah. And so where we’re at right now is kind of like a big wake up call. And I don’t want to I’m not discounting the levels of stress that women are under right now, especially for those of you who are, who are parents, because it’s it’s distress, it’s not just stress, we are literally all under these levels of distress. And one of the reasons I think it’s happening is to really, really look at this and be like, there we have no more to give. And so as women we become so resilient, that we become too tolerant of a way of working and living and setting up success and goals and all of us that was never built with women and or the family’s best interest at heart. And the good thing is, is that humans created every system on the planet. This is all human design. I mean, other than there’s a moon that comes out, there’s the sun that comes up through the seasons, like that’s all natural, but everything else was human created to fuel the Industrial Revolution and everything since so I think where I feel we’re at as women is really first we just Have to get real with each other and get Oh my God, this isn’t my fault work life balance is BS in like, This is nuts and like, why are we doing it this way? And I think if, if we as women can can look at that and be honest and not just try to put a band aid over it and actually take a stand to say no more, that’s when we’re gonna feel our power to start to make a difference versus just going back to normal.

Karen Yankovich 15:24
Oh, my gosh, so much juice in there so much juice in there, Christine. So is that is that what you mean? When you encourage women to embrace the power of their fierce feminine heart? What does that actually mean? How does that tie into what you just said?

Christine Arylo 15:36
Absolutely. It’s interesting, I’m remembering. So here’s the thing, our power center as women is in our hearts, it’s not in our head, our head, actually, the intellect is a lovely thing. But from a power perspective, intellect is the masculine. And our intuition is our feminine power. And that comes from our heart, and it comes from our body. And that fierce feminine heart like that’s that part. It’s the advocate in us. It’s like that mother mountain lion that protects her cubs, you know, and it’s like, Don’t mess with me, you know, and get in line, everybody, you know, there’s like a fierceness from that, that heart. If you think about your heart, it’s where our compassion comes from, is where courage comes from. But we’ve been so trained in this over culture, which is a word that caressa pinkola s days, who wrote women who run with the wolves, coined probably in the early 80s, to describe what she calls the crazy mad culture we’ve all assimilated into in order to survive. And so that has tried to domesticate and tamp down this fierce feminine power and feminine spirit, because it’s really powerful. So things are oil soup, and I’m working with women, especially women in the corporate setting, where they really doubt their intuition. And if it’s not logical, or it’s not rational, or this happens a lot with people who work in science and medicine, like they’re completely disconnected from their intuition because it gets wooed and poo pooed. away, it’s like, it’s not real, it’s not rational. And part of what you got to be, you gotta be smart in your head. Don’t be too soft, don’t be too whatever. But if a woman’s really in her power, when I when I when I think about two words that would describe a woman who’s fully in her masculine and feminine power is fierce grace.

Karen Yankovich 17:21
Oh, my gosh, so cool.

Christine Arylo 17:24
And just think of a woman like for all of you, we’ve all think of one woman who you could think of that really embodies fierce grace, like, she’s fierce, like a mountain lion. And she’s fierce, like a, like courage that in that advocate, but she’s also like, open and she doesn’t have anything to prove she’s not trying to manipulate is trying to trying to sell, she’s not raging. But she has that grace about it, I think of I think of Madonna, I think of Maya Angelou, who do you think of?

Karen Yankovich 17:50
You know, it’s funny, when you mentioned Madonna, I went to Lady Gaga. And just thinking about the fierce grace she had doing the national anthem at the inauguration a few weeks ago. You know, just you could see her heart in it. And then she just killed it. She just

Christine Arylo 18:05
about total body chosen that. And then the young woman who wrote that read the poet, the poet. Yeah, like that was that was the embodiment. Yeah, of grace. And you have that in you, Karen, I have it in us, every woman here listening, and men have it today. It’s not just the women don’t just have the market on it. But I think for us, we’ve been where we’re speaking of it for women is that part of the reason. And when I got to the root reasons, and there’s seven that I talked about, and overwhelmed and overworked of why we haven’t been able to, you know, get out of these unsustainable realities for the 4050 years that women have been in the workforce. And one of them was because as women we have, we’ve taken on the value of valuing a lot of this distorted, masculine power and the value system of a culture that’s about grow, grow, grow, consume, consume, consume more, more, more, more. And if you see it in the housing market, you see it in the stock market, like all of these things, that if it’s not growing at this exponential rate, or in our careers, right, the word career, interestingly enough, is the root of the word is path. And, but the current definition of it is to prove is to proceed at a rapid pace. So really, your career is the path you take to give your gifts in the world. And but in our current culture, it’s to move along at a rapid pace, which is why we feel so much pressure to be moving at a rapid pace, or we feel like we’re like doing something right. And so there’s all these unconscious imprints that we have as women that cause us to discount feminine power and or even trust that it’s possible. So like, when I talk to women, I’m like, would you like to, like feel less like a machine and need to like learn to work more in the flow? And they’re like, yes. And then I’m like, would you like to really be able to trust your intuition and to listen to that versus like, you know, just only making logical rational decisions. Yes. Would you like to be able to slow down and have more stillness? Yes. But like when push comes to shove, and you’re like, I gotta make some money, I gotta, I gotta get ahead. Like, we go fully into that distorted masculine, and we don’t trust it. We don’t trust it. We’re like, yeah, that’s not gonna work. I gotta be real, I gotta be realistic. And that’s a bunch of b. s. It’s actually we need both of those powers. But until we, as women learn to trust that I don’t see how we can actually create a culture that reflects that.

Karen Yankovich 20:28
So how do we get started with that, like you encourage people in your book to cultivate and retain their life force daily? So what does that mean? How do you how do you cultivate and retain your lifeforce?

Christine Arylo 20:40
Well, let me just share what this is this. Okay, so this is exciting. I’m so excited, Karen. I’m excited. You’re excited. I’m excited. Because it’s like we’re talking to there’s these big, there’s like this. In order for us to shift this reality. We have to have systemic awareness, which is what we’ve just been talking about, like looking around and be like, Oh, my God, like, I didn’t even see all of this stuff. Like this is crazy, like, no wonder no wonder, right? But if we don’t go to the other, the other place of awareness that we need a self awareness. So think about this, and kind of breaking it down and by needs systemic awareness to see what I can’t couldn’t see. And then I need self awareness, because you can’t change what you can’t see. But once you can see it, you gain the power to actually change it. And so this is something that I came across in 2012. And I’m gonna share with you one of the top three practices if I can share that, Karen,

Karen Yankovich 21:30
please. I would love that.

Christine Arylo 21:32
That has kept me out of burnout. I still have passion burnout. So there’s a different kinds of burnout definitely have passion burnout, which is like you love what you do so much. And you’ve given you’ve given given given then you feel like oh my god, like am I just like I just like what about me, I’m a girl, I just want to go to the movies. You know, like, that’s the kind of burnout I get. I don’t get physical burnout anymore, cuz I catch myself first. So this is how this works. The imprint that most of us have been imprinted in is give, give, give, give, give until you get sick, or burn out and then you’ll be filled. And think of your lifeforce is like your energy, it’s like if you’re, if you’re a car, it’s your gas tank or your charge, if it’s your cell phone, it’s your charge. And you know, like if you’d let your buyers on your phone go down to zero at like 1% just like when you really need it, how it runs out. Yeah, and then it takes longer to actually charge it back up. And so what we want to do is we want to and I remember when I really got this, it was 2012 I just released my second book, and I went into go see my acupuncturist, Dr. Alex fain, and I’ve been seeing him for about a year long enough for him to catch up to my out and catch up to my burnout cycle. So your burnout cycle is kind of the the cycle that you’re in where you you give, give, give and you’re kind of doing okay, and then you start to get sick or emotionally and mentally you know, distressed and then eventually you burn out and then you come back up. So he got he would go see Dr. Phil about every three months because I would work in like push and you know, I’m pretty amazingly strong and like capable. So I would do it. And then about three months in I’d be like I sick, I know feel pain, put needles in me. And about a year after working with me, I went in and he didn’t put any needles in me Well, he actually took his hands and he put them on my belly. And he just said this one word and I’m gonna invite you all to put your hand one hand on your heart, and one hand on your belly with me. So your heart connects you to yourself emotionally and what you need to be to be fulfilled emotionally nourished and nurtured and your your hand on your belly that connects you to your energy level and your physical, like your physical body. And he just said these words and you can even close your eyes for a moment with me. And he just said Christine retain retain your lifeforce. And I was like, retain, retain. Not just give, give, give, give, give,

Karen Yankovich 23:53
right

Christine Arylo 23:54
give, give, give me a give. And then Oh, she you know crap. I’ve been pumping, putting myself right. So that word retain is a really important word for us to and not just word but like an imprint to put into us that we need to retain our lifeforce and many women we’re serving from our reserves, which is also you know, like rule number, you know, and self sustainability never served from your reserves. So let me give you a little practice, can I give you a practice that I’ve done every day? Well, that can help you do this. And what we want to do is you want to catch yourself before you start dipping into your reserves, which then creates the emotional, mental, and physical burnout. So put your hand up on one hand on your heart, one hand on your belly. And I want you to close your eyes. And if it feels weird, like why is this lady telling me to put a hand on my heart and on my belly, that’s the over culture speaking I used to word me out too. But it’s like this is your body. This is you. And if you’re not connected to yourself emotionally, and you’re not connected to what your body needs, you can’t actually receive it because you don’t even know what it is. And so just a minute Right now that your body with your eyes closed is like a chalice. So you don’t have like the big cup and it has a stem, and it has the base. And the rule is you never want to serve from your reserves you it once you start getting into the stem and the base, that’s when you’re starting to dip into your reserves. So here’s the practice called the life force, check in and receiving practice. So take a breath, and you got to slow it down because it’s not mental. So just take a breath and let yourself really descend into your body. And just imagine taking a sensor and sensing into the amount of lifeforce that you have in your body right now. So the inquiry is, what’s my lifeforce level right now, on a scale of zero to 100, with 100, meaningful, and zero being empty, and 50, being half, zero to 100. And really let your intuition guide you. This is not a magazine test, and you don’t get a grade. So don’t cheat and say 95, because I’ve never really met anyone who’s really at a 95 even though as Taipei’s like to say so. So really, just give yourself and let your intuition so this is my number. There’s no good numbers or bad numbers. It’s just really sensing in. So Karen, what’s your number?

Karen Yankovich 26:15
I’m coming in somewhere around 50.

Christine Arylo 26:17
Okay, and I’m at a I’m a 71. And so, next question, and then I’ll give you the scale. So the second question to your inner wisdom is, what do I need to receive today? What do I need to receive today? Do you really want to slow down and this is how your inner wisdom works. If you’ve been connecting with it every day, it’ll tell you something right away. If you haven’t just be like, I’m not hearing anything. I don’t know. Just ask what would I love to receive? So Karen, everyone has asked that what do I need to receive today? Karen, what comes up for you?

Karen Yankovich 26:56
I think this I think this right here is what I needed to receive today.

Christine Arylo 27:01
Hmm. And what what is it about this that you needed to receive?

Karen Yankovich 27:06
Just the reminders that, you know, I can talk the talk and say I want to be a mermaid not Superwoman. But I don’t walk the walk as well as I’d like to. So just a reminder that talking the talk isn’t enough.

Christine Arylo 27:20
Yeah. And and I want to hear you say that it’s it, it comes from a place of compassion, right. And empowerment. That is That was his this is the this is the power of being with women, when we’re together. Like, I’m always like, this is the best, why don’t we do this all the time, because it’s, it’s so fulfilling. And I’ll just say what I what I received was, and I did this this morning, I needed an infusion of joy. That’s what I need today. And so here’s how this works. If you are between a 75 and 100. And it’s this helps us get our giving and receiving in in harmony. Because if you give too much and you don’t receive, you basically become like a bank with no with no, you know, not not receiving enough, you’re just giving, giving, giving, giving. So if you’re 75 and above, and you don’t receive like, you’re going to be okay, you’re not going to go you’re not going to go into your reserves, but it’s always good to still receive what you need 50 and 75, you may need to make sure that you stay you get what you need, so that you can stay above that half line. If you’re between below 5050 or below, you need to actually work differently. Like that’s your body and your brain and your hearts. And hey, this is like you’re you’re you’re going into the danger zone. And so it’s full permission to actually say okay, today, I need to do things slower. I’m going to Well, I used to say to people, I’m going to work in my yoga pants, but we all work on our yoga pants now but no need to ask for more help I need to I need to reflow is a great little power super power tool that we use, instead of rescheduling or cancelling meetings, we just reflow them to a different day. And so really, when you’re in that place, it’s a permission slip. And I do this with my team. Usually like if we have a retreat or running or sometimes you know, just in our checking before we go into a meeting. My partner no and I do it every morning. And we do it every evening together so that we actually know where each other are at and what each other need. And then we support each other to actually make sure the other person gets that which happened yesterday because I really needed a walk in the special part of the island that I live on that I really needed to go just be with. And I could see the sun was going down on my bed and I totally screwed myself on the screw itself right out of it. I’m like no, I need this. And so it what it does is it helps give you that oomph to like not sacrifice yourself not screw yourself out of what you actually need. And then if you go into your day and you start to feel wobbly or cranky or resentful, or like today, I yelled at my dog. And it was like I was like what what is going on with me? You know and I’m like in this is this part of the heart of like I part of our practice needs to be well what is my heartbeat like what was going on in there that I you know, lost it on my dog because she crawled all over my papers and she was crawling which is annoying. You know, but it was like, wow, come from. And I’m like, I need to get outside, you know, I’ve been I’ve just been, I’m just I need to get outside is what is really the truth. So it’s like, this is the piece of life, these are all these little warning signals and these these self awareness pieces that then give you the power. And this is where our power comes to make small but significant shifts. And I share this with so many people, Karen and everybody this practice, and I always say I’ll share with you do not discount the simplicity for lack of significance. Because if you think about it, just logically, it’s like, oh, if I know where I’m at, then I’m less likely going to burn myself out. And if I don’t give myself what I need to receive, how can I expect that from anybody else. And this one little thing, it starts to build our trust muscle to that it’s okay that, you know, it’s like, if I need inspiration of joy that I’m going to go make sure that that you know, that happens. That’s where we use our achiever and our Wonder Woman for good, and to actually give us the things we need. So it starts to get you to trust, the feminine way of doing things.

Karen Yankovich 31:06
I could talk about this for two more hours. But we can’t do that. Because there’s just not I mean, we could, I suppose, but I feel like, I feel like we’ve done so much already. On top of all of the great things that are in your book, I wanted to say you guys should walk grab this book, also, because it’s, it’s presented in a way that’s easy to digest. You know, there’s lots of stops and things. It’s almost like a book, you do not a book you read, you know, and I love that you incorporated that into your book. And we’re gonna put links to all of that in the show notes. But I want to just touch on something that, and I’d like to just get your thoughts on this. Because as I’m thinking about the things that you’re saying, I think, how could all of this not, it’s impossible that all of this is not impacting our income. Right? Like when you’re talking about bankrupting yourself, because you you know, all of the over giving? Are we also doing that in our businesses and in our in our worlds and in our bank accounts? Right? And are we not? You know, how could it not be? How could there be that one place in our life that this isn’t happening? Right, when when it’s happening and all these other places? And when I think about it like that, it just, it’s a little bit mind boggling. What do you think?

Christine Arylo 32:17
Yeah, I’m so happy that you I’m just loving our conversation. And when we were at, we’re on opposite sides of the United States.

Karen Yankovich 32:27
Welcome, because we can’t fly, we can’t drive again.

Christine Arylo 32:28
But I’m so glad that you brought that up, because it in my research, and in my own life of, you know, following different entrepreneurial models, especially when I knew when I was in the corporate world, how unsustainable it was when I was working for a $15 billion company. And because earnings per share went down a penny, they decided we had to become a $20 billion company. And it wasn’t good enough just to be a good $15 billion company that employs 160,000 people and did good in the world. But we had to keep making more. So this system is jacked up, there’ll be an entrepreneur. And it was it was worse. I mean, in some levels. For me, when I worked in the corporate world, I had a paycheck, and I like figured out how to make my life work and all of that, but what you’re getting to is actually really important, because there is a direct link between or there’s a direct correlation between our life worse, our money, and the levels of support and sustainability that we actually feel they’re all linked together. Yeah. And we as women, we really, we have a we have an over giving problem, we like over give to our work, and we over give to our relationships, and we under receive all the time, in all kinds of ways. And and it’s just not sustainable. And we’re teaching our young girls, it’s worse for them. I mean, when I was doing my research, and some of the statistics are just horrendous, that, you know, eight year old girls, many of them coming home and asking their mothers for anti anxiety medicine at the age of eight, because they can’t handle the pressure. And I’m like, I didn’t even know what anxiety was, you know, at the age of eight, so it’s getting worse, not better. And, you know, what I found in my entrepreneurial life, and I’ve seen this with a lot of my friends who create either what I call the beast model, or the burden model, this happens for women that are also working in corporate because I work with our with women who are, you know, there’s, there’s an executive level there, you know, grossing well over 250 $300,000, but they’ve designed a life. That is that is, if they stopped that they can’t stop, they have to keep making more, because now they had this big mortgage, and then they have the three kids and three, because if they go to private school, and it’s like, it just is more than they get the second house and it’s like, you would think, Oh, well if someone’s making $300,000 a year, like there’s this magic number, and unlike some ways, they’re more trapped than the entrepreneur who’s making $60,000 because she can, you know, she can she can just shift things up. And so it’s it’s not how much money we’re making. That’s part of the the challenge and so what I see the beast model is we’re Like you just keep making more and more top line revenue, or you keep making making more of a salary, but you are, you’re not having enough. And whether they you don’t have right enough income or you don’t have enough space, or you don’t have enough time, or you don’t have enough, you know, like I have a lot of Doctor clients who like want to be married. And all they do is work because they work like 80 to 100 hours a week based on the system, there’s no space, there’s no space for for Mr. Man in there. You know, there’s no space. And then some other entrepreneurs, we run the burden model where we do it all, because we don’t feel like we can afford the support. And that happens. Also, I see that even with women who have just whatever jobs, even my doctor clients, like they’re like they’re doing everything. And so there is another model. And we’re in the process of creating it. That’s actually what I think we’re here to do to actually like, say like, okay, these models have gotten this far enough as they can, and there’s some good things in them. But at the end of the day, they’re not sustainable. And we’re all burned out. So we have to find a different way. And that is where our power of CO creation comes in and, and finding this different way. And I’ll just share one quick part. And then I know Ken, you want to wrap this up, whatever you want to say about this in the wrap up two years before the pandemic 2020 I am very connected to my intuition. I have a daily morning practice, I have a daily evening practice, I take power pauses quarterly, I have a very strong connection to my inner wisdom. And I trust it pretty implicitly and I have a counsel I call my counsel have clarity around me who people who have different kinds of intuition to help me. You know, I know my downfalls as an entrepreneur, I’m always ahead of myself. So I have a lot of good people around me that, you know, can help me help me with those things. And two years before the pandemic, I got a I was watching my business and I kept making more and more money, my business had top line grow, grow, grow, grow, grow, but I wasn’t keeping anymore. And what was happening is like I would just have to keep working more, it’s like to pay everybody else. And I’m like, This is crazy. And that was the second time I did that business model. You know, it’s like almost a half a million dollar business. And no matter how much I work, there’s just never quite enough to retain. There’s just enough to have sufficiency. And I’m like, This is crazy. And so I you know, I probably have a superwoman star but I took a it’s called a no more stand. And I basically remember standing upstairs in my elevation station, I said no more not doing this anymore. And so if you take that stand for yourself, and I gotta figure I go, we gotta we gotta find a different way. And so my guidance later wisdom guide me if you need to start paring down. I call her she because I thought relationship, well, you got to start paring down. Because it’s like, in so I did, I started paring down, I started getting I started getting leaner. When everyone around me was getting bigger, and all my friends are hitting seven figures, and they’re doing all this stuff, but they’re like these machines, and they would call me on the phone you all and they’d be like, if I keep working this way, I’m gonna die. I can’t keep this up. I can’t keep this up. And I’m like, Yeah, I don’t want that I’ve got to keep paring down. And so when the pandemic hit, I was able to because I was so lean, and I was also writing my book. And I and I also promised myself this time, the fourth book, I wouldn’t, I wouldn’t create a reality in which I was working, working, working, working, and then putting writing on top of it, and then making myself sick and crazy. And so I was able to weather the storm, you know, enough, I was able to sustain myself. And I just feel like that was the guidance for me. And I’m still, I can’t give you a seven step process to like, this is how this all works. And I will you will be a millionaire tomorrow. Like, that’s a bunch of crap to tell you how to do that. But I do know how to help you. And I think this is what you’re saying to Karen and all of us like, okay, there is a different way. And I think that’s inside of us. Like we inherently know how to do this. We just have to all be okay with saying you know what, this isn’t working anymore? And let’s find a different way and then do it together in sisterhood and not in competition.

Karen Yankovich 38:56
Oh my gosh, so powerful. And you know, I think it’s I don’t know why women seem to have a harder time. I don’t know, I don’t want to even say comprehend progress, because it isn’t comprehend or grasp. It’s like it doesn’t even get it’s not even seen the difference between money coming in and money coming into your bank account. You know, I actually, you know, I actually have a commitment for this year to say I want to help women hit a $250,000 top line income goal this year, because I don’t I’m not a business coach, I can help you get there. But I want you to have at least 100,000 in your personal bank account. And if you go if your goal is I want a six figure there’s no man talking about having a six figure business. They know that having a six figure business is not a lot of money in your personal bank account. You know, but women don’t seem to see that and and we just work harder and harder and harder, and are paying more and more people to help us get to the six figures that isn’t doing anything to serve us. You know, so

Christine Arylo 39:48
because we think it’s sick. It’s the carrot right and then a seven figure carrot and then you’re running the beast model and you’re like, Oh my God. Now I’ve designed my life around this and how do I even start And you can, you know, and and I think this is the part that’s really important. And I would just kind of leave everyone with

Karen Yankovich 40:07
I would love that. Yeah. And also i’d love… Yes. Let’s start with this.

Christine Arylo 40:11
Okay, I’ll leave you with 333 inquiries, okay? One is look around your life and ask yourself the question what is no longer sustainable and look around first at your work. So look at your work or your business or your career, look at your relationships, and then look at your life design, look at all of those three areas. And then do the same thing with what is actually sustaining me. Like, what is the staining me what’s adding what’s helping me retain, and you want to keep those you want to grow those and the things that are not, you want to start shifting those. And just knowing that it’s like that shift, it takes time. But the first step is awareness. And it’s that no more like no more like me saying upstairs, I will not it will not do this. And you know what’s really interesting, when I made that choice, the last two years, the fourth dimension is to all my top line significantly decreased. But I received the same amount of net income. Awesome. And so those two parts, but you got to get clear on that. And then the third part that I would really just encourage everyone is to take a breath and just get really real with yourself about what it is that your heart desires. And what your unique soul design is, when I’m one of the I’ve, I’ve taught self love for a long time. It’s one of the bigger highs, I had podcasts for a different time about like how, just like how self esteem and self love aren’t the same things. And the foundational vow of self love is I promise to never settle for less than my heart and soul desire, which means you have to know what your heart desires, and you have to understand your soul design. And so like for me, my one of my heart desires is to live in beauty. Like I’m that’s why I live on an island off the coast of Seattle, and my soul design and I have a pretty I have a pretty I had a pretty mean in there comparison queen who I compare it to everyone from Oprah to Jesus to all my best my good friends who are who are really, you know, financially successful. And so, you know, I’m looking at like, as I was saying, as I was getting this guidance to pare down, and I’m watching my friends who are like growing, growing, growing the top line and they’re growing, you know, buying more houses and buying like there’s just there’s amassing all of this I’m like getting you know, leaner and leaner and leaner and leaner. But that’s my design. You know, I I’m really clear for myself that what it takes to succeed in certain games, I’m not built for it, I’m not built to try to get a gazillion Facebook followers and Instagram followers, like, that’s not why I’m here, like I’m here to, to really be an advisor to the women that are here to make systemic change happened and to help we know wake up, I was, quote, help wake women up to the feminine wisdom within them. And so if I, if I can be real with myself about like, what is the design I really want and what really matters to me, my mantra is Do last received more achieve a greater impact. That is the equation that I’m working in. And so I have to you know, I can’t compare myself to my other friends who have a different design, and I have to look at them. And like that’s their design, like, even though they occasionally call me and say, I think I might die working this way. But they’ve actually said to me, No, we’ve learned some things from you, Christine. So it’s like that’s part of my that’s my role is do is to find these sustainable ways. So I think that’s the piece of like, get really clear about who you are and how you work best. And don’t compare yourself to other people in that way or find other people that seem to resonate with the kind of, of how you’re built and when you can work in harmony with who you are. And you get really clear about what really matters most to your heart that’s where the the portals open to actually design a life a business a career that’s holistic and can support you to to be with the yogi say, find a place of long term meant within the self.

Karen Yankovich 43:59
Very cool. In addition to your book, which you’re absolutely gonna link below what is how else can people find you follow you what else how can people get started with this work?

Christine Arylo 44:11
Well definitely come over to feminine power time the podcast there’s I’ve been doing it for five years. So there’s a deep level of library in there that has just lots of good stuff. So that’s a good way to that’s a good way to connect with me and then come over to my go over to overwhelmed and over it that will take you to my website and there’s you know where I there’s lots of stuff going on. So just come and connect in that way and and you’ll want to be invited. I’m excited that the guest of the book finally came out. So we’ll be doing some workshops and classes and other stuff like that with it just I really believe that women together going through transformation is where our power is and to lead the new way. So if you’re interested in… that come on over,

Karen Yankovich 44:54
I completely agree, Christine, this was so good. I think this was so helpful to me and if it helped To me, I hope it’s gonna be helpful to anybody else that’s listening. So thank you so much for being here and for doing such good work in the world.

Christine Arylo 45:07
Karen, thank you. Thanks for creating this and to everyone else out there. Just deep exhale as we go into this year and beyond. Just keep this in mind. This is a mother mantra, pace, don’t race.

Karen Yankovich 45:18
All right, on that note, race. All right, thank you so much, Christine. So am I right? Was I right? Isn’t Christine amazing? No, you want to come hang out with us when I figure out how to hang out with her. Right. She’s amazing. And I think these are lessons that we all really need to embrace how to how to live a life with less overwhelm. You know, we can deliberately choose to do that. And honestly, that is what I teach in my she’s linked up accelerator program, how to land high ticket clients, and how to get the opportunities that you’ve been passed over for four years, with only a few hours a week of input not spamming, everybody not scrambling to do a million things, just simple relationship marketing a couple little powerful steps on a consistent basis makes a big change. So if you want to know a little bit about what those shifts are, that you can start to take to have a little bit less overwhelming your business to take it to a new level, then you have to check out our masterclass it is on demand and it was recently updated. So it is you know, I refer to LinkedIn as my money tree and it can absolutely be the same for you go to water that money tree.com to check out our updated masterclass. And, you know, it’s on me, you know, it’s my gift to you. We don’t sell anything on it. You know, it’s just it’s just all content and all it’s really designed to help you start to think a little differently about how you can use LinkedIn to really shift everything in your business. So check it out where that money tree calm, and I will be back here again next week with another episode of the good girls get rich podcast.

160 – Be Who You’re Meant to Be

by | May 24, 2021 | Podcasts

This week’s episode of Good Girls Get Rich is brought to you by Uplevel Media CEO and LinkedIn expert, Karen Yankovich. In this episode, Karen talks about taking the next step in your LinkedIn spiritual journey.

It’s possible to achieve your goals, but sometimes it feels impossible. When you shift your mindset and start acting like the person you want to be, things change!

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In Episode 158, we talked about making LinkedIn part of your spiritual journey. Making LinkedIn part of that journey will help you achieve your goals, but what is the next step? You need to be who you’re meant to be!

Be an Influencer

You’re an influencer regardless of what you think. The fact that people do business with you means that people find you worth listening to. Start acting like the influencer you are, and use your LinkedIn profile to shine a light on what you do! 

Act Like the Person with a 7-Figure Business

Start living like the person with a 7-figure business. Would a successful businesswoman be sleeping on cheap bedsheets or on expensive ones? Treat yourself to the life you deserve!

Be in Alignment with the Person You Want to Be

Who is it that you want to be? Be that person! Make sure everything that you do is in alignment with who you are and who you want to be.

Starting living like the person you’re meant to be, and soon you’ll reap the benefits!

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  • Be in alignment with the person you want to be (10:24)

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Karen Yankovich 0:00
You’re listening to the good girls get rich podcast, Episode 160.

Intro 0:05
Welcome to the good girls get rich podcast with your host, Karen Yankovich. This is where we embrace how good you are girl, stop being the best kept secret in town, learn how to use simple LinkedIn and social media strategies and make the big bucks.

Karen Yankovich 0:23
Hello, I’m your host, Karen Yankovich. And this is Episode 160 of the good girls get rich podcast and this podcast is brought to you by our she’s linked up family and community where we teach women simple relationship and heart based LinkedIn marketing that gets you on the phone consistently with people that can change your business, your life and your bank account for ever. We want you to be surrounded by people that support you and lift you up and invest in you. And just are the people that just know how amazing you are. We teach digital marketing with the human touch human to human marketing, you’re actually going to be getting on the phone with people when you’re in our world, right actually talking to people. So if you’ve listened to the show before or if you love what you hear today, we love hearing from you. So make sure that you’re subscribing to the show. so you don’t miss an episode and take a screenshot right now stop what you’re doing, take a screenshot and share it on social media, share it in your stories, or you doing LinkedIn stories, share it on your LinkedIn stories, tag me at Karen Yankovich, across all social media, and then I will share that with my audience. And that’s how we all get more visibility. Right. That’s how we lift each other up. So you can check out all the links for everything we’re talking about in this episode at Karen Yankovich comm slash 160. That’s where you’ll see all the links for anything we talked about here. And you know, different places where you can listen to this show and subscribe, so you do not miss an episode. So a couple of weeks ago, Episode 158, we talked about what if LinkedIn was part of your spiritual journey. And I dove in a little bit to how much self work has to happen to really show up on LinkedIn and shining a light on all of the amazing things you do. Right? It’s not just the strategy. In fact, the people that are in my shoes linked up accelerator programs, and you know, the entire she’s linked up family of programs, the ones having the biggest wins are the ones that are embracing the mindset work, the need, or the understanding or the ability to start to show up as this person that is already having $100,000 month seven figure years, right? And I know that it’s a little bit of like, you know, okay, Karen, so like, you just want me to just start behaving like I’m a seven figure business, like just be that way, and I have to do things? And the answer is yes, yes. Yes. Yes. Being on a spiritual journey doesn’t mean sitting on a mountaintop meditating for the rest of your life. Right? The word journey in and of itself indicates that there’s a path right, that there’s things that happen, things that you’re going to do right along this journey. So it’s tricky, right? It’s tricky. You want to feel the way you want to be feeling, right. And I want you to feel like the person you aspire to be while you’re watching other people getting the opportunities you want. Right? So it is a tricky thing. But the only way to start doing it is to start doing it right. Can you relate to this? Can you relate to like, I know, I hear all the time, you know, I listen, I listen to Hey, I have a subscription to Hay House. I, you know, whatever that looks like, right? I know that my mindset is a big part of this, right? But how do I just sit back and make let things happen? Like how do what do I have to do? Right? And as you’re sitting there trying to figure that out, you’re missing out on opportunities, right? So that ends today that ends right now. You know, a couple of Gosh, a while ago, and if I I’ll find the episode number and we’ll link it here. There was an episode that was called, I want to be a mermaid and I talked a little bit about a story where I was doing some work with some friends and some people just business work, right? And they were like, we’re wonder we’re like Wonder Woman, and I have this Wonder Woman mug and I have Wonder Woman bracelets and I picked up that mug one day. And I was like, it’s exhausting to be wonder moment. I don’t want to be Wonder Woman. And I looked at the mug next to it. And it said, I want to be a mermaid and I was like, I want to be a mermaid. I want to swim through life. I want to still achieve what I want to do. But I don’t want to have to fight for everything I get. But you know what, here’s the deal. You know, I want to be my own kind of mermaid. I actually found a sign one day that says Be your own kind of mermaid and that is me. That is me to the tee. Right? So there are ways to be with associated things to do. And that’s what I’m going to be talking about today how to be your own kind of mermaid right? How to set an intention for yourself and start to be the person that you want to be, but the associated things that you need to do in order to do that, right. So this is this episode. is a you know, a glorious shining of my right brain left brain showing up here for you, right? So let’s dive in. So the first thing I want you to do is start to be an influencer. Feel it act as if you’ve heard me say, you might feel like there’s people further along on this journey than you are and you don’t feel like you’re worthy, you’re worthy of it being an influencer, but to somebody that isn’t as far along on their journey, you are an influencer. You are so you have to start showing up and talking to them. Like you are an influencer, right? Like, even just doing this podcast, when I started, this is Episode 160. When I did Episode 101, I had to kind of like, show up like the person that felt worthy of you guys listening to me, right? And and the way for me to do that was to know that even though there are people that might be further along on their journey than me, anybody that’s listening to this, that gets a little bit of help. I am an influencer too. You understand that? So that’s what I mean about being an influencer. You have to feel it, you have to act as if you are an influencer. Because you are an influencer. I don’t want you to be doing things that are not true. Right? I know that there are people that listen to you. That’s why that’s why you’re in business, right? People, people invest in you to support their journey to support whatever they’re doing. So you are influential to them. So you’ve got to start to see yourself that way. Okay, so you have to start to be that person. But at the same time, you need to, you have to show up expressing the highest form of who you are. So what you have to do is create a LinkedIn profile that talks about you that way, right? So you can sit and think, you know, forever and ever that I am this person. And that is what I normally tell you that works that works every single time. But at the same time, let’s also take action. Let’s also make sure that we have a LinkedIn profile that that shines a light on everything that we do, right, that shines a light on your genius. Don’t think people are gonna look at your profile and think you’re better than you say you are. You have to tell them how great you are. You don’t have to say I am an influencer, right? You have to do that. But you want to talk as if you’re an influencer, you want to show up really supporting the people that that you are an influencer for. Right. So we have a Facebook group, and we’ll link to it here in the show notes. It’s a LinkedIn for women community calm, we are always reviewing profiles in that Facebook group. So if you’re not sure, you just want some quick help with your LinkedIn profile, join that group. It’s LinkedIn for women community.com get you to that Facebook group. Okay, we’re always doing LinkedIn profile reviews, there’s help for you on that time to be an influencer. But what you have to do is the work on your LinkedIn profile. And then the next thing I want you to do is you know, being an influencer is about showing up for your followers, right for your people that you know that you’re in your business. Now, I want you to be the person in your life with the seven figure business, okay, with the six figure months. So do start to be consistent, right? Be consistent as an influencer would be in your business with your podcast or your blog, or your co palindromes, your live streams, right? Be consistent, so that you’re doing that, but also start to elevate the things around you, you know, what would a six figure a month business owner be doing with her life start with the little things, one of the first things that I did for myself, when you know when I mean, listen, I’ve always been running a business. But I’ve also been a single mom and I have a lot of other people to invest in once I had a little bit more money to invest in myself, one of the first things I did was invested in great sheets. I know that sounds crazy, but I love my bed. Okay, and I I’m going to put you a link here to the My favorite sheet, they’re called bed threads. They’re these linen sheets, they’re outrageously expensive, but I am telling you, they’re the best thing I’ve ever bought, they last forever, every time you wash them, you can’t wait to get into bed because they get a little tiny bit softer every time. Right. And I feel like when I wake up in the morning, and if sometimes when you wake up and you’re a little bit stressed, or you go to bed at night, and you’re just a little bit like, you know, something didn’t happen the way you want it to happen, right? Or, or maybe you know, maybe this you wanted to be able to pay this and you couldn’t or you’ve watched one more person get an opportunity that you didn’t get right. But then when you go to bed and you lay in those sheets, you can’t not feel luxurious, you can’t not feel like somebody who is, is living a privileged life. Right. And when I say they’re outrageously expensive, they’re not $10,000 or a couple $100. Right. So it’s definitely doable for most people. But when you That’s what I mean about starting to be this person. So you can start to be this person and walk around and act like it but you can also start doing things that a seven figure business owner would do. They would be blogging every single week, or put their podcast out every single week or doing their clubhouse rooms consistently, or livestreams consistently. And then they would also be living a life that makes them feel really well supported, right? There’s nothing better than sleep for your brain. Right. So great sheets are a great way to do that. Maybe there’s other things you want in your life to feel like a seven figure business owner. Maybe it’s a car that you want go test, drive it, go test drive that car, don’t just don’t just, you know, look at it online kid in it drive it right? Is there a house, you want to go look at go look at open houses, right? Start to be that person. Because when you surround yourself with that energy, telling you, everything changes for you. And then the last thing I want you to do is be in alignment with the person that you are and the person you want to be. Right. So so being an influencer, you know, is something you want to show up as being a seven figure business owner starting to be that person and behave, the way that person behaves, is another thing. But now I want to make sure that you’re still in alignment with the person you want to be. Because you are not going to fundamentally change when your business hit seven figures, right, you are not going to fundamentally change Be your own kind of mermaid. It’s cool, right? You don’t have to, you know, I really love clubhouse, but I am inconsistent on it at best. And you know what, that’s the way that’s the kind of mermaid I want to be, if I’m going to pick a place to hang my hat and be consistent, it’s going to be with this podcast. And let me tell you, there’s been times I’ve gone off the off the rails with that a little bit. But we are committed now to being consistent with it. Because to me, that’s what I wanted. I don’t have to do what all the cool kids are doing. I don’t have to do what everybody else is doing. I doesn’t mean I’m not going to be on clubhouse, I’m not going to use these things. But I’m going to be in alignment with the person I want to be right because part of my business, you know, commitment is there to be ease in my life and expansion in my life. And I feel like to me, you know, doing this podcast and being consistent with this allows me for that with being in quitting on clubhouse consistently sucks up a lot more of my time, right. And I went into this business to not be working 75 hours a week, right. So there are plenty weeks that I do. But that’s what I do see what I mean by being in alignment. You can be a seven figure business owner and still be in alignment with the person that you want to be. And then do me a favor and shout that from the rooftops. Okay, tell everybody who you are and why you’re different than everyone else. And what kind of mermaid you are, right and tell everybody how amazing you are. So once you’ve got that alignment, you’re really crystal clear on the person that you are and how it aligns with the person that you want to be, start to shout it from the rooftops back to the being an influencer showing that up on your LinkedIn profile. But now doing it in all these other places, right, if you show up on Facebook, or Instagram or Twitter or wherever you’re jumping into clubhouse rooms, right, be in alignment with the person you want to be, don’t feel like anybody’s going to make you be somebody you’re not. And just hang your hat on it. Because it’s cool to be the person that you want to be. That’s how it can be that way. And that’s how you take this spiritual journey, right the ways that you want to be, but also do a few things. Not a lot, right? But make sure that there’s some action in this activity that is making moving the ball forward so that you can start to achieve the things you want to achieve. So be an influencer right act as if but do update your LinkedIn profile, start to be the person with the seven figure business the six figure months and then do elevate the things around you. Right do elevate the way you show up on you know in your business elevate the way you the things you have in your life, right? Go buy those bed thread sheets, and then come back to me and tell me how much you love them right and then be in alignment with the person that you want to be right make sure that there’s an alignment there be your own kind of mermaid and then do tell the world what makes you different and why you are the person with this you know with your own version of the way you do things that is the best person to support the people that you support. It can be done these little mindset changes that we talked about here today. Honestly they change they change everything they change everything in your business and you know I sometimes you have to experience it to believe it you know I often and I’m stopping this Christine powers if you’re listening to this Christine powers is my spiritual coach. You guys should check her out. I’m gonna have her on the podcast soon. She’s sworn me to stop saying these things. But I used to say that when the universe needed to get its through to me, it used to hit me over the head with a bat, right? But now I don’t now that’s not true anymore. Now I let it come to me. But I can give you some examples like there was a few years ago that I did a launch of something. And it was a two week launch and it completely bombed it completely bombed. We made three sales. Okay, three sales in two weeks. Two of those three sales came when I was sitting on the beach in front of the condo that I would like to buy the beachfront condo that I want to own a condo in in that building. I was sitting on the beach in front of that building, and a two week period two of those three sales came in. So to me, that’s the universe telling me being in alignment with the person you want to be because we’re going to deliver when you start acting like that person, right? So those kinds of things are you know, those are signs that tell me that this is the right path. over and over and over, but you have to be open to seeing these signs. And when you’re open to seeing these signs, you’ll start to see how important the being is right? As long as you’re following it up with the doing, I hope that you take this very seriously. And you start to implement some of the things we talked about here today. Because this is where the magic happens. And it is magic. It absolutely is magic, when the women in our program start to see this magic. It is so cool. It is so cool. We have them just simply changing their LinkedIn profiles. And then other people in their life that have known them for years, are reaching out to them and saying, I never knew you did this. I want you to interview for you for this position. Right? We have other people that are leaving jobs that they’ve been out for a lot of years, because they’re showing up as such an influencer, that their business has taken off, right. But it’s it starts with your mindset, it starts in your head. So you may have heard me refer to LinkedIn as my money tree, it can absolutely be the same for you. If you’re willing to shift the energy around it from resume to brand and you’re willing to kind of do the mindset work and show up on this spiritual LinkedIn journey with me intentionally showing up that way and intentionally connecting and getting on the phone with people that can lead to more money in the bank. It is as simple as that. Okay, so we are of course always have more resources to help you. If you have not yet checked out our masterclass or even if you have was recently updated, go to water that money tree comm we have an on demand masterclass there that really talks about more of the shifts that you need to make and it really takes you through a very simple path. To start making the shifts you need to make sure that you can start showing up like the person that I know you are inside of you. So a rising tide lifts all boats, right I do this podcast to support you. I’ve got this free masterclass to support you to get started, which is really that your first step to some LinkedIn success. Let’s lift each other up, right, help me help you share this podcast, take a quick screenshot of this episode on your phone, share it on social media, make sure that you tag me so that I can share it with my audience and then we’re lifting each other out right we’re making we’re helping rise each other’s boats. Right. So giving us both some more visibility. And then let’s go out and kick some 2021 booty together. I will see you back here again next week with another episode of the good girls get rich podcast.